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  • BobbaLee
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    Mornduvt Our thoughts are with you and your son. Speaking from 20 years experience of listening to my wife Candy(PHd and currently has 3 people on suicide watch) work with many who thought life would be better if they ended it--It won't be. Your friends and parents will never get over it. The pain many think goes away by taking that step comes back and hurts those that really care multiplied uncountable times. Perhaps suggesting that your son become a student counselor to work with fellow students may bring something meaningful and helpful out of this tragedy. Watch the movie "Ordinary People" and talk about it .Your son probably also may harbor feelings of anger at his friend and perhaps feels guilty about it. I am going to sound harsh and if I offend don't take it personally.- Suicide is a selfish act. It is one thing to be in terrible physical pain 80 years old with nothing to look forward to. Adolescent suicide is usually an act of anger towards those people which the child is having a conflict with. It may be no fault of the child and unfair (in the case of bullying) however killing one self is not the answer.It most cases therapy or a very brief hospital stay and willingness to work on improving things would be far better. Sometimes chemical imbalances may account for the depression but not always. If you want to talk off line let me know. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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    a giant hug to all who knew this boy. My prayers go out to his family and yours.
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    Your poor kid! Peace and healing vibes to your son, the family, and your entire community. Such a thing is bewilderingly painful, I KNOW. Strength to you too, to be there to support your son, but sounds like you got that aplenty!********************************** It's the end of the world as we know it, and I feel fine
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    Light, prayers and healing hugs to your son, family - all the families! I am sorry.
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    i can't imagine....no.......i can't....i'll say an extra prayer for all of you. what a monumental bummer....healing vibes to you and yours.........
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    so sorry to hear this, and comfort to all who loved this kid.
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    A big hug goes out to your boy. Some things in life I guess are never meant to be understood.Peace
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    Warm healing thoughts for you, your son and your whole town. I hope your son's friend at least found the peace he was seeking. Pay attention to your friends, folks. You never know when that funny snort, that odd glance, that moment of wry introspection is really a signal of Something Deeper. Just because it's usually nothing serious doesn't mean that this might not be that one time when all they really needs is a genuine smile from a friend to get them back in the game. Smile on your brother, and your sister, too. Try to love one another right now. Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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    Hey Mornduvt, I will keep all of you in my thoughts
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    Hey Now Friends I am asking for some good vibes for my teenage son, and my whole community. Sorry if this is long-winded. My son has always loved the GD music I played (constantly) - I sang him to sleep (badly) with Ripple when he was a baby & he used to make me rewind Fire on the Mountain and play it over and over when he was about four. He had always said how bummed out he was that he would never get to see the Grateful Dead and have that experience. So when the current Dead tour came around we got some cheap "at least I'm in the show" tix for Albany and Sunday in Worcester. We had a fantastic time. Both shows were fun and he said the Scarlet Fire on Sunday was one of the happiest moments of his life. On Monday that good vibe was shattered. As we were driving home to our small town he received a text message informing him that a friend of his had taken his own life over the weekend. My son was / is devastated. He says that the greatest day of his life was followed by the worst. He can't make sense of it, and neither can I, or anyone else in our community. This was a brilliant, talented, well-liked kid, and nobody can understand how this could happen. So I'm calling out for a cosmic hug for my boy... but also my whole town, and the family of the boy who took his life. I can not begin to imagine what they are going through. Peace to all ~ hug your kids...
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to David, and safe travel to him and his lovely wife Rita on their way home.
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when i asked my priest to bless me prior to surgery the oil he used was patchouli. what a surprise THAT was.................david gans get well NOW!!!!!....yes, right NOW!!!
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this from Gans hisself: "Hey all - thanks for the kind thoughts! I am in a hospital in Carson City, Nevada. It turned out not to be pericarditis, but a "mild to moderate" heart attack. Last night I had an angioplasty and I now have three stents in my heart. Had a long meeting with the cardiologist this morning. He expects I will make a more or less complete recovery. I woke up yesterday morning in Lee Vining CA, in a motel overlooking Mono Lake. My plan was to drive out into the Basin & Range to visit Berlin-Ichthyosaur State Park, but I felt kinda weird after breakfast and so I sat in my hotel room until checkout time, hoping the bellyache would pass. Still feeling pretty rocky, I decided to head for the nearest city rather than go ahead with my middle-of-nowhere plan. When I hit Carson City two hours later, I was not feeling much better so I went on into the ER. " more healing vibes and ++++ vibes for all! love&peace.
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Thanks to all of you for your kind thoughts. We spoke at length with the cardiologist today, and he is confident that my recovery will be pretty close to 100%. I have been (for the most part) doing the right things, lifestyle-wise, for several years, but my genetic predisposition to heart disease means I have to start taking some meds. I had to cancel a few gigs, but I will be on my feet and ready to rock with the Reptiles at the Starry Plough in Berkeley on September 4 - extra poignant for me, since it is a memorial for our longtime partner Al Feldstein, who died of a heart attack on June 21. Gans/GD Hour blog
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glad to hear yer ok man. iv'e heard of people's hearts attacking them.....not supposed to be fun
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So glad to hear your doing well !! Keep up the good lifestyle , stay healthy . Best of wishes to ya !!
