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  • Oroboros
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    A good buddy passed on Saturday,
    6 months ago David was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.His battle is over. "I didn't think it would end this way." "End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it." "What? See what?" "White shores, and beyond, a far green country under a swift sunrise." "Well, that isn't so bad." "No, No , it isn't." Excerpt from the film "Lord of the Rings: Return of the King.
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    A Gift
    Wondered why I felt no lose with his passing then I realized I was happy.Happy someone who changed the world got to live a long meaningful life. In my generation that means a lot! Thank you God for the gift of Nelson Mandela. May he R.I.P.
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    RIP Nelson Mandela
    A giant luminary of nonviolence takes his peace. Lay you down, my dear brother.
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    Grateful Doe went to the show
    It was the tix in his pocket and the red space your face 95' tour T he was wearing is why he is known as grateful fan/Doe. June 24 & 25 1995 at the Rfk stadium in Washington, D.C., The new event page on FB is trying to get as many ppl to post everywhere (not just FB) in hopes someone will recognize him. That is why it has the long name of "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join". If someone here knows anything and not on FB plz contact me. Wish I could post pics here. They found the guy he got his tix from. He came with 20 tix and doesn't remember who he sold/gave them to. Some of us remember this when it happened and 18 yrs is too long. We don't want him to fade away.
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    they were GDTS tickets. If they were, maybe they could be traced back through their numbers. Though I doubt I am the first person to think of this in 18 years. I hope they figure this out, it really is too long for this to go unresolved...
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    Thank you Anna rRxia. 200 people tested and excluded for him, He is one of many so I don't think finger prints are the answer. Not everyone have not walked right and been finger printed. There are young ppl with not much of a family left or more often unfortunately families do disown there own members. As freaks we all know this too well. His family is trying to find him and they are us. only deadheads can figure out how to accomplish anything with not much. ;)
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    Mona - What a sad story
    A noble cause you are on as well as other deadheads. I'll do what I can but this sure does look like a cold trail. If the note found in his pocket had a phone number without an area code it sounds like the authorities didn't do the basic work of calling the # with all area codes. That is very sad! One has to wonder why his family didn't make more of an effort to find him? He was ejected from a vehicle so his fingerprints were intact, therefore his fingerprints were not on file anywhere. I don't know with the consolidation of data bases if efforts are being made to recheck his fingerprint record on a regular basis. My feeling is that "the authorities" find this case long closed and aren't doing a thing other than maintaining a record locator just in case. My predilection in such cases is to think spiritually about this fella. I have to believe after 18+ years his soul should have moved on. It would be horrible to think he was a ghost hanging around that death place still, as some people might think happens to people who die suddenly and won't let go of their body... It is still possible to catch a break in this case, stranger things have happened. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7; All good deadheads go to heaven!
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    Unfortunate here you have to copy and paste. If that doesn't work then just google Grateful Doe for pictures etc. There are many sites with the same info. Sorry my synapse is having problems with my synopsis. (This bear just wants to hibernate) and I did manage to get it mixed up. I mentioned Facebook because that is why I am here posting. A deadhead sister Lesha Johanneck has started a new campaign there with an event page to have everyone share about Grateful Doe across the globe and the internet in hopes someone will recognize him so he can rest in peace. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE ON FACEBOOK TO HELP! Just share, share, share! IF you are on facebook look up "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join". Here is full information from findagrave.com: Jason "Grateful Dead Fan" Doe Birth: unknown Death: Jun. 26, 1995 Emporia Greensville County Virginia, USA I challenge anyone who reads this to please pass this information onto a friend or even a couple of friends. If you have the time please contact media in your area and ask them to run my story. I really am tired of this long journey that I have been on and would like to go home.... If you have any information that may help identify me PLEASE contact The Office of the Chief Medical Examiner Medicolegal Death Investigator 1-800-447-1706. My agency case # is 123526 **** My alias for the last 15 years has been Jason Doe AKA Grateful Dead Fan. I was given the name Jason because of a note found in my pocket and because of the tie-dye Grateful Dead t-shirt I was wearing. It really would be nice to have my real name back again. I died in a horrible car accident in Emporia, Greensville County, Virginia on Monday, June 26, 1995 around 1:30 PM. I died along with the driver of the van. The driver, Michael Eric Hager fell asleep at the wheel, the van left the road & hit some trees. Neither the driver or I was wearing seat belts. I first hit the windshield and then hit the trees. Both the driver and I were ejected from the van. We both died instantly. Michael was identified quickly. He had his ID on him, as well as the vehicle registation. Michael's family did not recognize me, they suspected that I was hitch hiking that day and Michael picked me up to give me a ride somewhere. I had just been to a couple of Grateful Dead shows the weekend before (June 24th & June 25th)the accident at RFK Stadium in Washington, DC. I still had the 2 ticket stubs in my pockets when they found me. They also found a note in my pocket that said "Jason, Sorry we had to go, see ya around, call me #914 prefix with an arrow pointing to Caroline T.'s name. ----> Caroline T. + Caroline O. Bye!!!!" There is also a cute little drawn picture of Jerry Garcia on the note. I wonder where these girls are and if they remember me?? The only other things I had with me are 4 quarters and a yellow disposable lighter. I was wearing a red tie dye t-shirt that was from the Grateful Dead 1995 Summer Tour. I had on a pair of light blue 505 Levi jeans size 33x32, size 11 1/2 blue or black FILA athletic shoes, white athletic socks, beaded necklace, a macrame necklace. My Vital Stats: Age: 16-21 Height: 5'8" Weight: 169lbs Hair Color: Light Brown/Dark Blonde/Dyed Red Eye Color: Brown Identifying Marks: I have a small homemade 5 point star tattoo on my left arm. Piercings: My left ear is pierced. I was not wearing an earring when they found me. Here is an article about my death: http://docs.google.com/View?id=dcbh2vh8_130gbt45khd To read more about my story you can visit me at Websleuths: http://www.websleuths.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=172 My info on NamUs.gov: https://identifyus.org/cases/6095 Burial: Cremated, Other. Specifically: Unknown Created by: LoveToHelp Record added: May 28, 2010 Find A Grave Memorial# 52954852
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    Mona
    Links don't work. It would be good if you could put together a brief synopsis of what the scenario was for those of us who don't do Facebook.
