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    Absolutely he hung on riggsjr.You are very lucky that he was surrounded by the ones who loved him in his final moments. Its a huge comfort for the soul after death. For the last images and sensations to be so full of love and compassion in those hours, minutes and seconds before the journey into another realm is so deeply powerful, so precious, that we won't fully comprehend until it's our turn, should we be so fortunate. For me to witness my Dad laughing with a throaty cough on the morning of the day he died, at a perfectly cheesy joke, when he was obviously deeply uncomfortable and wanting to pass over because the pain was too much to take was a blessing i never take lightly. Sometimes i forget, like you do when life continues and the years roll by, but then when it suddenly hits you like a lightning bolt, and they speak to you in your dreams, those tears come from the very pit of your stomach and make you realise that you were a part in something that others only dream of. We are indeed extremely lucky.
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    I lost my Dad 8 years ago. While he was in hospital and after we had been told to expect the worst at any time,I had to attend a meeting 70 miles away ( a sales meeting which the company refused to release me from), I asked the guy in charge of the meeting if I could leave my mobile on vibrate and explained my circumstances, to be told all mobiles must be switched off. When the meeting ended and as I was leaving the building I switched on my phone to see 23 missed calls/messages. It turns out my boss, secretary, wife and sister had been phoning from around half an hour after the start of the meeting to say my Dad had taken a turn for the worse and the end was very near. Luckily after a frantic drive I managed to get to the hospital around 20-30 minutes before my dad passed away, so was with him at the end. However when I think of the anguish and frustration my Mother, sister and wife were put through as they frantically tried to get a hold of me I still feel very bitter that one individual caused them additional grief due to his lack of compassion. On the brighter side, I always try to take something good from what life throws at me, and I truly believe my Dad hung on until I could be with him and share his final moments which I still treasure to this day.
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    Spare a thought for many people today - Including the families with small children that died in a cruiser accident on the River Volga in Russia yesterday. Looks positively awful. The victims of the train crash in Fatephur, India. And the recent severe drought in East Africa. Yep, it's the poor who suffer again. We don't know how lucky we are.....
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    it do....it surely do....
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    so sorry, both of you.
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    ((HUGS)) Johnman! And I get impatient with myself for still hurting so for my Dad after 7 months********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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    It was a tumor that got my mom...they tried to cut it out, but that just woke it up, and made it grow. I went home on emergency leave for the surgery, missing a Garcia show onboard the carrier I was assigned to, but it was weeks later that we lost her. I never did get to say goodbye, though I know she's watchin' out for me. It's been almost 25 years and it still hurts... I expect it always will.....
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    Yes it was johnman, don't lie!!!!!! Ha ha!!! I know what you mean about missing a parent; i lost my Dad to cancer in 2004. I was at work when i got the phone call. Managed to see him that morning too and told him a joke. Was hallucinating through a Dick's Picks at the time; worked out that the moment he died was just as "Looks Like Rain" started. It sure did Dad, it sure did... But, they've only left the physical plane; sometimes no consolation when you wake up at 2.00am hurting, but they ARE all around us. We just have to readjust our vision; it's time for the peripheral to become our main means of focus; the sidereal our ability to see. Still wish he was here though.....
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    I miss my mom....
    I wanna take her to a show...Mom, ya shouldn't have left so young. Ya didn't meetcher grandson, even....if you were still here, I know my family would not have imploded (or deploded, or hexplowdid, or.....or.... whatever).....Dang it, Mom......just plain MISS you.....aLOT.
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    It was to the spammer whom dear marye sent to spamhell, where all good (huh?) spammers go. Golly.....I'm not a hassshoe....jeeebers....yek ek ek ek ek ek ek....(popeye laff)..rarrarrf!!! wagwagwag
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In memory of Maya Angelou, thank you, you will be at the top of my summer reading list. Peace to all.
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So sad to hear that Rik Mayall died yesterday morning. Without a shadow of a doubt, one of the world's finest comedians. To witness him on screen or on stage at full throttle was truly something special. "Fireball creativity" is absolutely right. Commenting after his accident which left him in a coma for five days - "I beat Jesus Christ," he said. "He was dead for three days at Easter. When I crashed it was the day before Good Friday, Crap Thursday, and I was technically dead until Easter Monday - that's five days ... beat him 5-3." The world burns less brightly today.
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Although this was only one of many shows Rik graced, it was one of my all time favorite comedies. Rik Mayall as Rik and Ade Edmondson as Vyvyan the violent punker were over the top. and following in that same vein: "There were times when Rik and I were writing and we almost died laughing. They were some of the most carefree stupid days I ever had, and I feel privileged to have shared them with him. And now he's died for real. Without me. Selfish bastard." -Ade Edmondson
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We can make a prayer pillow using our lost loved ones clothes. We can design it from our own creativity and can place a front pocket to keep a notebook and our favorite pen. It will give us some warm feelings when our arms long to hold our loved ones.