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we're all sending healing vibes your way....see ya at Schwagstock 42!!!!It'll be great to finally meet you in person Brother. www.theschwag.com "In a bed, in a bed, by the waterside I will lay my head. Listen to the river sing sweet songs, to rock my soul."
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We'll just know that Love willdominate, eradicate, and destroy all suffering.
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David I am a devoted listener and love all the shows hope you get better soon. I am also watching the terrible fires in LA and am praying for a nice big series of rain storms to help out we could use less humisdty in Miami. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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are there circles and arrows involved?
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of each one to be used as evidence? Heehee Johnman!********************************** Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge. Mark Twain
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Thought we were pretty continuously there :) Good health vibes to you David. How negligent of me not to have said so already! Wish you peace and health. ********************************** Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge. Mark Twain
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get well soon david, please
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May you stay forever young... Sorry you lost your longtime friend. Galaxy beams and hugs!
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My wife Candy is in the hospital with the swine flu and pneumonia in both lungs. She should be home in 3 or 4 days. Please everyone get your flu shots. There a lot of very sick people waiting to get admitted with complications from the flu. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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Best warm wishes for a full and speedy recovery. Will be vibing you as strongly as I can. How is your daughter doing BobbaLee?********************************** Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge. Mark Twain
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+++ vibes for all and ++++ vibes for folks in Samoa and Indonesia. peace.
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Thanks for all the kindnessshe is a little better my daughter is fine And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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Get well soon wishes for Candy and for anyone else who needs them !!
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Candy has been moved to the ICU she has a very serious pneumonia she is a fighter. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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Am keeping Candy in my thoughts. Strength to your family!********************************** Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge. Mark Twain
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My prayers and healing beams to Bobbalee, Candy and David Gans. Wow, I had heard David was sick but three stints sick...? I had no idea! Thank goodness you decided to stop in at the ER dude. Bobbalee, hang in there... our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
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Candy is sedated and on a ventilator which sounds worse than it is. This allows her body to rest and the machine actually forces more oxygen and medicine into her lungs. Her temperature is normal and the bacteria count is dropping . It will be a long journey however I feel more hopeful than yesterday. In speaking with the ER and ICU nurses this is the beginning of a Tidal wave of Flu to Pneumonia cases. By midnite they had admitted 5 other patients all under 55 with the same problem, Get your swine flu shots and stay on top of anyone feeling sick and not wanting to go to the doctor. Thanks to all our extended family! Love Bob and Candy And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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Candy is sedated and on a ventilator which sounds worse than it is. This allows her body to rest and the machine actually forces more oxygen and medicine into her lungs. Her temperature is normal and the bacteria count is dropping . It will be a long journey however I feel more hopeful than yesterday. In speaking with the ER and ICU nurses this is the beginning of a Tidal wave of Flu to Pneumonia cases. By midnite they had admitted 5 other patients all under 55 with the same problem, Get your swine flu shots and stay on top of anyone feeling sick and not wanting to go to the doctor. Thanks to all our extended family! Love Bob and Candy And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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thanks for the updates on Candy. Sending her all good wishes!
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Keeping Candy in our prayers. Best thoughts to all who are in need.
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It is very important that the whole world consist of people who have nothing but positive vibes for each other.
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Well today we all including the wonderful staff were smiling a little-her oxygen level continues to rise and her temp. dropped a little more.It is strange how the terrible becomes routine-When I walk into the ICU unit I look at the monitors to see what her oxygen/blood, breathing and blood pressure rates are. As I suit up and put on my gloves and mask I ask the attending nurse how the latest X ray was and the PEEP level of the respirator. A week ago I knew nothing of these terms or what the numbers meant. Now I ask as casually as I would if I asking for cream in a cup of coffee. It is surreal. I am looking at ( this a wild guess) thousands of dollars of trained professionals per hour in the ICU, millions of dollars worth of equipment and medicines. In one ICU in a hospital that 4. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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for Candy and BobbaLeePeace & Love, Gigi xoxo Here comes sunshine, here comes sunshine!!
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I just read my post of Oct 5 and today it seems so long ago. By the 7th Candy's situation was getting worse the H1N1 was still showing up in tests her white cell count was low and her oxygenination level was slowly dropping. The Doctors told me to to be prepared for the worse and call the kids home. That afternoon the doctor in the ICU in charge of infectous diseases asked a friend at the CDC and The FDA to release an experimental anti-viral drug. It stops the virus from reproducing. They flew it down by courier from Atlanta and that afternoon they started administering it. Now it was literally a matter of keeping her alive long enough to allow her body to kill the H1N1 off. Sunday and Monday were tough I sat by her through much of the day holding her hand. Monday afternoon her oxygen level began to pick upBy Tuesday morning her temp had dropped her oxygen level increased even more. Tuesday afternoon the doctors and staff thought her lungs were sounding better. The medicine had worked. Each day has shown an improvement. She is not out of the woods yet but I think We are real close to saying she has beaten the H1N1 and the pneumonia. Thanks all for all of your love and thoughts. Bob and Candy, Matt,Alex, David and Missy Mihm And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee