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Here's the place to talk about our departed loved ones -- friends, family members, tour buddies, and others we've lost along the way.
cc, I am so sorry for your loss,
and condolences to you and yours. I can't imagine the heartache and shock.
Ride the rough waves, brother, hope that gentler seas are ahead.
Take care
"....She sang a little while and then flew off"
The Truth is realized in an instant, the act is practiced step by step.
Sorry about your loss, cc
My thoughts of concern and grief are with you, Joe.
Dear Joe
I've always thought your Wife must be a very interesting person, with quite a tale to tell. So sorry Joe. Positive Vibes headed your way.
"River gonna take me
Sing me sweet and sleepy
Sing me sweet and sleepy
all the way back back home
It's a far gone lullaby
sung many years ago
Mama, Mama many worlds I've come
since I first left home
Goin home, goin home
by the waterside I will rest my bones
Listen to the river sing sweet songs
to rock my soul...'
PEACE
cc our condolences to you
I can`t begin to imagine what your going through. most positive beams to you Joe .
so sorry cc
am truly sadden at your loss, how devastating .peace and love beams for nao's journey.
so sorry joe,big hug for you.
cc
I'm sorry for your loss. It looks like Nao gave it all she had. I had a friend, after a battle with cancer and a slide into mental illness, end his own life three weeks ago. Our hearts go out to you.
To every thing there is a season, and a time for every purpose under the heaven.
Peace
thank you, everyone
thank yoou, everyone; means more than I can say.
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"for CC Joe and Nao
grief like a snowbank
melting to tears
running through eyes
down the windswept
plains of the cheek
streams rivulets
rivers riptides
away away all
beyond the grave sea
the great gray ocean
listless and still
away away all
to the waterfall
at the end of the world"
-- Robert Hunter
http://www.deadnetcentral.com/WebX?7@619.XGaqbSO6AKp.1@.4a858023/53296
as usual, Hunter's words speak volumes. thank you rh.
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all I can say now is thank you, everyone.
it really, really means alot.
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thnkks, as always, Hunter, for the words; means more than I can possiblely hope to express. it'll be read at her service.
love&peace.
Joe
This one comforts me alot, so will share with you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pudOFG5X6uA
Hold on! Take comfort in your friends.
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Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge.
Mark Twain
from tears to oceans
I know the place , CC Joe, from tears to salty oceans . But remember, some day , that even oceans have shores and are confined to a planet where even a lost coconut can find an island . May we all go safely on cosmic trails .
thank you all
I am trying hard to think of words;
just know, please know everyone here; your words mean a lot to me. thank you all.
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you all knew her, you all danced with her and hugged her at the shows... she was never more impressed with spontaneous human warmth than at shows or meeting strangers on the road who shared a love of what we love.
this community, online though it may be, is part of a larger tribe; we may not see each other's faces as we dance, eyes on the stage, we may not see each other's faces, eyes on the screen as our fingers dance on the keys; we may not 'hear' the words, the music drowns the voices out... but the warmth is here as it always was there; as it always will be there.
Hunter's (thank's again rh, can't thank you enough) words were read, translated and read in Japanese, Thai, Lao, Khemer, Korean, Chinese, Tagalong, German, French, and also read in English. there could have been more languages, she had a wide circle of international friends, but I thought 10 readings had a certain symetry.
Black Muddy River (maybe her favourite song) was played for her, and So Many Roads for us; and some other music she loved... people spoke, and heard some stories I never heard before... there could not be anythhing happy in this, but there was some dignity and people stronger than myself let me lean on them.
parents should not have to attend the funeral of their child, an older brother and an older sister, and a younger sister should not have to go through this. her nieces and nephews... she and I never had kids of our own. she and I used to 'joke' and she always said she wanted to die first; I knew her love in that comment, but i still had to insist I wanted to die first for the same reasons I reckon. like everything else, she had her way.
( -;
we also used to 'joke' based on some Woody Allen line, "I was the boss, and she was the decision maker" it was, I heard from the doctor, much too late to really do anything by the time she learned of the cancer. so yes, she was protecting us all with that decision to keep things to herself these past couple of months.
her family is the only real family I ever had; completely loving people, completely caring people; unlike any I have ever known. her father was left an orphan by WWII American bombs; her mother, when she was a child, was literally shot at by a machine gun, dive bombing American plane as she was walking home with a friend through some rice fields after working at the war machine factory that so many children were conscripted into in that history -- yet, they accepted me, an ugly American, into their heart. our little house is about 3 hours away from their home; so we saw each other often enough, (or not often enough in retrospeck) they invited me to come live with them if I want to in the future; part of her ashes will remain in the family home, in the Buddhist tradition, some put into the family grave nearby. sad irony that her mother is a cancer survivor, and facing other health issues recently, all Nao wanted to do was help her family.
there are things i must do -- will hit the road to scatter some of her ashes in some of the places she loved most. have to see and tell people she loved and who loved her, and have to walk up the trails of villages alone... some news can not be shared by phone or email.
all she ever wanted and did was to help other people, less fortunate than herself; and that is her legacy. I'll do my best to continue her work; try to live her life, best I can.
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thank you all for all of your kindness. it means more than I can ever hope to express.
prayers and positive vibes for her family is all I ask; parents should never have to attend the funeral of their child.
(((DNC))) thank you.
