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  • BobbaLee
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    Mornduvt Our thoughts are with you and your son. Speaking from 20 years experience of listening to my wife Candy(PHd and currently has 3 people on suicide watch) work with many who thought life would be better if they ended it--It won't be. Your friends and parents will never get over it. The pain many think goes away by taking that step comes back and hurts those that really care multiplied uncountable times. Perhaps suggesting that your son become a student counselor to work with fellow students may bring something meaningful and helpful out of this tragedy. Watch the movie "Ordinary People" and talk about it .Your son probably also may harbor feelings of anger at his friend and perhaps feels guilty about it. I am going to sound harsh and if I offend don't take it personally.- Suicide is a selfish act. It is one thing to be in terrible physical pain 80 years old with nothing to look forward to. Adolescent suicide is usually an act of anger towards those people which the child is having a conflict with. It may be no fault of the child and unfair (in the case of bullying) however killing one self is not the answer.It most cases therapy or a very brief hospital stay and willingness to work on improving things would be far better. Sometimes chemical imbalances may account for the depression but not always. If you want to talk off line let me know. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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    a giant hug to all who knew this boy. My prayers go out to his family and yours.
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    Your poor kid! Peace and healing vibes to your son, the family, and your entire community. Such a thing is bewilderingly painful, I KNOW. Strength to you too, to be there to support your son, but sounds like you got that aplenty!********************************** It's the end of the world as we know it, and I feel fine
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    Light, prayers and healing hugs to your son, family - all the families! I am sorry.
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    i can't imagine....no.......i can't....i'll say an extra prayer for all of you. what a monumental bummer....healing vibes to you and yours.........
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    so sorry to hear this, and comfort to all who loved this kid.
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    A big hug goes out to your boy. Some things in life I guess are never meant to be understood.Peace
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    Warm healing thoughts for you, your son and your whole town. I hope your son's friend at least found the peace he was seeking. Pay attention to your friends, folks. You never know when that funny snort, that odd glance, that moment of wry introspection is really a signal of Something Deeper. Just because it's usually nothing serious doesn't mean that this might not be that one time when all they really needs is a genuine smile from a friend to get them back in the game. Smile on your brother, and your sister, too. Try to love one another right now. Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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    Hey Mornduvt, I will keep all of you in my thoughts
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    Hey Now Friends I am asking for some good vibes for my teenage son, and my whole community. Sorry if this is long-winded. My son has always loved the GD music I played (constantly) - I sang him to sleep (badly) with Ripple when he was a baby & he used to make me rewind Fire on the Mountain and play it over and over when he was about four. He had always said how bummed out he was that he would never get to see the Grateful Dead and have that experience. So when the current Dead tour came around we got some cheap "at least I'm in the show" tix for Albany and Sunday in Worcester. We had a fantastic time. Both shows were fun and he said the Scarlet Fire on Sunday was one of the happiest moments of his life. On Monday that good vibe was shattered. As we were driving home to our small town he received a text message informing him that a friend of his had taken his own life over the weekend. My son was / is devastated. He says that the greatest day of his life was followed by the worst. He can't make sense of it, and neither can I, or anyone else in our community. This was a brilliant, talented, well-liked kid, and nobody can understand how this could happen. So I'm calling out for a cosmic hug for my boy... but also my whole town, and the family of the boy who took his life. I can not begin to imagine what they are going through. Peace to all ~ hug your kids...
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My love goes out to the many here who were there for me a few moons ago. You are, and will always remain in my heart. I wish you peace love and the pursuit of happiness. The human spirit is most powerful, and those who trust in it are those that blossom by it. A very belated thank you to some of the most beautiful people on the planet. love,pk
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nice to see you!
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This canned meat by-product showed up EVERYwhere...
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We were hit by Sir Spam-a-lot!! boo.
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That spammers will even post in a thread where we're vilifying them. I think that this one is especially egregious, given the theme of the thread and the spammer's solicitation for our prayers! That is just about as low as you can get. Isn't it? Time for Marye to break out the flamethrower, once again...
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THAT is a serious low. Now deleted.
