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  • c_c
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    thanks everybody. heading on the raod soon to take care of things; be back when I am able. meanwhile, please know how much this space and your support means to me. "so it’s broken hearts and dusty roads and somewhere there my soul explodes with every piece of every day and everything I meant to say and where I’ll be, no one can tell I’m fishing in a wishing well and i’m doing the very best I can I just hope you’ll understand now I seen all the lights that shine countless colors in my mind they climb and swim and spark and glow and ask me what it is I know I know a thing called love a thing called thunder in the sky above now I know a thing called pain now I know a thing called rain" --- Jackie Greene **** we was there together for this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObCXBkB_o1A "Will you have some tea At the theatre with me? We did it all - didn't we? Jumped every wall - instinctively Unravelled codes - ingeniously Wired all the roads - so seamlessly We made it work But one of us failed That makes it so sad A great dream derailed One of us gone One of us mad One of us, me All of us sad All of us sad - lean on my shoulder now The story is done - it's getting colder now A thousand songs - still smoulder now We played them as one - we're older now All of us sad All of us free Before we walk from the stage Two of us Will you have some tea? Will you have some tea At the theatre with me?" ---Pete Townshend *** thank you all. (((DNC))) LOVE&PEACE.
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    Amen, CC
    I just can't imagine something like this. Our thoughts are with you.
  • BobbaLee
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    I can't even imagine the sadness you feel. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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    I am so sorry for your loss of your dear wife. Peace and love to you and her family. Take care of yourself. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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    Oh, dear....CC....
    you've said it all.....my condolences........XOXOXO
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    I am trying hard to think of words; just know, please know everyone here; your words mean a lot to me. thank you all. * you all knew her, you all danced with her and hugged her at the shows... she was never more impressed with spontaneous human warmth than at shows or meeting strangers on the road who shared a love of what we love. this community, online though it may be, is part of a larger tribe; we may not see each other's faces as we dance, eyes on the stage, we may not see each other's faces, eyes on the screen as our fingers dance on the keys; we may not 'hear' the words, the music drowns the voices out... but the warmth is here as it always was there; as it always will be there. Hunter's (thank's again rh, can't thank you enough) words were read, translated and read in Japanese, Thai, Lao, Khemer, Korean, Chinese, Tagalong, German, French, and also read in English. there could have been more languages, she had a wide circle of international friends, but I thought 10 readings had a certain symetry. Black Muddy River (maybe her favourite song) was played for her, and So Many Roads for us; and some other music she loved... people spoke, and heard some stories I never heard before... there could not be anythhing happy in this, but there was some dignity and people stronger than myself let me lean on them. parents should not have to attend the funeral of their child, an older brother and an older sister, and a younger sister should not have to go through this. her nieces and nephews... she and I never had kids of our own. she and I used to 'joke' and she always said she wanted to die first; I knew her love in that comment, but i still had to insist I wanted to die first for the same reasons I reckon. like everything else, she had her way. ( -; we also used to 'joke' based on some Woody Allen line, "I was the boss, and she was the decision maker" it was, I heard from the doctor, much too late to really do anything by the time she learned of the cancer. so yes, she was protecting us all with that decision to keep things to herself these past couple of months. her family is the only real family I ever had; completely loving people, completely caring people; unlike any I have ever known. her father was left an orphan by WWII American bombs; her mother, when she was a child, was literally shot at by a machine gun, dive bombing American plane as she was walking home with a friend through some rice fields after working at the war machine factory that so many children were conscripted into in that history -- yet, they accepted me, an ugly American, into their heart. our little house is about 3 hours away from their home; so we saw each other often enough, (or not often enough in retrospeck) they invited me to come live with them if I want to in the future; part of her ashes will remain in the family home, in the Buddhist tradition, some put into the family grave nearby. sad irony that her mother is a cancer survivor, and facing other health issues recently, all Nao wanted to do was help her family. there are things i must do -- will hit the road to scatter some of her ashes in some of the places she loved most. have to see and tell people she loved and who loved her, and have to walk up the trails of villages alone... some news can not be shared by phone or email. all she ever wanted and did was to help other people, less fortunate than herself; and that is her legacy. I'll do my best to continue her work; try to live her life, best I can. ** thank you all for all of your kindness. it means more than I can ever hope to express. prayers and positive vibes for her family is all I ask; parents should never have to attend the funeral of their child. (((DNC))) thank you. ** there are some roads we rode on together to re-visit, and other new roads I must face-- the ride can never be balanced without her on the back of the bike. love and peace.