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Heres to Jerry your music continues to soothe my soul, brings tears to my eyes and makes me happy all in one crazy glorious way that nothing else can do. Such a long long time to be gone and a short time to be there.
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Some of you may remember Jimi C, who was a regular here for a while. Sad to report that he died peacefully yesterday after a long fight with cancer, during which he remained brave and good humoured to the end. I know his very European ironic and offbeat style was sometimes misunderstood by some here, but he was a dear sweet funny man who will be greatly missed. Tiger Lilly also formerly of this place) got to visit Jimi in England in July, which meant a lot to both of them. Sad.
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Robin really made us laugh. What a gift he was. And is. As Bobby said after Lowell George died (in 1979, he dedicated the GD's second set at the Portland Raceway to Lowell) "he was good while he lasted". The Truth is realized in an instant, the act is practiced step by step.
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Funniest man who ever lived, fastest mind in the world, I don't believe in what they all say about suicide, I know you are in Heaven. Lots of thunder last night, it was all the angels laughing.
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Good while he lasted. A very sad day indeed, Bob Weir cancels all remaining 2014 concerts and 2015 Jamaica show with furthur. You will be missed Bobby, it must have been difficult for you to reach this decision, who has been touring and playing on the road for 50 years. I know that playing in the band is your life and without it we hope you can find peace and stay with us for many many more years. As I have said before, I don't care if you never play again, just please take care of yourself for your own sake and that of your family, they need you more than any of us fans. I do not want to see your name on this thread now or in the near future.
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Our Captain of Laughter has left us all a bit depressed, wish he could've left us laughing but depression is rough. I could tell you all about it but it would just make you depressed. I'm just a believer that things will get better
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So sorry to learn of the passing of this guy, whose sax work on Gerry Rafferty's Baker Street is one of my favorite things of all time.
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Thanks for noting this marye. R.I.P. RR
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RIP Rock Scully, what a guy. The heart of Gold band must have needed a manager. Jerry, John and Rock together again.
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Our poet has left us."It doesn't matter who you love, or how you love, but that you love." The flight plan for today is smooth sailing to the promised land. "like a steam locomotive, rolling down the tracks....."
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passed away yesterday of complications from a heart attack. One of the originals, founder of Big Brother and the Holding Co. and helped get Janis her start. Thanks Sam.
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Mike Schnieders, known by many as just "Schnieders", who many of those on tour have known since he was a child touring with his father, passed away Monday the 16th at 1:30am from heart failure and breathing complications. He was 32 years old. He'd endured two heart surgeries in the past year and had fought so hard to stay with us. He attended countless shows in his life and practically lived on lot for long periods of time, wherever the music was playing was home to him. You are his family and so I wanted to pass this along to you and to everyone who was hoping to see him in July. He will be with us in spirit all weekend you can be sure. He was buried with many roses and multiple sets of wings and attended by hundreds of family and friends. Thank you all who came to the funeral and have extended your love during this tragic time. We love you more than words can tell, Mike. Gratefully yours, Whisper/Liz (wife of mike Schnieders)
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I didn't know Mike personally, but we all know/knew his spirit and we are collectively saddened at your loss. He will be remembered and honored at our gathering in Chicago. From the Sunshine Daydream family to you, our heartfelt condolences go out to you and Mike's family.
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My prayers go out to all the family of the recent airliner that went down in the Alps . now saying was intentional. I pray the loved ones who lost family members find some peace and rest without the tragic thoughts if even for a minute.
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It's hard to think of how frightened the passengers must have been. Even harder yet, to think how that will haunt their loved ones. Fare you well...
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passed away from a massive stroke on Monday, the 13th of April. This was very sudden and unexpected. He had just played golf on Friday and all was well, went to bed and never woke up. They kept him alive on the machines until Monday, and pulled the plug on that morning and he passed. I will miss him, he was a great guy. nuthin left to do but smile, smile, smile...
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I am real sorry to read your post. Passed away is such a gentle way of saying we lost someone. Again sorry keep the faith your not alone in this world .
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Sorry brother peace to you and your family
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for the great vibes and condolences, our love will truly not fade away.
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A bluesman has died. A bluesman named BB King has passed on. RIP
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ALOHA NUI LOA--until we meet again----Riley "Blues Boy" King---morphed into B.B. KING----a true legend!!!! Now the Thrill is really gone.......Mahalo B.B. for the blues who inspired & influenced many.....
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oRNETTE cOLEMAN
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Almost Six months since we spoke. Since a lot of things, everything. You are loved madly, missed so badly,11:11 always... Forever... Each Universe, shine on you crazy diamond. Soon come. This life and longer. I do so miss your face.