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the families of the dead and wounded in Norway. It makes no sense...none....another demented soul making others suffer for their twisted ideas...
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Only comfort is knowing they've gone to a better place.
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Hey everyone,We've moved back to Alabama, and things have been hectic as all get out. I'm looking for work now, and we are just scraping by. Any positive vibes would be greatly appreciated. Thanks everyone for your support over the years. Everytime I take a hiatus it takes me a while to get back on here, but I've been thinking about you guys. I'll be on here more now that the ice is once again broken. Much love and positive vibes to all those in need. Hozomeen
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welcome back Hozomeen! All best wishes to you and yours.
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nice to see you again! many good vibes to you and yours!
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So much love on here…I don't know why I ever get that sinking feeling like I haven't been keeping up with my friends enough to get on here and just say hi. I love you guys.
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Forceful eviction today....Mouse and I are losing our home, the house I grew up in, where I have had family for over 60 years.....
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oh, johnman.i wondered where you'd been; i was just going to PM you as well as ask others what was happening. I guess you were up to your necks in bullshit. i'm so sorry. being stuck here in England i can't even help you out with storage or a place to stay or company and a beer shared. all i can offer is that you're both in my thoughts every day. the world can look like an unfriendly mother sometimes but ya got to keep on keepin' on; no one can evict memories and all the good times that have been had within those walls. those are yours forever. if you've lost anything like music i can burn you some stuff and post to you both free of charge when you get a new address. i'm afraid money is crazily tight as i'm about to move to Japan so all i can offer is some sounds and plain ol' good vibrations. anytime you want to rant or just plain drunkenly get things off ya chest then message me, buddy. don't think twice; you'll always have a willing ear here. a crying shame and i'm a thinkin' of you.
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oh that must be so hard. I know how much you have fought to keep your home. I really hope you have somewhere to go now and that you can keep in touch with your many friends here who will continue to send you strong supporting vibes. Stay strong.
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Things will work out...I have faith. They will store my property for up to 30 days...on the premises. I must contact the broker to gain entry. right this minute I am waiting for the bank rep and the Sheriff's Deputy. I spoke with the deputy last week, he was kind enough to come buy, give me fair warning, and let me know what the procedures were. Nice guy, we talked for a bit. He was a patrol type until recently. He's glad to be off the street where he's safer, but really hates the new job (evictions). I just have to keep praying..!!
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I'm so sorry. With all the positive vibes that you spread around these parts, it's high time that they come back to you tenfold...you and your son are in our thoughts. Keep your head up, and we'll be pushing for something positive to come out of this for you.
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Anything we can do for our Johnman? Like start a fund perhaps? I can start one, but it is prolly easier if someone over there could. I can contribute though!********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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So sorry to hear your news, I can chip in with tunes etc if you lose your sounds. If anyone starting a fund please let us know.God bless Johnman hope it all turns out o.k.
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I am going to look into setting up a Chipin account on PayPal (marye's practical idea) and will put up any details by tomorrow.********************************* I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Prolific taper and trader (and loyal supporter of the UK Summer of Love Party) is very sick and in hospital right now in the States. Please send your good wishes his way.
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thinking of you today, John.and let it be known that others who aren't even aware of your situation are thinking of your spirit because thats just what Dead Heads do.
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Johnman, Is there any hope of 'saving the ranch' ? Or is the situation irreversable ? However the deal goes down, know that the community will do what it can to help a brother....
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Sending good vibes to you and your son from over here on the other side of the mountains.Take care of yourselves and stay healthy. Peace brother. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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I hope you stay connected with the community that knows you a and your family, if it is possible, It seems like you are nurtured spiritually in that area also with your regular church-going. As you do for others, may others do for you. As you've served your country well, do not be shy about using to social safety net. Do what you need to do to ne safe and healthy. Keep the dark thought s at bay.. This, too, shall pass and you shall find a better way through the black and bloody mire, you're just a saint of circumstance. Always remember and never give up hope. Our thoughts and prayers are with you always! Gonzo
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According to TLilly, Marye was supposed to put it up yesterday. I'm ready to give a little something as I'm sure many others are. Of course, Johnman should sign off on this as something he wants before it comes to fruition. Good thing Sea-Tac is booming these days, what with all the Boeing orders and Apples new reincarnationwithout Steve Jobs. ~ The speaker recognizes the honorable Senator from Boeing! ~
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It's me who's trying to set it up-it was marye's tip about the chip in account. I am having problems though, because have no Pay Pal account. I am still on it though!********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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make sure you are, TL...!!!!! (hell no, i ain't learnt no lessons!!! ha ha!!!!!!). have a good weekend, tigerlilly. yep, i'm still a prick, don't worry!
