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  • TigerLilly
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    Weather report was predicting rain and storms
    But instead the sun is beaming through the clouds. It may be a coincidence, but it feels better to imagine that my dad is shining on us today.
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    absolutely, you're not alone at ALL.my sincere condolences TxJed; a fine measure of the person you must be that, after such a loss, you apologise for any "inactivity" or ignoring fellow forum users. that says a lot. the Dead was absolutely vital, essential and a real guide for me after my Dad died; for me too, the music reduced me to a curled up ball of hurt and a beaming outstretched smile that wanted to radiate on all others who have suffered so. sometimes throughout the same Jerry solo. take good care of yourself. if you ever want to vent a little, in rage at the injustice, or in gentle reflection of the good times shared, you know where we all are.
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    Yikes TX
    so sorry for your loss.
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    Am sending you all of the compassion that I can. I know from personal experience that there are very few words to say to someone who has lost a loved one-especially so suddenly; but please know that you are in my heart. Grief can feel so very lonely, but rest assured that you are not alone.
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    Apologies are in order...
    I just want to apologize to those who have left me messages, and for any vines that I may have dropped in the last year or so.I had experienced a bit of unemployment, then found a temp job 200 miles away leaving only the weekends that I could be home with my sweetie. Well, she had been experiencing increasing health issues, and upon my arrival home one Friday I found that she had passed on as she was getting ready for bed the previous evening, not long after I had last spoken with her. Needless to say, my priorities have taken a profound shift, and I'm still sorting out just what to do, in what order, with myself, my home situation and everything I had been involved in up to this point. She wasn't much of a Dead fan, not liking live recordings in general, but she did have a few favorites and had no problem with my interests in the scene, and otherwise was the epitome of a deadhead earth-mother in her embracing the loving ideals the group holds so close . Needless to say, the Dead's music has helped me with surviving this loss, and, while many selections still make me break down, others can't help but lift me back up. It may still be awhile before I am more active here, and my life will still be in crisis mode for the remainder of the year at least, but I felt that I owed an apology for my total inactivity.
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    and um another l, xo.Love is... December 5 and June 12. Love is... 365 dusks and dawns, xo. Love is... the entire universe in one tear. Love IS. -----------------(-----@ @@@@@@@@@@@@
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    Dear Tiger Lilly,Good Morning. I watched the video you made and posted for your Dad's 1 year anniversary of passing. It was so beautiful, thank you for sharing it. I've been thinking about it over the days that have passed since I watched it. You did a great job of capturing the love you shared. Thank you for choosing to post this video, I have been touched by death so many times and I felt the celebration of his life in this video, never stop celebrating him! I lost my financee and have been ever changed by it. Sometimes I want to wish him back but I am sure he is in a better place. So I live each day knowing a better place waits for me and what could ever be wrong with that. We are surrounded by goodness and it is everywhere, if you look at right. I wanted to leave you a big hug (O) and a smile so big it hurts. One of my dearest friend's-- better known as One-armed Jane (She only had one arm-she lost the other one in a accident) well her family used to tell her they loved her so much it hurt and I could never understand it>>>til I felt it one time. Your video reminded me of her family, RIP Jane B. TL~Keep your beautiful lovelight shining, they're thousands of great days ahead. May your holidays be a complete celebration! Maybe give everyone a Yankees cap to keep him on their minds, xo! Hopefully he'll inspire thoes Yankees and help them for a great season next spring, they need it! I don't know...if I've said the right things but I felt like I wanted to say them, and so I did. Death is so permanent but love is everlasting, so love is the trump card ~everyday! Love wins, winner! Blessings Forever and Ever to You and Yours, Sherry B ----------TigerLilly------(-----@
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    that's a lovely post sherbear.you should be so proud to spread so much positivity. to shine bright light in a world like this is no small feat. you indeed look at it right.
