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    Bill had long wavy red hair
    Bill had long wavy red hair and a red beard. He always used to wear a cap with a Hot Tuna patch on it. I think it was a blue cap, Chinese type. I met him in NYC between shows. I was broke and he helped me out. We hit up the Floyd shows at Nassau and made our way down to the Capital Centre by train and hitching for the boys. He told me a weird story about his childhood which lead me to believe he was from the mid west perhaps. I remember catching up with him on the Haight and then at MSG during the Rainforest run. He passed out in a car next to me after booting dope. Worrying! Later he told me someone had taken his money while he was out! Something I never liked about NYC shows, THAT kinda stuff! A bro' named Tanith told me he'd read a newspaper article that said Bill had been shot in the head in Alphabet City. We guessed he'd been trying to score and got robbed! He was a really far out brother and sadly missed! Peace to u where ever u are brother!!! Are you kind?
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    Hey Now! For all those who knew him, Pauli is gone. I heard from The Balloon Lady that he passed away sometime in 2006 in San Francisco. He was apparently homeless and died on the road. He had become mentally unstable after years of "too much of everything". He was one of my best friends, a graduate of the "University of Space", a father, and a son. He is survived by his mother in Missouri. We had many a great adventure together. Pauli remains alive in our hearts, minds, and memories. "Once in a while you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right" Peace, Jim & Zoe
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    Paul Jaeger
    Paul loved the Dead. Paul played his red gibson and he sounded alot like Jerry. Paul was a great friend. We moved out west together in 1984. I taught you how to ski and snowboard. You picked both up and you actually skiied really well. I remember when we hiked into the backcountry by Brighton and your leg fell into that hole and the snow froze and we couldn't get your leg out. I thought you were going to leave us right there. We had fun at the Snowbird, too. Life happened and you moved back east. Speedballs and wild turkey proved to be a bad combination. Paul had a thirst for the fast life. Paul also had a huge bootleg collection. I still have some that I borrowed. Morgantown '83 and Hershey '85, my favorite. I have a graet picture of you at Redrocks '84. I'll post it when I figure out how. You live in my mind Paul. Rest in peace!
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    The 2 Christophers (Rockwell & Burton)
    Great guys that were taken in their prime. Both tragic losses for all involved.Both big fans of Jerry and the fellas. Although Burton could be a handfull at times, there was nothing but love going on here. Both were great atheletes, one basketball and golf and Burton was a gifted scoccer midfielder. Gone but never forgotten Fare the well...my brothers. “The Omnipotent Grateful Dead!”
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    William ( Billy) Jones
    Hey all, I was saddened to hear the news today of a former player I coached being murdered in Conway NH yesterday in an apparent botched robbery. Billy was one of three people killed. My heart goes out to his family at this time of sorrow; his parents and other brothers two of which I also coached.
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    Marty Soucie
    Marty was a good friend of mine while I was stationed in Puerto Rico in the mid '90s. He was the proprietor of the Grateful Bed and Breakfast in Luquillo Puerto Rico. Sadly he died in a fire at his bed and breakfast in early 2001. I first met Marty not long after Jerry died. At the time I was new to the Navy (only out of bootcamp for a few months), and with news of Jerry's passing, I kind of sunk into the proverbial funk. I have family down there, but they had no idea who Jerry Garcia was (my great aunt thought he was a Puerto Rican salsa musician:) ) My barracks-mate found a copy of "Skeleton's Key" at the Exchange and picked it up for me, hoping to cheer me up. One evening, while flipping through the book, I came across the name and address for Marty's bed and breakfast. Holy crap, I thought, that just 20 minutes from base! I called and talked for a while to Marty. I took a few days leave and headed down. It was the hight of summer (the off-season) so I was the only guest. It was nice to hang out with another deadhead after all the previous months of military yahoos. Finally, someone who really understood the gravity of Jerry's death (most of my fellow shipmates made snide jokes to me about Jerry's death). It was a nice weekend. Because I was his only guest, we hung out, visiting his friends in the rain forest, hiking, and BSing. I also taped a ton of shows from his vast collection:) Every few weeks we'd get together for dinner or just to hang out and listen to tunes, talk politics, the Dead, and drink rum and cokes. I can't tell you how nice it was to have a deadhead friend down there. It was a nice escape from the military. Not long after, I was transfered to the fleet, and sent to the "four winds." We exchanged a few letters, but as these things often go, I lost touch. News of his passing saddened and angered me. I felt bad that I had lost touch. He was a great guy, attempting to create a little deadhead enclave in the middle of paradise. He is missed. Fare-thee-well Marty! Your friend, Mike. Yo Soy Boricua!
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    Brad from NJ
    Brad was a good kid from NJ who got into it in the early nineties. He had a nice family and was a solid drummer! A solidly built guy who wore glasses, kinda thick lenses! He was a mellow cat, a lotta fun, too much sometimes! This especially worried me the last time I saw him at the Charlotte shows in '92. He was really messy! Doped out. I was worried he'd get popped as he seemed desperate to make some $ on the lot. I told him to cool it as it was crazy hot out there! He ended up getting put away sometime later. I think he did 2 years in a rehab style bootcamp in NY State. He was clean and started going to college after he got out. He had a nice girlfriend. I remember getting a piece of mail with his address and being really stoked. I opened it and there were photos of him. His mother and brother had written that he'd gone down to NYC to buy some "shirts" from a dude whose name rang a bell. They decided to party for old times sake. He overdosed! We have such blessings, why gamble everything for a buzz? We all need to ask ourselves this question at certain times I'm sure. Love and Light, J Are you kind?