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    I am so sorry to hear this. Safe journey to your beloved old lady, and I join in the mass outpouring of love to you.
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    I know the place , CC Joe, from tears to salty oceans . But remember, some day , that even oceans have shores and are confined to a planet where even a lost coconut can find an island . May we all go safely on cosmic trails .
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    This one comforts me alot, so will share with you. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pudOFG5X6uA Hold on! Take comfort in your friends. ********************************** Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge. Mark Twain
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    I'm so sorry and finding myself without many words. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. We'll all be sending you as much love as we possibly can.
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just know that your feelings are totally human and normal: and expressing what you think is very important when dealing with grief and shock, and all of the other things that you must be going through. Healing vibes to you and yours, and am wishing you strength. Don't be shy to post, whenever you feel the need. ********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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Best wishes and healing vibes to you!
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healing vibes your way dave, sorry for your loss, try not to dwell on what was, but know that your dad is not suffering now and we care about you and yours.
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You're in our thoughts.
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just saying hi, keeping you in our thoughts
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Vibes coming your way from my family to yours...and a big hug too.
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Pedal steel extradinare. His playing on Neil Young's Heart of Gold and Old Man along with countless other tune was an essetial part of our aural landscape. He will be missed. Condolences to his family, Neil (called him 'brother Ben") and all whom he touched. http://networkedblogs.com/6eN1H The Truth is realized in an instant, the act is practiced step by step.
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What a bummer - I was just this minute listening to him playing on Neil's Archive vol.1 Harvest outtakes, remembering how lucky we were to hear him in Toronto in 2008 with Neil's band. Ben was Neil's musical partner on the journey and added such tasteful sounds, whether on pedal steel or rhythm guitar. And he could really rock out, too! Prayers to his family and to Neil and their extended musical family through their grief. He will be remembered...
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Happy Birthday Jerry, love you more than words can tell, you were like the big brother/father figure that I never had. Without you in my life, I wouldn't be here. Thank you for all that you did for me and other travelers. You are missed and will be missed for years to come. I personally celebrate this date, and still shed a tear on the 9th. Love always, your little brother, Sam
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is that we should celebrate Jerry today, be glad we had his music- and mourn him on the 9th.********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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Well said, Lilly!
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apparently Richie Hayward has succumbed to cancer. Both he and Lowell George gone from Little Feat. What's next?...........don't answer that
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that is so sad. One of the best drummers I ever saw in one of the finest bands I ever saw. RIP Richie.
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On Saturday night 1:15 EST one of my high school friends and classmates lost a long-term battle with breast cancer. I always never forget her beautiful smile, and her calm demeanor-always a kind word for everyone. Beth was the one we all went to with our problems, and she was so gentle and beloved by all. She was in all of the Honors classes, and really did something with her life, to benefit each and every one of us. (see link below) http://getinvolved.pogo.org/site/PageNavigator/ATributetoBethDaley Peace and love to your little girls, Beth, and strength to all who knew you. It's a major loss for all of us!! ********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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Today is the 20th anniversary of Stevie Ray Vaughan's tragic death at Alpine Valley. Was at this show and remember as if it were yesterday. RIP SRV-listening to your awesome version of Little Wing in your memory today!! ********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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I freaked when I read your note about Beth. We have been both mourning the same person. I met her through her husband Steve, he has been a major forest activist for years. I stayed at their place in D.C. for a week. Once again you and I are connected in ways. So sad, an eight year struggle with cancer and two young daughters. Steve has a collection of many Grateful Dead shows and Yes shows. I need to take a few breaths. Had another friend die of cancer last Wednesday. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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I am truly stunned!! You knew her too-what a link between us!! Bet you she'd be grinning her gorgeous smile if she knew. Hug Hal, and strength to you. Been thinking alot since Beth died, about how life is so short, and we have to make the most of our opportunities, and not wallow in b.s. and... You choked me up again, Hal! But feel in a weird way better knowing that you knew her too! ********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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In loving memory of my favorite unkle, who passed away yesterday at 10:00 am. I will always remember you as the nice guy who always had something funny to say. Condolences to your family in this time of sorrow. Love always Like a steam locomotive, rolling down the tracks....