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    Sherbear, what you wrote meant so much to me that I copied it into a document, so I can keep it. The fact that you saw what I was trying to say means the world to me. I cried buckets full when I made that, but I simply had to do something constructive with this grief, but I also smiled, cuz he was something else!! I even put a joke in there, that my brother would get-the photo where he has food in front of him, and the caption says "that was the best meal I ever had". He ALWAYS said that after he ate in a restaurant or with friends. He's still shining, I KNOW he is, and so are all of our loved ones that we have lost. My gigantickest hug back to you!! You are obviously a beautiful person!
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    To ALL the Other Ones here------------------------------(-----@ Celebrate the LOVE not the Loss! @@@@@@@@ ------------(-------@ @@@@@@@@@@@@ I LOVE YOU, ALL!
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Another true musical and artistic visionary gone. RIP Capt. Beefheart.
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Gerry Rafferty was only 63. I still hear Baker Street fairly often on the FM radio. Reminds me of a girl named Jill I once ran with, briefly, from Evergreen to Doylestown then down to Boulder.
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using a place where we remember those we miss, to further your greed. I can't believe you'd put an ad in here...what gall.
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the spammer is a human being. Probably not.
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some lower lifeform, I'm certain
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automated opportunistic crapola...
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I had thought since the same spammer posted different messages on different forums that it was an individual, but I'm don't know much about this automated stuff, other than I lost my job due to automation.
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I can't form grammatically correct sentences, either..
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Any body that was a teen in the 70's can remember Don Kirshner's Rock Concert on TV. How many parties revolved around that when the parents weren't home?
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Very sorry your dad and cat passed on...octopus hugs and healing rays for a decade
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and midnite special but don had the coolest bands. he recorded a time in history. bummed to be too young and home on a weekend but the best thing about staying up :)
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Who could forget the television show, "Don Kirshner’s Rock Concert" and the barriers it broke not only in the television market but also in the nation’s cultural mindset of music on TV by shedding the over-rehearsed and lip synced production most Americans had become used to since the ‘50s? Kirshner also produced the hit TV series "The Monkeys" and contributed the bulk of the song writing for that show. He was inducted into the Song Writers Hall of Fame in 2007. R.I.P. Don Kirshner...
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I appreciate that. Especially reading it tonight cuz have been almost washed under by a sunami if grief that came outta nowhere this evening.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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and it will....for awhile...you're strong, you'll get through it, pal...
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Grandmother to Tigerlilly's kids.......RIP Oma
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Fitness guru...many of us saw his exercise program, one of the first, on the TV as we were growing up. 96 years of age, and was still in better shape than alot of 30 year olds
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we need all the strength we can get right bout now. all been a bit too much for my kids to swallow -4 losses in 2 months.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Gary Moore!Only 58-how sad!!!!!! ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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So sorry about your loses recently TigerLilly, as if life isn't hard enough by its own merits. I can't possibly understand how you feel with all you've been through but my prayers are with you always (even when I'm not around here).
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My older brother Bill died in 1999 from Lukemia at the age of 56. Thanks to Bill he would "arrainged" for me to babysit.so I could go and see the greatful dead. My dad was a strick trip{Yes I loved him}but he expected us to be in the house by 9:30 at the age of 17.My brother had three adorable kids, he would call my dad and tell him.that he and his wife was going out and they needed me to babysit. I woudl then go to the concert and then go home the next morning when Bill picked me up at the bus station in Atlantic City then drive me home. Rest in peace Bill. I miss you still.
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is a great brother. So sorry for your loss.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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I just found out our old friend Kevin Dougherty passed away back in 2009 In Eugene... We had many colorful experiences together. Fun in SF! Great shows. Had families. Did our things. My wife's & my last show was at Autzen, hanging with Kevin & Jane & our kids. I am finding that getting old is hard because of the people that you lose... I love you Bro...
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Rest in peace Bear, you changed my life like so many others. I will always remember that purple haze, orange sunshine, yellow sunshine and blue cheer that you turned the world onto, you were the greatest. Without you, there would be no grateful dead.
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Long live the legacy and the work of Bear! May his memory cause no man or woman harm! he faster we go the rounder we get!
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Sad way to go. Thanks for everything.
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The Orange Juice may be safer, but we are saddened by your passing. Thanks for helping to create the SF atmosphere and for laying the ground work on the sound system.
