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  • Oroboros
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    A good buddy passed on Saturday,
    6 months ago David was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.His battle is over. "I didn't think it would end this way." "End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it." "What? See what?" "White shores, and beyond, a far green country under a swift sunrise." "Well, that isn't so bad." "No, No , it isn't." Excerpt from the film "Lord of the Rings: Return of the King.
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    A Gift
    Wondered why I felt no lose with his passing then I realized I was happy.Happy someone who changed the world got to live a long meaningful life. In my generation that means a lot! Thank you God for the gift of Nelson Mandela. May he R.I.P.
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    RIP Nelson Mandela
    A giant luminary of nonviolence takes his peace. Lay you down, my dear brother.
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    Grateful Doe went to the show
    It was the tix in his pocket and the red space your face 95' tour T he was wearing is why he is known as grateful fan/Doe. June 24 & 25 1995 at the Rfk stadium in Washington, D.C., The new event page on FB is trying to get as many ppl to post everywhere (not just FB) in hopes someone will recognize him. That is why it has the long name of "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join". If someone here knows anything and not on FB plz contact me. Wish I could post pics here. They found the guy he got his tix from. He came with 20 tix and doesn't remember who he sold/gave them to. Some of us remember this when it happened and 18 yrs is too long. We don't want him to fade away.
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    they were GDTS tickets. If they were, maybe they could be traced back through their numbers. Though I doubt I am the first person to think of this in 18 years. I hope they figure this out, it really is too long for this to go unresolved...
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    Thank you Anna rRxia. 200 people tested and excluded for him, He is one of many so I don't think finger prints are the answer. Not everyone have not walked right and been finger printed. There are young ppl with not much of a family left or more often unfortunately families do disown there own members. As freaks we all know this too well. His family is trying to find him and they are us. only deadheads can figure out how to accomplish anything with not much. ;)
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    Mona - What a sad story
    A noble cause you are on as well as other deadheads. I'll do what I can but this sure does look like a cold trail. If the note found in his pocket had a phone number without an area code it sounds like the authorities didn't do the basic work of calling the # with all area codes. That is very sad! One has to wonder why his family didn't make more of an effort to find him? He was ejected from a vehicle so his fingerprints were intact, therefore his fingerprints were not on file anywhere. I don't know with the consolidation of data bases if efforts are being made to recheck his fingerprint record on a regular basis. My feeling is that "the authorities" find this case long closed and aren't doing a thing other than maintaining a record locator just in case. My predilection in such cases is to think spiritually about this fella. I have to believe after 18+ years his soul should have moved on. It would be horrible to think he was a ghost hanging around that death place still, as some people might think happens to people who die suddenly and won't let go of their body... It is still possible to catch a break in this case, stranger things have happened. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7; All good deadheads go to heaven!
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    Unfortunate here you have to copy and paste. If that doesn't work then just google Grateful Doe for pictures etc. There are many sites with the same info. Sorry my synapse is having problems with my synopsis. (This bear just wants to hibernate) and I did manage to get it mixed up. I mentioned Facebook because that is why I am here posting. A deadhead sister Lesha Johanneck has started a new campaign there with an event page to have everyone share about Grateful Doe across the globe and the internet in hopes someone will recognize him so he can rest in peace. