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    Here's the place to talk about our departed loved ones -- friends, family members, tour buddies, and others we've lost along the way.

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  • cosmicbadger
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    safe travels Joe
    come back safe and well
  • c_c
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    thank you
    thanks everybody. heading on the raod soon to take care of things; be back when I am able. meanwhile, please know how much this space and your support means to me. "so it’s broken hearts and dusty roads and somewhere there my soul explodes with every piece of every day and everything I meant to say and where I’ll be, no one can tell I’m fishing in a wishing well and i’m doing the very best I can I just hope you’ll understand now I seen all the lights that shine countless colors in my mind they climb and swim and spark and glow and ask me what it is I know I know a thing called love a thing called thunder in the sky above now I know a thing called pain now I know a thing called rain" --- Jackie Greene **** we was there together for this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObCXBkB_o1A "Will you have some tea At the theatre with me? We did it all - didn't we? Jumped every wall - instinctively Unravelled codes - ingeniously Wired all the roads - so seamlessly We made it work But one of us failed That makes it so sad A great dream derailed One of us gone One of us mad One of us, me All of us sad All of us sad - lean on my shoulder now The story is done - it's getting colder now A thousand songs - still smoulder now We played them as one - we're older now All of us sad All of us free Before we walk from the stage Two of us Will you have some tea? Will you have some tea At the theatre with me?" ---Pete Townshend *** thank you all. (((DNC))) LOVE&PEACE.
  • gratefaldean
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    Amen, CC
    I just can't imagine something like this. Our thoughts are with you.
  • BobbaLee
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    I can't even imagine the sadness you feel. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
  • Hal R
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    I am so sorry for your loss of your dear wife. Peace and love to you and her family. Take care of yourself. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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    Oh, dear....CC....
    you've said it all.....my condolences........XOXOXO
  • c_c
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    thank you all
    I am trying hard to think of words; just know, please know everyone here; your words mean a lot to me. thank you all. * you all knew her, you all danced with her and hugged her at the shows... she was never more impressed with spontaneous human warmth than at shows or meeting strangers on the road who shared a love of what we love. this community, online though it may be, is part of a larger tribe; we may not see each other's faces as we dance, eyes on the stage, we may not see each other's faces, eyes on the screen as our fingers dance on the keys; we may not 'hear' the words, the music drowns the voices out... but the warmth is here as it always was there; as it always will be there. Hunter's (thank's again rh, can't thank you enough) words were read, translated and read in Japanese, Thai, Lao, Khemer, Korean, Chinese, Tagalong, German, French, and also read in English. there could have been more languages, she had a wide circle of international friends, but I thought 10 readings had a certain symetry. Black Muddy River (maybe her favourite song) was played for her, and So Many Roads for us; and some other music she loved... people spoke, and heard some stories I never heard before... there could not be anythhing happy in this, but there was some dignity and people stronger than myself let me lean on them. parents should not have to attend the funeral of their child, an older brother and an older sister, and a younger sister should not have to go through this. her nieces and nephews... she and I never had kids of our own. she and I used to 'joke' and she always said she wanted to die first; I knew her love in that comment, but i still had to insist I wanted to die first for the same reasons I reckon. like everything else, she had her way. ( -; we also used to 'joke' based on some Woody Allen line, "I was the boss, and she was the decision maker" it was, I heard from the doctor, much too late to really do anything by the time she learned of the cancer. so yes, she was protecting us all with that decision to keep things to herself these past couple of months. her family is the only real family I ever had; completely loving people, completely caring people; unlike any I have ever known. her father was left an orphan by WWII American bombs; her mother, when she was a child, was literally shot at by a machine gun, dive bombing American plane as she was walking home with a friend through some rice fields after working at the war machine factory that so many children were conscripted into in that history -- yet, they accepted me, an ugly American, into their heart. our little house is about 3 hours away from their home; so we saw each other often enough, (or not often enough in retrospeck) they invited me to come live with them if I want to in the future; part of her ashes will remain in the family home, in the Buddhist tradition, some put into the family grave nearby. sad irony that her mother is a cancer survivor, and facing other health issues recently, all Nao wanted to do was help her family. there are things i must do -- will hit the road to scatter some of her ashes in some of the places she loved most. have to see and tell people she loved and who loved her, and have to walk up the trails of villages alone... some news can not be shared by phone or email. all she ever wanted and did was to help other people, less fortunate than herself; and that is her legacy. I'll do my best to continue her work; try to live her life, best I can. ** thank you all for all of your kindness. it means more than I can ever hope to express. prayers and positive vibes for her family is all I ask; parents should never have to attend the funeral of their child. (((DNC))) thank you. ** there are some roads we rode on together to re-visit, and other new roads I must face-- the ride can never be balanced without her on the back of the bike. love and peace.