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9/7/1916-10/8/10.......94 years old....lucky enough to live on her own, sharp as a tack, drove her car to the hairdresser on Thurs the 7th, as she was coming over to visit that weekend, but apparently had other plans.....wham bam lights out=quick & fast, she did it right......Geeez-what a long, run......still always missed no matter what or who......
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love and peace to you gc.
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condolences and best wishes for you and your mom, GC. At least she enjoyed the ride, and she'll be with you as long as you remember her.Peace. Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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....you are in my thoughts and prayers...
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thanks 4 your thoughts......:)))
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You told us alot about your wild still-driving Mama; so I know she must have been important to you. ((HUGS)) and peace and love to both of you********************************** By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity -- another man's I mean. Mark Twain
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so sorry, GC. Your mom sounds like the greatest.
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i am sending out a big hug to your family..
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I was sad to hear about your mum, but glad that she had such a good innings and gave us you!.
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oh, dear, dear Gypsy CG,I am so, so sorry to just learn of the passing of your Mother. Please know she will be with you forever, guiding you, protecting you, and holding your hand wherever you are each and every day. love&peace. cc
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thinking really cool thoughts of you and your mom lots of light, Andy
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For all your comments SO since there's no more chat room-here's more MOM stories. 4 her 94th bd we (including her 2 great-grandkids) all converged & "partied". 1 day going to the pool, my granddaughter (age 4) says to her "OH, GGB (her nickname) you look beautiful" Mom didn't hear her, stumbled on her foot on the stair & said "OH, damn it!" My grandson, age 6, & I were in histerics & kept repeating it. After a few minutes I told my granddaughter-GGB didn't hear you, tell her again, upon she repeated it & mom said "OH, thank you"Lately my grandson told my son "GGB cursed alot, didn't she?" His reply was- "When you're 94, you can, too." Just 4 the record, mom didn't swear when we were young. Must've been an age thing. Maybe I'll post the pix of her when we took her to Cal Expo mid '80's
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I am certainly thinking of your dear Mom. My heart goes out to you and all of your family.
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Rene had China for 19 years. Such a long time to have a close companion.......rest in peace China!!!
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to hear of China's passing.
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Murdered 30 years ago today. A couple of days before, I'd celebrated both my 5th wedding anniversary and the birth of my first niece, and we were on the clock waiting on the birth of our best friends' first child. The word of Lennon's death and J's birth reached us at about the same time early the morning of Dec 9....a day of VERY mixed emotions for me. RIP John, Happy 30th Birthday, J.
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earland lilly 2/10/39 to 12 /04 /2010. a very blessed and kind man. she is in chi now with freinds.
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Friday, December 10th, 2010 was 21years since our close family friend Patrick Shanahan was killed at the Dead concert in Inglewood CA while waiting for his ride with the keys.. You are always in our thoughts and prayers.. He is buried in our home town and was able to visit him and leave a rose to remind him he will never be forgotten! RIP Patrick.. We love and miss you terribly!