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Definitely let us know. I don't have a PayPal account either, don't really want to set one up, but for Jman, yes...
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maybe not such a good idea then if people don't have Paypal accounts!
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Lots of bad stuff in the world gets lots of attention (or not when it should). But right now in the NE US, lots of folks are still suffering from the effects of Irene, mostly flooding. A number of people lost their lives so please send blessings for their souls. There are many more who have lost all their personal belongings, especially their homes. While "things" can always be replaced, the upset to life for these people, many of them my friends, including many family farmers who have lost their crops and their livestock, has been terrible. Please send your vibes, prayers and thoughts to those sisters and brothers in need in Upstate New York, Vermont, etc as they try to rebuild their lives. If you can spare a little extra then please donate to your favorite charity that can provide assistance to folks up here. Thanks all!
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as are everyone of you kind souls and your "chip-in" idea...I'm a big baby, at heart and the love here is making me cry all over again. It's like, i wanna say no, as there are more deserving people out there...like the hurricaine (sp?) victims. for instance...but i won't refuse any help...gotta go...
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You don't need a pay-pal account. You can do it "card not present" through an app that sets up through your I-phone. The app. piggy-backs on another, larger merchant. We have to find somebody that we trust for CC#s to go through. Big responsibility, that one. Alternatively, there is the old-fashioned way, which I am more inclined to do. Does Johnman have a forwarding address that we can snail mail contributions to? Are you willing to give it in this thread?
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whatever you have been doing seems to be working because he is making a so far remarkable recovery from an aneurism. Apparently he is he's up & eating talking & walking. Many of you may know of John from his many circulating audience recordings of the Grateful Dead and other bands. This info comes from the Eurotraders list where John has many friends.
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the power of positive vibrations heals again.amazing how the darkness can dissipate when there's people who deeply care. get better still, John.
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to receive checks, donations, etc? I will if no-one else will, but I think that it's better if it's someone in the States. Someone who is trustworthy, of course! I guess the next thing I can try is setting up an online bank-account. That could receive donations, and that Johnman also has access to. Sorry for my delay-have gotten into a bit of a dilemma with my daughter being stuck away from home due to a train strike ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Yeah, that's an idea but I think the Paypal scheme would be better; it's free and really simple to open an account. Or alternatively, as lamagonzo mentioned; maybe check with johnman if there's a forwarding address and then send cheques/money. Makes it a bit harder for the European folks but opening a bank account seems like more hassle. A Paypal account takes seconds. Also easier to access it or change payment etc. johnman then can transfer the money from Paypal to his bank account in seconds. Of course, johnman would need to have a Paypal account too but i'm sure that wouldn't be a problem for him. Hope your daughter is okay! Or has she made that up so she can stay out and party?!!
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Luckily for her! There is one branch of DB striking-sadly the one she needs to take. Will get her home today, one way or another.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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...it would be simpler and Paypal won't rake off their 3%. He said he could get us an address. I understand where it might be harder for Europeans but I'm sure a bank account can handle foreign checks or postal money orders the same way the American ones do. If he doesn't want a bank account then sending just money orders sounds like the plan, IMO,
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my daughter has either run away, been kidnapped-who knows what! She has vanished ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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biding time now while her dad is filing missing persons report-and then we are driving the over 200 KM to where she was last seen********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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my heart missed a few beats when I read that TL. Goodness knows how you are feeling. Sending all the positive vibrations I can. She's a bright smart sensible lass and I am sure things will be fine. thinking of you all