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Always breaks my heart when someone posts here. as you know sisterearth your in my prayers for you and your 11:11
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Remembering Bill Graham...he passed from the earthly bonds on October 25, 1991, doing what he wanted to do...promote performers organize benefits and throw festivals. According to Wikipedia, "Graham was killed in a helicopter crash west of Vallejo, California on October 25, 1991, while returning home from a Huey Lewis and the News concert at the Concord Pavilion. Graham had attended the event to discuss promoting a benefit concert for the victims of the 1991 Oakland firestorm" I was working for BGP (Bill Graham Presents), catering at the show in the SF Bay Area the day he died, and what had started as a joyous gathering quickly transformed into a very sad afternoon and evening. We were shocked, floored, and all left shaking our heads at the loss...true to form, the shows "must go on" and that evening they did. The GD had a series of four shows at the Oakland Coliseum two days later, and as I recall there was a large photo of Bill on a huge easel and black sash, complete with funeral wreath, stage right, silhouetted with a spotlight all evening all four days. Over the five years I was affiliated with their organization, Bill would pop in just about every show. He always attended the GD shows, and made his rounds like he was at home. He would sometimes grab a taste of what was being served, look over the back stage setup, and sometimes even checked out the stockroom shelves we set up with all the show's foods, spices and accessories. He seemed to care about the little details and always said hi to the workers....especially his own friendly "security" staff, known universally as "The Bluecoats" for their distinctive powder blue vests. You did good, Bill. Thanks for your life-long dedication to promoting live music. Rest in Peace, and long live the music you loved.
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Well said Geomeister!! A very nice tribute to a great man and visionary. Peace to all our friends out there.
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Chef and best dad I know Kurt Koerwitz is asking Family to help support his best friend and chef Mark Malars family of a beautiful caring Mom and 3 children. He was taken too soon from Pancreatic Cancer. So if you're a chef or deadhead or ever made a grilled cheese PLZ kick down a buck or two. TY! (~);-) https://www.gofundme.com/xpfxaw2s
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Today would of been my girl Gina's 46th birthday. Wish I had the chance to kiss your forehead one more time little one. God Bless you and you family. Forever a bright light in this crazy world in which we live. Much love
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Just reading the New York times , so funny that commercial makes me think of Anthony my grandpa ! Also heard about the guy crushed in his car by that 17 storie crane in NYC , my heart gos out to all Who LOST people ,may all of them REST IN PEACE ☀️
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RIP BROTHER
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In 2014 one of most innovative blues/rock guitarist's to ever pick up the instrument , went on to His final resting place. A true native of the state of Texas , who influenced countless others, also with disregard for racial discrimination.Mr John Dawson Winter paved the way for more acceptability and appreciation for blues and it,s child Rock n Roll.I only had the honor of seeing Him perform live way back in 1980 at the Woolman Skating Rink in Central Park,N.Y.C.This show was a barn burner and He played a wide selection of classic tunes as well as real hidden gems from the His treasure chest of signature tunes.Never Mind Johnny B. Goode, Johnny Winter was always good for the preservation of soul,mind and spirit.May He forever Rest In Peace!
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Ronnie Corbett - 4 December 1930 – 31 March 2016 A man was marooned on a desert island. One day a beautiful woman arrives in a wet suit. 'When did you last have a smoke?' she asks. 'Five years ago.' So she gets out a cigar and he smokes it. She unzips her wet suit a bit and says, 'When did you last have a drink?' He said, 'Five years ago.' So she gets out a bottle of Scotch and he has a drink. Then she unzips her wet suit a bit more and says, 'And when was the last time you played around?' He looks at her in amazement and says: 'You're not telling me you've got a set of golf clubs in there?'
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Ronnie Corbett - 4 December 1930 – 31 March 2016 A cement mixer collided with a prison van on the Kingston by-pass. Motorists are asked to be on the look-out for 16 hardened criminals.
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Discovery of RC was inevitable given my love of Britcoms (or, more accurately, adoration of that dry, intelligent, satirical, innuendo-laced, and seemingly inimitable species of humour appropriately native to a people who worship tea, exalt mere toast, treat sunshine as a newsworthy event, and recklessly pluralize things ("maths"?). I digress; last year, I purchased a multi-zone DVD player JUST so I could watch the Complete 2 Ronnies collection I found on ebay (actually I had to pay for it). For the uninitiated, take quick utube detour!/bloody hell, K
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....and another one bites... RIP Merle Haggard, ya done good. Don't let those who proceeded you push you around...you earned your spot in the band. And to pass away on the same day you were born: that's a true musician's way to end a riff. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQA3x3GpBF0
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Merle was a giant. I was actually going to make a point of going out to see him when he rolled through town this year. Never did. Ahhhhh man. Bummer.