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    Joe O'Brien
    A great bro' who spent the later few years of his life based up in Humboldt with his good brother Tom. They lived in a cool dome house! Joe was a fixture in the scene during the era my other friends (see above) and I were around. He was also a fine guitar player who I would have loved to have formed a band with. Sadly it was not to be! Another brother who passed due to a smack overdose. He'd been clean for awhile and relapsed. I would hope that all these losses set an example to our family to not waste our lives in this way. We should do something with our lives to spread the light we have found. I know we are more sensitive people than the rest, but we can't find true shelter in drug abuse. It's just an illusion. We need to look at the way the native Americans embrace sacrament use instead of abusing it. We're given an insight that we need to go out and spread not dull with addictive substances. We have shed too many tears! We need each other here-to support each other in our works. Let's keep on keeping on! Are you kind?
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    Candy Hill from Philly
    A really beautiful sister in so many ways! I heard she died from an overdose. She was into smack. You would never have known to look at her. I had a really freaky experience once. When I was at a Hare Krishna restaurant in New Zealand two girls came in with backpacks and were in line next to me. One with intense blue eyes. They had American accents so I said "hi"! We started to chat. The one said she was from Philly. I said I had a friend from there who died from an overdose. We locked eyes and both said her name at exactly the same time. Wow.........! I felt the presence of Candy standing in the space that was there where we three stood. Powerful! What are the chances of such a thing being coincidence? It wasn't a coincidence, of course. I think Candy was just trying to connect the energy and to send me a little message of love to give me strength at a trying time in my life when I really needed it and was going through some of the toughest times I've ever had! She was a good family sister and will always be missed. Gotta make it to the promised land...! Are you kind?
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    Another wonderful and sweet brother. He was usually to be found on Telegraph hanging out or in People's Park when it was still relatively hassle-free to do our thing there. He was a really fun cat! I don't know the exact details of his passing so I don't think I should write what I think I remember being told. His ex told me that his parents lived in El Cerrito at that time but I didn't find any listing in the phone directory for that area with that name last time I checked. Any more info on this would be wonderful! He was such a classic head! Shining on forever!!! Are you kind?
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Gerry Rafferty was only 63. I still hear Baker Street fairly often on the FM radio. Reminds me of a girl named Jill I once ran with, briefly, from Evergreen to Doylestown then down to Boulder.
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using a place where we remember those we miss, to further your greed. I can't believe you'd put an ad in here...what gall.
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the spammer is a human being. Probably not.
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some lower lifeform, I'm certain
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automated opportunistic crapola...
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I had thought since the same spammer posted different messages on different forums that it was an individual, but I'm don't know much about this automated stuff, other than I lost my job due to automation.
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I can't form grammatically correct sentences, either..
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Any body that was a teen in the 70's can remember Don Kirshner's Rock Concert on TV. How many parties revolved around that when the parents weren't home?
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Very sorry your dad and cat passed on...octopus hugs and healing rays for a decade
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and midnite special but don had the coolest bands. he recorded a time in history. bummed to be too young and home on a weekend but the best thing about staying up :)
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Who could forget the television show, "Don Kirshner’s Rock Concert" and the barriers it broke not only in the television market but also in the nation’s cultural mindset of music on TV by shedding the over-rehearsed and lip synced production most Americans had become used to since the ‘50s? Kirshner also produced the hit TV series "The Monkeys" and contributed the bulk of the song writing for that show. He was inducted into the Song Writers Hall of Fame in 2007. R.I.P. Don Kirshner...
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I appreciate that. Especially reading it tonight cuz have been almost washed under by a sunami if grief that came outta nowhere this evening.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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and it will....for awhile...you're strong, you'll get through it, pal...
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Grandmother to Tigerlilly's kids.......RIP Oma
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Fitness guru...many of us saw his exercise program, one of the first, on the TV as we were growing up. 96 years of age, and was still in better shape than alot of 30 year olds
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we need all the strength we can get right bout now. all been a bit too much for my kids to swallow -4 losses in 2 months.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Gary Moore!Only 58-how sad!!!!!! ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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So sorry about your loses recently TigerLilly, as if life isn't hard enough by its own merits. I can't possibly understand how you feel with all you've been through but my prayers are with you always (even when I'm not around here).
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My older brother Bill died in 1999 from Lukemia at the age of 56. Thanks to Bill he would "arrainged" for me to babysit.so I could go and see the greatful dead. My dad was a strick trip{Yes I loved him}but he expected us to be in the house by 9:30 at the age of 17.My brother had three adorable kids, he would call my dad and tell him.that he and his wife was going out and they needed me to babysit. I woudl then go to the concert and then go home the next morning when Bill picked me up at the bus station in Atlantic City then drive me home. Rest in peace Bill. I miss you still.