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A sad day, just does not seem to be the way Bear should have gone. A survivor, in many ways ahead of his times, both technologically and perhaps psychologically. While his pharmacological roles were certainly important, there was far more to the man. R.I.P.
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It is a very sad day. His vision of sound broke through barriers decades before anyone on the planet. We will miss you Bear, but your molecules will rain down on us forever. And for that we will all be better.
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Enormous gentle vibes to Bear's family...came through many fights. Thank-you/om gate
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another sad passing that came too soon! thank you Bear for the sights n'sounds.PEACE
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just got a SYF tatt last week then bear passed think I'm gonna add another tear.
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Thanks for being, Bear. I'll meet you at the jubilee.
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My allowabull folklore about Bear ("summary") "Do you really want to tell me I can *()&$^&*?" "Do Bears Shit in the Forest??" (the biggest Southpark Smile possible on this pusser) keep your character, enjoy living, share your fortune, OXOX Merple Reddin
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thanks for all the help and inspiration you gave me back in the 60's..
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but means the world to me personally. May 1st my dad's friends are having a memorial picnic, in his honor. I am going, but I am not sure how well I can pull it off without having an emotional meltdown. BUT I love it that his friends have decided to carry on his annual picnic, in his memory. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Furthur did a great tribute to Bear at one of their shows. Played a rockin' Alice D. Millionare, but the whole show was tribute. And it all was great. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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Hello there, I am searching for my birthfather with little to go on.. I was conceived in Eugene oregon in the summer of 79. My father went by the name winddancer and traveled up and down the west coast. He met my mother Devorah and they were only together for a short while. I do not have a birthname, except perhaps he also went by the name of Jonathan? He frequented Santa cruz,ca, not sure where he is origionally from.. Thought i would post here. The circle back then was a bit tighter, not sure what it is like now.. Any leads, any info of this invisible man in my life will be gratefully appreciated! Also, if you have any recommendations on where I can search or where the appropriate place to post is, that is also very helpful:)Aloha, Sarah
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I'll ask my husband. She went to Santa Cruz to see his frail mother with and lung problems + and a paralyzed arm. They where both huge Heads and my husband knows almost evrey 'Head in Santa Cruz. Will Have to ask him. I hope you find him! Keep on your search. Don't stop sister, I know you'll find him! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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We just lost a truly great poet, musician, performer, activist and human being. And especially sad as it was just when he was getting his life back together again. He is called the godfather of rap, but he never liked that title and it completely misses the point about what made him great. His live shows were celebrations, strong strong messages, razor wit and funky jazz tunes. Rest in Peace Gil Scott-Heron The revolution will not be televised! http://vimeo.com/24398430 http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/2011/may/28/gil-scott-heron-obituary 'You alone consider mercy after it seems like all you get is pain It seem to me that you have found the courage that others could not find You alone have the wisdom to take this world and make it what it need to be, want to be, will be, someday you'll see The day, the day you understand That there ain't no such thing as a superman'
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Bluesman and a founding member of the original Steve Miller Band. He was the creator of Pacific Northwest Blues in the Schools. Passed after a long battle with cancer May 16th, 66 years of age. memorial show will be held at Blues Vespers Sunday, June 5th at Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Tacoma, Washington. Jerry Miller (Moby Grape), Jay Mabin and other local blues musicians to play. Blues Vespers is always free but donations are always accepted and will be donated to Blues in the Schools.
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Sad news Johnman. It was always a great pleasure to hear the Steve Miller Blues Band in good old SF. Nice to hear Jerry Miller will be at the memorial. My heart goes out to his family and the Pacific Northwest. : (
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born and raised Tacoman, but I heard he moved to Pacific coupla years ago. I think it was two years ago word was he lost everything in a flood in Pacific, something to do with the Civil Engineers opening, or not opening a levee or something during a bad storm. I know that there was a benefit for him at The Swiss, in downtown T-town...
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thanks for all the great "sax" music "Big Man", and rocking us. We'll miss you.
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Really bummed. Glad I seen Bruce and the E Street band when I did. It won't be the same now. I'm gonna crank Rosalita and have a beer. :( :( :(