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE ON FACEBOOK TO HELP! Just share, share, share! IF you are on facebook look up "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join". Here is full information from findagrave.com: Jason "Grateful Dead Fan" Doe Birth: unknown Death: Jun. 26, 1995 Emporia Greensville County Virginia, USA I challenge anyone who reads this to please pass this information onto a friend or even a couple of friends. If you have the time please contact media in your area and ask them to run my story. I really am tired of this long journey that I have been on and would like to go home.... If you have any information that may help identify me PLEASE contact The Office of the Chief Medical Examiner Medicolegal Death Investigator 1-800-447-1706. My agency case # is 123526 **** My alias for the last 15 years has been Jason Doe AKA Grateful Dead Fan. I was given the name Jason because of a note found in my pocket and because of the tie-dye Grateful Dead t-shirt I was wearing. It really would be nice to have my real name back again. I died in a horrible car accident in Emporia, Greensville County, Virginia on Monday, June 26, 1995 around 1:30 PM. I died along with the driver of the van. The driver, Michael Eric Hager fell asleep at the wheel, the van left the road & hit some trees. Neither the driver or I was wearing seat belts. I first hit the windshield and then hit the trees. Both the driver and I were ejected from the van. We both died instantly. Michael was identified quickly. He had his ID on him, as well as the vehicle registation. Michael's family did not recognize me, they suspected that I was hitch hiking that day and Michael picked me up to give me a ride somewhere. I had just been to a couple of Grateful Dead shows the weekend before (June 24th & June 25th)the accident at RFK Stadium in Washington, DC. I still had the 2 ticket stubs in my pockets when they found me. They also found a note in my pocket that said "Jason, Sorry we had to go, see ya around, call me #914 prefix with an arrow pointing to Caroline T.'s name. ----> Caroline T. + Caroline O. Bye!!!!" There is also a cute little drawn picture of Jerry Garcia on the note. I wonder where these girls are and if they remember me?? The only other things I had with me are 4 quarters and a yellow disposable lighter. I was wearing a red tie dye t-shirt that was from the Grateful Dead 1995 Summer Tour. I had on a pair of light blue 505 Levi jeans size 33x32, size 11 1/2 blue or black FILA athletic shoes, white athletic socks, beaded necklace, a macrame necklace. My Vital Stats: Age: 16-21 Height: 5'8" Weight: 169lbs Hair Color: Light Brown/Dark Blonde/Dyed Red Eye Color: Brown Identifying Marks: I have a small homemade 5 point star tattoo on my left arm. Piercings: My left ear is pierced. I was not wearing an earring when they found me. Here is an article about my death: http://docs.google.com/View?id=dcbh2vh8_130gbt45khd To read more about my story you can visit me at Websleuths: http://www.websleuths.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=172 My info on NamUs.gov: https://identifyus.org/cases/6095 Burial: Cremated, Other. Specifically: Unknown Created by: LoveToHelp Record added: May 28, 2010 Find A Grave Memorial# 52954852
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    Mona
    Links don't work. It would be good if you could put together a brief synopsis of what the scenario was for those of us who don't do Facebook.
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    Help bring Grateful Doe home. (@);-)
    It has been almost 19 years we have been searching to bring Grateful Doe home. Possibly named Jason he was killed after a grateful dead concert in June 1995 the dates of the concert were June 24 & 25 1995 at the Rfk stadium in Washington, D.C.. If you know anyone that went to the concert add them to the group or just keep sharing his flyer someone has to know something. PLZ help your brother by joining this group or posting this anywhere you can. The bus leaves no one behind. Thank you. ^^^passing it on from Facebooks "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join" Events page. More about him on the "Grateful Doe" Community page. Here is a pic of what he could look like today (He had dyed RED Hair), his tattoo, concert stubs, and note found in his pocket addressed to Jason. https://scontent-b-sea.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc1/1148843_52733253734037… Any info at all check out Facebook pages above or PLZ contact/message me here. Most of all PLZ post far and wide in any or all special sites or groups you are into on the internet. Together we can sing him back home! Thanx, Mona (@);-)
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such a profound blow, my heart goes out to you and your family. After losing a baby girl inbetween my two older boys, it is an ache that is numbing. And watching the angst of your wife and children only adds to the feeling of falling into an abyss. My hope is that there are gentle times ahead for you and yours, and that you can believe it possible. And Gigi, the joy that your sister brought with her is evident in you. My thoughts are with you as well. I am so sorry for your losses. Take care, Tim The Truth is realized in an instant, the act is practiced step by step.