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Oh Lilly,I am so sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences. love&peace, cc
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Walkin' Jim Stoltz June 1953 - September 2010 Walkin' Jim Stoltz set off on his last forever wild hike on Friday, September 3, 2010. Our master troubadour and dear friend fought a heroic battle with cancer in Helena, MT. He was 57 years old. Walkin' Jim is widely known throughout the U.S. for his unique combination of long-distance hiking, original songwriting, and photography. Jim was an adventurer, artist, poet, photographer, author, and environmental activist. In his lifetime, he accomplished numerous long-distance treks including the complete lengths of the Pacific Crest Trail, the Appalachian Trail, an east to west cross-continent hike, the entire U.S. Continental Divide, trips from Yellowstone to the Yukon, and many others. In total, he hiked over 28,000 miles of long-distance trips. When not on a long trip, Walkin' Jim could be found on any of the many trails in southwest Montana for a day hike with family and friends. He was also an avid cross-country skier. Jim also enjoyed wilderness travels by canoe. Between trips, Jim would create, produce and perform original shows of his travels with photography and music, always incorporating his keen sense of environmental awareness and justice for all things wild. His musical, hiking, and environmental career spanned 45 years. Jim was born in Royal Oak, MI, June 8, 1953, to Wilbur and Audra Stoltz. He graduated high school from Royal Oak - Kimball High School. Walkin' Jim began playing the guitar when he was in the 4th grade. He performed in several bands during the 1970s. He attained his love for the outdoors and hiking beginning with the Boy Scouts. His first long-distance hike was on the Appalachian Trail from Georgia to Maine in 1973. The following year, Jim began his Ocean to Ocean walk beginning in West Quodyhead, ME, and ending on the Olympic Pennisula, WA. The entire trip followed dirt roads, railroad tracks, and trails. Jim's first recording was "Spirit is Still on the Run," in 1986. He also recorded, "Forever Wild," "Listen to the Earth," "The Long Trails," and many others. Walkin' Jim produced over eight musical albums and one music video for children, "Come Walk With Me." Jim was an accomplished poet. His poetry was published as, "Whisper Behind the Wind." Walkin' Jim wrote a book, "Walking with the Wild Wind: Reflections on a Montana Journey," highlighting his inspirational travels and wilderness philosophy. A few year's ago, Jim discovered his talent for painting. He developed an extensive array of work in oils specializing in interpretive environmental themes. He liked to work in the medium of oil-based cattle markers on canvas. Many of his paintings reflected themes from his songs and poetry. Walkin' Jim founded Music United to Sustain the Environment (MUSE) with Craig Wagner, and Joyce Rouse. MUSE is a group of professional touring musicians who are concerned about the health of our planet. Many of them draw their inspiration from the land, and feel the need to give something back toward protecting it. Walkin' Jim stood at the forefront of many environmental causes throughout the U.S. Jim helped with the planning and design of several trails throughout the American Southwest. A short segment of U.S. Forest Service trail in northern Arizona was recently created and named the Walkin' Jim Trail. To spread his love of people and song, Jim was employed for nearly 30 winter seasons at Lone Mountain Ranch, Big Sky, MT, driving horse-drawn sleighs to festive dinners where he performed his extensive repertoire of music. Jim's life is richly entwined by a web of countless dear friends, including thousands of children throughout the country who have learned and loved his stories and songs. Walkin' Jim is survived by his true friend Leslie Stoltz, Big Sky, MT, brother Mark Stoltz, Honor, MI, and sister's Susan Grace Stoltz, of Fairbanks, AK, and Lisa Mohr, Wixom, MI, and many nieces and nephews. Jim's life work and dreams centered on his desire to share the beauty, the unique character, the mood, and the value of wilderness through his music, writings, art, and activism. He leaves a special and enduring legacy to his family, friends, and enumerable list of fans. A legacy directing all of us to live lives of happiness while sharing in and protecting all things wild. from his website an honor for me to know him and be moved by his actions, muisc, art and words If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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Thanks for sharing Hal R. Truly an inspirational 57 years - if anyone grasped the concept of Furthur, it was he. I'm hoisting one now for him and you. " Where does the time go? "
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I suppose it was to be expected, but sorry to hear this anyway.
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Don Van Vliet died today. Sad sad news. An original genius. One of the true greats and, for me, a life changer.