  • marye
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    omg joe
    I am so sorry to hear this. Safe journey to your beloved old lady, and I join in the mass outpouring of love to you.
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    from tears to oceans
    I know the place , CC Joe, from tears to salty oceans . But remember, some day , that even oceans have shores and are confined to a planet where even a lost coconut can find an island . May we all go safely on cosmic trails .
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    This one comforts me alot, so will share with you. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pudOFG5X6uA Hold on! Take comfort in your friends. ********************************** Education: that which reveals to the wise, and conceals from the stupid, the vast limits of their knowledge. Mark Twain
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Another true musical and artistic visionary gone. RIP Capt. Beefheart.
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Gerry Rafferty was only 63. I still hear Baker Street fairly often on the FM radio. Reminds me of a girl named Jill I once ran with, briefly, from Evergreen to Doylestown then down to Boulder.
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using a place where we remember those we miss, to further your greed. I can't believe you'd put an ad in here...what gall.
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the spammer is a human being. Probably not.
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some lower lifeform, I'm certain
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automated opportunistic crapola...
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I had thought since the same spammer posted different messages on different forums that it was an individual, but I'm don't know much about this automated stuff, other than I lost my job due to automation.
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I can't form grammatically correct sentences, either..
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Any body that was a teen in the 70's can remember Don Kirshner's Rock Concert on TV. How many parties revolved around that when the parents weren't home?
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Very sorry your dad and cat passed on...octopus hugs and healing rays for a decade
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and midnite special but don had the coolest bands. he recorded a time in history. bummed to be too young and home on a weekend but the best thing about staying up :)
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Who could forget the television show, "Don Kirshner’s Rock Concert" and the barriers it broke not only in the television market but also in the nation’s cultural mindset of music on TV by shedding the over-rehearsed and lip synced production most Americans had become used to since the ‘50s? Kirshner also produced the hit TV series "The Monkeys" and contributed the bulk of the song writing for that show. He was inducted into the Song Writers Hall of Fame in 2007. R.I.P. Don Kirshner...
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I appreciate that. Especially reading it tonight cuz have been almost washed under by a sunami if grief that came outta nowhere this evening.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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and it will....for awhile...you're strong, you'll get through it, pal...
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Grandmother to Tigerlilly's kids.......RIP Oma
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Fitness guru...many of us saw his exercise program, one of the first, on the TV as we were growing up. 96 years of age, and was still in better shape than alot of 30 year olds
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we need all the strength we can get right bout now. all been a bit too much for my kids to swallow -4 losses in 2 months.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Gary Moore!Only 58-how sad!!!!!! ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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So sorry about your loses recently TigerLilly, as if life isn't hard enough by its own merits. I can't possibly understand how you feel with all you've been through but my prayers are with you always (even when I'm not around here).
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My older brother Bill died in 1999 from Lukemia at the age of 56. Thanks to Bill he would "arrainged" for me to babysit.so I could go and see the greatful dead. My dad was a strick trip{Yes I loved him}but he expected us to be in the house by 9:30 at the age of 17.My brother had three adorable kids, he would call my dad and tell him.that he and his wife was going out and they needed me to babysit. I woudl then go to the concert and then go home the next morning when Bill picked me up at the bus station in Atlantic City then drive me home. Rest in peace Bill. I miss you still.
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is a great brother. So sorry for your loss.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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Bill did not care for the greatful dead but he knew that Dad was unrelistic and he went thruit and he got kicked out of the house when he was 16. So he helped my sister and I get out of the house.
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I just found out our old friend Kevin Dougherty passed away back in 2009 In Eugene... We had many colorful experiences together. Fun in SF! Great shows. Had families. Did our things. My wife's & my last show was at Autzen, hanging with Kevin & Jane & our kids. I am finding that getting old is hard because of the people that you lose... I love you Bro...
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Rest in peace Bear, you changed my life like so many others. I will always remember that purple haze, orange sunshine, yellow sunshine and blue cheer that you turned the world onto, you were the greatest. Without you, there would be no grateful dead.