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there are some roads we rode on together to re-visit, and other new roads I must face--
the ride can never be balanced without her on the back of the bike.
love and peace.
Oh, dear....CC....
you've said it all.....my condolences........XOXOXO
I can't even imagine the
I can't even imagine the sadness you feel. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
And the road goes on forever....
BobbaLee
thank you
thanks everybody. heading on the raod soon to take care of things; be back when I am able.
meanwhile, please know how much this space and your support means to me.
"so it’s broken hearts and dusty roads
and somewhere there my soul explodes
with every piece of every day
and everything I meant to say
and where I’ll be, no one can tell
I’m fishing in a wishing well
and i’m doing the very best I can
I just hope you’ll understand
now I seen all the lights that shine
countless colors in my mind
they climb and swim and spark and glow
and ask me what it is I know
I know a thing called love
a thing called thunder in the sky above
now I know a thing called pain
now I know a thing called rain"
--- Jackie Greene
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we was there together for this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObCXBkB_o1A
"Will you have some tea
At the theatre with me?
We did it all - didn't we?
Jumped every wall - instinctively
Unravelled codes - ingeniously
Wired all the roads - so seamlessly
We made it work
But one of us failed
That makes it so sad
A great dream derailed
One of us gone
One of us mad
One of us, me
All of us sad
All of us sad - lean on my shoulder now
The story is done - it's getting colder now
A thousand songs - still smoulder now
We played them as one - we're older now
All of us sad
All of us free
Before we walk from the stage
Two of us
Will you have some tea?
Will you have some tea
At the theatre with me?"
---Pete Townshend
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thank you all.
(((DNC)))
LOVE&PEACE.
safe travles Joe
may the roads you travle bring you peace. we`l all be here for you when you return.
CC Galaxy hugs and beams
The Who Tea and Theater - very, very beautiful. I am sorry. Stay strong.! big love beams, too!
To: Pattie Baird
R.I.P.........1 of my best "sandbox buddies" when as teenagers we'd pile into my small car & run up to the Family Dog @ the Great Hwy, park & all places to hear the Grateful Dead, Quicksilver, Big Brother, Airplane....who else????......I can still hear your laugh XOXOmay the 4 winds blow you safely home.....
Gypsy
I am so sorry for your loss. You guys sound like me and my sisters and a couple of friends, piled in the car heading to the city for another evening of music.... Usually the same people in the car and I bet the same for you, so I know how tight a friendship you are grieving. Take care & peace
condolences...
hugs and warm thoughts go out to gypsy cowgirl...as long as you keep pattie in your heart she is never really gone..HUUUUUUGS
Thanks Docks & Noonie
Thanks for your comments.......I tell her kids (now in their 30's) how we'd pile about 7 or 8 of us in my 5 seater 544 Volvo......nutty teenagers that we were-driving was safer 40 yrs ago-not as many freeways & cars, too.....RIP Pattie
Gypsy cowgirl
how hard it is to lose friends along the way.
many good wishes for Pattie wherever you are and for GC still here in this crazy old world
oh and good to hear from you too johnman we were starting to worry about you
greetings dear friends from the frozen steppes of Kazakhstan
love to all
CB
Not to worry....CB
send me a postcard, though from where ever you are....I love foreign stamps.....thanks for all your comments........Pattie had a good life, that's all we can hope for everyone....xoxo
Pattie....
would be blown away by all these comments & condolences.....! she loved the Grateful Dead & we had so much fun together......should I mention now it was her coercing that I was to be the one to smuggle in the gallon of wine into the Fillmore West summer 1969?? I rarely drank, too.....teenaged wastelands.......
John Lennon - lost to us 29 years ago
thank you still and always
If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite.
William Blake
James Gurley
Founding member and guitarist extraordinaire of Big Brother and the Holding Company passes away from a heart attack on December 20, 2009. A post more eloquent and informed than I could craft can be found here. Another tragic loss of an icon of the generation.
Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
Another little piece.....
of our collective heart, gone. So sad to hear, this.
If there is ...
...one record I will never forget, it's "Cheap Thrills". Long before I got into the Dead, who were an acquired taste, were Big Brother & the Holding Co. They could be full-on, into your face or get way down - and soooo bluesy - "Didn't I make you feel ..." And. of course, Mr. Gurley's guitar always led the way. Thank you.
" Where does the time go? "
My sister Patty...
Thinking of you sis and missing you this Holiday season :(It's been 3 years and I miss you every minute of everyday!!
Dance with Jerry <3
R.I.P. to the 36 who died 12/22/77 in Westwego, LA
I began my career in the grain business 6 weeks after the Continental Grain elevator blew up in Westwego, LA, across the Mississippi River from New Orleans.Grain dust is highly volatile, especially within confined space.
Danny Goldsher
Long Time Family member Danny Goldsher ,from Long Island NY. has passed on 12/23/2009He will be missed by many.
Tough week for the birds
A favorite winter-time activity at home in Kansas is feeding and watching the birds who visit any of the 4 feeders I have in the backyard. Before Christmas, I noticed a female cardinal without a tail. Needless to say, I think she's perished, as she has not been around for awhile. Perhaps the ever-increasing influx of mourning doves describes her fate? Stay tuned for more...
Ian Drury, Very good indeed!
Farewell IanSex'n'drugs'n rock'n'roll
Hit me with your rythm stick
A physically challenged maniac for the 80s.
RIP Ian