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is a great brother. So sorry for your loss.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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I just found out our old friend Kevin Dougherty passed away back in 2009 In Eugene... We had many colorful experiences together. Fun in SF! Great shows. Had families. Did our things. My wife's & my last show was at Autzen, hanging with Kevin & Jane & our kids. I am finding that getting old is hard because of the people that you lose... I love you Bro...
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Rest in peace Bear, you changed my life like so many others. I will always remember that purple haze, orange sunshine, yellow sunshine and blue cheer that you turned the world onto, you were the greatest. Without you, there would be no grateful dead.
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Long live the legacy and the work of Bear! May his memory cause no man or woman harm! he faster we go the rounder we get!
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Sad way to go. Thanks for everything.
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The Orange Juice may be safer, but we are saddened by your passing. Thanks for helping to create the SF atmosphere and for laying the ground work on the sound system.
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A sad day, just does not seem to be the way Bear should have gone. A survivor, in many ways ahead of his times, both technologically and perhaps psychologically. While his pharmacological roles were certainly important, there was far more to the man. R.I.P.
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It is a very sad day. His vision of sound broke through barriers decades before anyone on the planet. We will miss you Bear, but your molecules will rain down on us forever. And for that we will all be better.
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Enormous gentle vibes to Bear's family...came through many fights. Thank-you/om gate
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another sad passing that came too soon! thank you Bear for the sights n'sounds.PEACE
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just got a SYF tatt last week then bear passed think I'm gonna add another tear.
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Thanks for being, Bear. I'll meet you at the jubilee.
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My allowabull folklore about Bear ("summary") "Do you really want to tell me I can *()&$^&*?" "Do Bears Shit in the Forest??" (the biggest Southpark Smile possible on this pusser) keep your character, enjoy living, share your fortune, OXOX Merple Reddin
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thanks for all the help and inspiration you gave me back in the 60's..
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but means the world to me personally. May 1st my dad's friends are having a memorial picnic, in his honor. I am going, but I am not sure how well I can pull it off without having an emotional meltdown. BUT I love it that his friends have decided to carry on his annual picnic, in his memory. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Furthur did a great tribute to Bear at one of their shows. Played a rockin' Alice D. Millionare, but the whole show was tribute. And it all was great. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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Hello there, I am searching for my birthfather with little to go on.. I was conceived in Eugene oregon in the summer of 79. My father went by the name winddancer and traveled up and down the west coast. He met my mother Devorah and they were only together for a short while. I do not have a birthname, except perhaps he also went by the name of Jonathan? He frequented Santa cruz,ca, not sure where he is origionally from.. Thought i would post here. The circle back then was a bit tighter, not sure what it is like now.. Any leads, any info of this invisible man in my life will be gratefully appreciated! Also, if you have any recommendations on where I can search or where the appropriate place to post is, that is also very helpful:)Aloha, Sarah
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I'll ask my husband. She went to Santa Cruz to see his frail mother with and lung problems + and a paralyzed arm. They where both huge Heads and my husband knows almost evrey 'Head in Santa Cruz. Will Have to ask him. I hope you find him! Keep on your search. Don't stop sister, I know you'll find him! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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We just lost a truly great poet, musician, performer, activist and human being. And especially sad as it was just when he was getting his life back together again. He is called the godfather of rap, but he never liked that title and it completely misses the point about what made him great. His live shows were celebrations, strong strong messages, razor wit and funky jazz tunes. Rest in Peace Gil Scott-Heron The revolution will not be televised! http://vimeo.com/24398430 http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/2011/may/28/gil-scott-heron-obituary 'You alone consider mercy after it seems like all you get is pain It seem to me that you have found the courage that others could not find You alone have the wisdom to take this world and make it what it need to be, want to be, will be, someday you'll see The day, the day you understand That there ain't no such thing as a superman'
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Bluesman and a founding member of the original Steve Miller Band. He was the creator of Pacific Northwest Blues in the Schools. Passed after a long battle with cancer May 16th, 66 years of age. memorial show will be held at Blues Vespers Sunday, June 5th at Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Tacoma, Washington. Jerry Miller (Moby Grape), Jay Mabin and other local blues musicians to play. Blues Vespers is always free but donations are always accepted and will be donated to Blues in the Schools.
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Sad news Johnman. It was always a great pleasure to hear the Steve Miller Blues Band in good old SF. Nice to hear Jerry Miller will be at the memorial. My heart goes out to his family and the Pacific Northwest. : (
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born and raised Tacoman, but I heard he moved to Pacific coupla years ago. I think it was two years ago word was he lost everything in a flood in Pacific, something to do with the Civil Engineers opening, or not opening a levee or something during a bad storm. I know that there was a benefit for him at The Swiss, in downtown T-town...
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thanks for all the great "sax" music "Big Man", and rocking us. We'll miss you.
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Really bummed. Glad I seen Bruce and the E Street band when I did. It won't be the same now. I'm gonna crank Rosalita and have a beer. :( :( :(
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Glad for all the times I got to see him. RIP Clarence. Condolences to the band and his loved ones.