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i cant even begin to think what it would feel like to lose my child, i dont think i could handle it. i cant even imagine him gone. i feel nauseous just even considering it. the pain you must be feeling is unimaginable. my thoughts and prayers go out to you steve, i am so sorry
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stevie cof you for your kind heart-felt words. I keep praying that someday we will all be together again, in a world that knows no pain, or sorrow, or death. The same way I feel about all the beautiful music that Jerry use to give all of us. Together, no pain, only peace, love, and sweet music to rock all our souls.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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so sorry to hear of such a loss ..
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Stevie C, as you can see there are Truly Kind folks here.. sorry for your loss, we will bend our ears to listen. PEACE
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rest in peace! Let's hope he's jamming with Jerry in the stars!
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met him once and he put the lie to the notionthat music stars had to have some kind of attitude. he was 100% sweet and beautiful. keep on keepin on merl, we'll keep rockin here on the rock ---'never prank a truster'----
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You made so many people happy with your music and your spread your boundless joy to all of us to share with the world and make it a better place. You were a healer bringing back Jerry to his skills after illness and a man of compassion who brought attention to the beauty and destruction of the rainforest. You could boogie and you could play the tunes to soothe. You touched me deeply. For me your music and spirit will keep on keepin on as a part of me. Thank you Merl. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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Peace to you & your loved ones....
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truly a drag................the band in heaven is gettin' awfully big
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many reasons especially because after Garcia's diabetic coma in 1986 and Jerry's resulting loss of some of his ability to play guitar due to his impaired basic motor skills, Merl Saunders was the one that spent hours each day with the Jerry. Merl helped him 'relearn' guitar by running scales, jamming with him, and working Jerry out on with their familar jazz standards to help 'reconnect' Jerry's synapses and to get Garcia back into 'playin in the band". I caught Merl's a couple shows and he was nothing less that delightful and he looked like he was having more fun than we all were dancing at his gig. A true artist. Fare thee well, Merl, and thanks for everything. The Truth is realized in an instant, the act is practiced step by step.
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so sad! fire up! peace4U merl, jam on!!
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peace through music Merl was born on Valentine's Day. A day about Love and man did he spread the Love thru his love of music. It was always a dancin' good time whenever he was jammin' at a show. Surly gonna miss that big grin...."Nothin' left to do but smile, smile, smile.....'cause he's gone."
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Can't believe the only mention of Hal Kant's passing was on GDTS Too. For those whos don't know, he was the Dead's lawyer for years. Probably made some good deals for them and more than likely saved Jerry from jail time. Sleep well out friend! ..even a blind man knows when the sun is shinin'...you can feel it!..
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I was sorry to hear of Hal Kant's passing. I was lucky enough to interview him for a story a couple years ago; very interesting guy.
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"Hi boys and girls, I'm Jimmy Carl Black, I'm the Indian of the group." Rest in Peace Jimmy Carl Black, one of the founders of the Mothers of Invention. http://music.msn.com/music/article.aspx/?news=338145&GT1=28102 If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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I just saw him play last week, wasn't a strong player, but he was very happy to be playing for us and playing the amazing songs he played with Jimi. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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Noel is gone too. Sorry I don't get the latest on all things. But didn't realize he was the last. Are you experienced was my first album ever. Used to make my own are you experienced tye dyes hand stenciled ARE YOU EXPERIENCED? on them.
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Theres a couple people that recently passed away, nonheads but I people Ive known for a long time none the less. They were kind souls for sure. Tracy Farrow and Maxine Uhrig. R.I.P. You'll be sorely missed by all that knew you. It will make the circle smaller and our heart of hearts will hurt for many moons to come. P.S. I still miss Jerry too. I think about him every year in August since 1995.