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Long live the legacy and the work of Bear! May his memory cause no man or woman harm! he faster we go the rounder we get!
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Sad way to go. Thanks for everything.
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The Orange Juice may be safer, but we are saddened by your passing. Thanks for helping to create the SF atmosphere and for laying the ground work on the sound system.
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A sad day, just does not seem to be the way Bear should have gone. A survivor, in many ways ahead of his times, both technologically and perhaps psychologically. While his pharmacological roles were certainly important, there was far more to the man. R.I.P.
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It is a very sad day. His vision of sound broke through barriers decades before anyone on the planet. We will miss you Bear, but your molecules will rain down on us forever. And for that we will all be better.
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Enormous gentle vibes to Bear's family...came through many fights. Thank-you/om gate
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another sad passing that came too soon! thank you Bear for the sights n'sounds.PEACE
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just got a SYF tatt last week then bear passed think I'm gonna add another tear.
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Thanks for being, Bear. I'll meet you at the jubilee.
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My allowabull folklore about Bear ("summary") "Do you really want to tell me I can *()&$^&*?" "Do Bears Shit in the Forest??" (the biggest Southpark Smile possible on this pusser) keep your character, enjoy living, share your fortune, OXOX Merple Reddin
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thanks for all the help and inspiration you gave me back in the 60's..
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but means the world to me personally. May 1st my dad's friends are having a memorial picnic, in his honor. I am going, but I am not sure how well I can pull it off without having an emotional meltdown. BUT I love it that his friends have decided to carry on his annual picnic, in his memory. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Furthur did a great tribute to Bear at one of their shows. Played a rockin' Alice D. Millionare, but the whole show was tribute. And it all was great. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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Hello there, I am searching for my birthfather with little to go on.. I was conceived in Eugene oregon in the summer of 79. My father went by the name winddancer and traveled up and down the west coast. He met my mother Devorah and they were only together for a short while. I do not have a birthname, except perhaps he also went by the name of Jonathan? He frequented Santa cruz,ca, not sure where he is origionally from.. Thought i would post here. The circle back then was a bit tighter, not sure what it is like now.. Any leads, any info of this invisible man in my life will be gratefully appreciated! Also, if you have any recommendations on where I can search or where the appropriate place to post is, that is also very helpful:)Aloha, Sarah
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I'll ask my husband. She went to Santa Cruz to see his frail mother with and lung problems + and a paralyzed arm. They where both huge Heads and my husband knows almost evrey 'Head in Santa Cruz. Will Have to ask him. I hope you find him! Keep on your search. Don't stop sister, I know you'll find him! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Ain't nobody messin' with you but you AND WE ALL LOVE YOU
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We just lost a truly great poet, musician, performer, activist and human being. And especially sad as it was just when he was getting his life back together again. He is called the godfather of rap, but he never liked that title and it completely misses the point about what made him great. His live shows were celebrations, strong strong messages, razor wit and funky jazz tunes. Rest in Peace Gil Scott-Heron The revolution will not be televised! http://vimeo.com/24398430 http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/2011/may/28/gil-scott-heron-obituary 'You alone consider mercy after it seems like all you get is pain It seem to me that you have found the courage that others could not find You alone have the wisdom to take this world and make it what it need to be, want to be, will be, someday you'll see The day, the day you understand That there ain't no such thing as a superman'
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Bluesman and a founding member of the original Steve Miller Band. He was the creator of Pacific Northwest Blues in the Schools. Passed after a long battle with cancer May 16th, 66 years of age. memorial show will be held at Blues Vespers Sunday, June 5th at Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Tacoma, Washington. Jerry Miller (Moby Grape), Jay Mabin and other local blues musicians to play. Blues Vespers is always free but donations are always accepted and will be donated to Blues in the Schools.
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Sad news Johnman. It was always a great pleasure to hear the Steve Miller Blues Band in good old SF. Nice to hear Jerry Miller will be at the memorial. My heart goes out to his family and the Pacific Northwest. : (
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born and raised Tacoman, but I heard he moved to Pacific coupla years ago. I think it was two years ago word was he lost everything in a flood in Pacific, something to do with the Civil Engineers opening, or not opening a levee or something during a bad storm. I know that there was a benefit for him at The Swiss, in downtown T-town...
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thanks for all the great "sax" music "Big Man", and rocking us. We'll miss you.
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Really bummed. Glad I seen Bruce and the E Street band when I did. It won't be the same now. I'm gonna crank Rosalita and have a beer. :( :( :(