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Missed this information somehow, but R.I.P. Ms. Miriam Makeba, Mama Africa. Sad, sad news.********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens
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Ertha Kitt passed away christmas day in connecticut due to colon cancer. singer, dancer, actress, she played catwoman on the batman t.v. series after julie newmar. once dubbed "the most exciting woman in the world" by orson welles. 81 years of age, during her career she had won 2 emmy's and had been nominated for several tony's and 2 grammy's
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Spent Xmas day at my sister & bro'-in-law's house with my niece & nephew and her husband's brothers/sisters and their families. My sister had the cable tv set on one of the music channels playing Christmas music, and "Santa Baby" came on (didn't know Eartha had passed at the time). My niece asked who was the singer, and I tested my Bat-geek nephew's Batman trivia knowledge by asking who she was (she was the second Catwoman, replacing Julie Newmar for the last season of the original TV series, like johnman sez). Get home, check my email and Yahoo informs me she has died. Spooky. ********************************************* I have a sigfile! --> www.kindveggieburritos.com *********************************************
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One of my neibhors .. In Loving Memory Eddie Carson Brooks Born, 12-19-52 Jacksonville, FL. Died, 12-16-08 Jacksonville, FL. Memorial service held on 12-27-08 , it was a nice memorial for him His brother and familly members said just a few kind words with Eddie`s favorite band playing in the background of course it was Lynard Skynard , very nice , He was a simple working man .. He was a good man and a freind to the whole neiborhood.. He died of bone cancer and emphasima, it was very painfull for him , He is home now ..
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i am grateful for the end of this calendar year, a year in which my beau lost his 18yr old daughter to a drunk driving accident, we suffered two miscarriages, and now we have lost each other. it has been the saddest, most painful year on record. i know that we grow and learn based on the suffering in our lives, not the joy; my growing pains are nearly unbearable. i know my faith will see me through these times- i know that spring will come again, and that happiness is out there to be had. we have two more days of this year to live through. 48 lousy hours. hurry up and pass me by. i need 2009... caroline
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Sorry Stuman. My condolences to Eddie's family: my mom died from bone cancer, and, yes, it is painful. Grateful he didn't have to suffer too long.
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Sounds like you need a hug and an extra dose of good vibes. 2009 can only be better, am with you on that one sistah!!! PM me if you want, or try to meet up in the chat room. Peace and Love and Good Luck vibes to you. Stuman r.i.p. to your neighbor, and condolences to his loved ones. ********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens
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Here's hoping the New Weir brings you lots peace and happiness!Hippy New Weir to you and may God Lesh you! Stuman hoping your neighbors found peace too! Hippy New Weir to you too, God Lesh!! Peace,Gigi
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of " delaney & bonnie " died saturday of complications due to gallbladder surgery. co-wrote "let it rain" with eric clapton, who subsequently recorded it. co-wrote "superstar" with leon russell which has been recorded by usher, luther vandross, bette midler, the carpenters and recently, sonic youth, for the movie "juno". also with clapton he wrote "never ending song of love", recorded by over 100 artists, including ray charles, george jones, tammy wynette, patty loveless and dwight yoakum. performed, co-wrote and recorded with jimi hendrix, janis joplin, john lennon, dave mason, billy preston, everly brothers and mac davis. produced etta james and elvin bishop. with then wife, bonnie lynn, formed " delaney & bonnie and friends" opening for eric clapton and blind faith in 1969............R.I.P.
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I used to listened to the hell out of some of his stuff - Motel Shot w/ Duane Allman, as well as that killer song from Duane's anthology, "Out On the Open Road." I loved the song "I Don't Want To Discuss It" first on "History of Eric Clapton" which lead me to Delaney and Bonnie & Friends" with EC - what great music. Thanks, Delaney Bramlett. Hang in there, Caroline - Cubbies'll win in '09 and that should help ease the pain. "Where does the time go?"
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Wishing comfort and better times to all who are suffering such losses.
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are the quoted words on the back of our friend's memorium.....he was the owner of Old Chicago Pizza, Petaluma, Ca...rest in peace-you're being missed by us all.....xoxoxo Gypsy Cowgirl
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Id just like to post something for my dad-who I lost when I was 15-December 26 1985-I want to thank him for all his hard work,Kindness,and understanding.But most of all I want to thank him for showing me how to be a real father--My twins would have loved him so much-I Miss him-He was a GOOD MAN. ROBERT HUGH HARGROVE 1929-1985
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Blossom Dearie - sweet voiced, excellent pianist - overlooked because of the other extraordinary talent of the time - Sarah Vaughan, Billie Holiday, Ella Fitzgerald, Anita O'Day - she was, however, a one-of-a-kind. Her "Someone To Watch Over Me" is timeless. "Where does the time go?"
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Some warm thoughts for our dear friend Oroboros, whose Uncle Bus recently passed away.Sounds like a wonderful "Old Man". I know he has a hell of a nephew. May you be forever young.
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my friend lee is a certified dead head..so much so, that i can't follow..he would be what i would concider a true fan..he's met different bandmembers and tells stories about his many experiances on the west coast in the 70's and of course living on the street, riding the rails etc.he talks of an evening in sf offering gerry pizza while shitfaced and making a fool of himself..even in his foolishness he says gerry showed him respect....these days he suffer's from cancer but i have to say he is still allways ingulfed in a dead book or playing his dead music on his guitar or stereo..he seems to be passing us to the bittersweet end but whats sad is his history goes with him..i'm telling my version to keep a little alive...i broke confidence and told him about a time i had with gratefull dead bill..i was speaking at a meeting bill and i had gone to together...i had told him that bill was a genuine good guy and his face lit up as if he allready knew...it seems that being a dead head is a piece of a historical puzzle ..i can take a piece if i need it and you can put it back...either way for people like lee it will allways be...thanks..
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is lucky enuf (or not) to have had someone think of them or remember them in a kind way.......today it crossed my mind that there are surely so many people who struggle with daily existence and pass un-noticed but for ...God.......today i'll pray for them, because mebbe no one else will...
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I just lost a friend named Frank at 45. So young with a lot of life left to live ahead of him. Three kids and his his loving wife He won't be there for the "firsts" I noticed at his wake last night the out pouring of love and comfort shown to this man and his family I was told that he had a line at the funeral home from 4:00 to 9:00 I was one of many who standed in the line I waited for an hour and 15 minutes before I could even pay my respects to his wife, kids, brothers, sister and parents. There are not too many people out there when you meet for the first time to hit it off Frank was one of those people who would engage in conversation with any stranger and then would become his friend I am one of those people I am going to miss Frank and all of our little conversations while hanging out watching our friends band play I guess I will see you when I meet up with you in paradise in the meantime please have a cold one ready for me The Cat
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Similar to Frank, above, Dave, 36, passed away last week, leaving 3 kids and a wife, He was an adventurous fun-loving guy that went to KU and enjoyed the Grateful Dead. Say a prayer or two for his family and friends.
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having just returned to this site after a long absence, its ironic that i should first come acrossthis page.....on Sept 14 2008 I lost my friend, lover partner my everything, my wife of 30+years. We traveled to many shows together and separately over the last 40 years. if any of my old friends are out there... who i have not been in touch with for all these years, this is probably where we would meet again. (Buzzy, in Fl. Georgy P in Brooklyn), We lost Sue, I hope we will all meet again soon. Larry
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it's really raining down on you guys. I'm so sorry.
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My thoughts are with you here. These are beautiful souls who have blessed the lives around them as is shown in the memories that remain. The folks whose lives these wonderful souls touched will be forever richer. There is something very magical and special about all here, they bring out the best in humanity. Love is alive and well here. What a wonderful world. peace, love and hope, pk
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A real head that had the music in his heart. His first show at RFK in '90, he ended up on the stage form the crowd standing right next to Jer for a few before being kindly led offstage. That was some first show. A keyboardist and true friend that was full-on in whatever he endeavored, Dennis is missed very much. Peace-out, brrrooo.
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I was very sad to find out that Hal Kant passed away back in October. He did so much for the boys. His business management skills afforded the band the freedom to focus on the music. Even more importantly, he had integrity and was a very fair and decent man. Something you don't see very often in the music business. RIP Hal. Thanks for taking such good care of the Grateful Dead. I guess it doesn't really matter...anyway...