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    Help bring Grateful Doe home. (@);-)
    It has been almost 19 years we have been searching to bring Grateful Doe home. Possibly named Jason he was killed after a grateful dead concert in June 1995 the dates of the concert were June 24 & 25 1995 at the Rfk stadium in Washington, D.C.. If you know anyone that went to the concert add them to the group or just keep sharing his flyer someone has to know something. PLZ help your brother by joining this group or posting this anywhere you can. The bus leaves no one behind. Thank you. ^^^passing it on from Facebooks "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join" Events page. More about him on the "Grateful Doe" Community page. Here is a pic of what he could look like today (He had dyed RED Hair), his tattoo, concert stubs, and note found in his pocket addressed to Jason. https://scontent-b-sea.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc1/1148843_52733253734037… Any info at all check out Facebook pages above or PLZ contact/message me here. Most of all PLZ post far and wide in any or all special sites or groups you are into on the internet. Together we can sing him back home! Thanx, Mona (@);-)
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~Hal Rowe~ (Will also add Wasserman and Deadication to canyoncritter/Scott Mattson) (~);-)Join me as I co-host the Vinyl Hour with Ned this Thursday evening as we listen to the songs of those who are gone, 2016. 92.3 KYRS at 8:00 PST. Also can be streamed, just go to the KYRS website. We will be playing the music of David Bowie, Jim Boyd, Leon Russell, Guy Clark, Prince, Mose Allison, Paul Kantner, Leonard Cohen and more. Hope you can join us. Extra bonus, it isn't just an hour, it's two hours of great tunes.
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I'm beginning to feel like a ghoul, as if I wasn't depressed enough. Thanks for the smiles and laughs. I'll never forget the closet full of walnuts. Me & my dad laughed ourselves silly. Goodbye, Mary Tyler Moore. You were SOOOOO pretty.
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https://youtu.be/Ja0bHMzp0uo genius waiting on number three.... I hate gettin' old....reminds me of an old biker dude I took care of, had a tat of a noose with blood dripping down on his arm, spelling out...born to die morbid, yes. But true.
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It has been two years today that Dale left this space, and I sure miss him so very much. Every day there is something to bring a memory to mind. Miss shaking our bones at the shanty listening to the Grateful Dead, just living life. I miss everything about him. Know my love will not fade away 11:11 1:11 LOVE
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By Craig Davis ~ TDS TaperLast night I bore witness to one of the most exhilarating, unique and incredible musical events I have ever experienced, all in celebration of the life of Col. Bruce Hampton. The Col. (ret.) can't rightfully be accused of inventing jam music (for better or for worse) but damned if he didn't shepherd it along for over 30 years. Sitting there from the 2nd row for close to 4 hours last night as members of Widespread Panic, the Allman Bros, Blues Traveler, Govt Mule, The Rolling Stones, Leftover Salmon, R.E.M., Tedeschi Trucks, etc rotated on and off stage was magical and awe-inspiring. No one mailed it in like so many benefit concerts. People played like it mattered with an intensity and passion befitting Col. Bruce. Maybe it's because I've gotten older, had my priorities & passions redirected to my boys, or just list some of my enthusiasm for it but I find myself getting taken "there" by music less and less in recent years. Last night brought it back note by note and it felt incredible. The encore started with a crazed spacey Zambiland into Lovlight as 30+ musicians filled the stage. As solos started making the rounds Col. Bruce walked over to the kid from School of Rock and motioned for him to start ripping. He then went down to a knee and seemingly gently down against a monitor. He stayed there through the kid's solo and it seemed like a classic one of the Col's gags. He told me once how he loved to tell the audience at every show that it was someone in the band's birthday. You just knew once the song got back around to the chorus he would jump up and tell us to turn on our lovelight or else start singing from the ground - which I have also seen him do. Pure theater was the Col's way. He was 1/3 musician, 1/3 showman and 1/3 carnival barker. Then the song stretched and stretched and you could see the faces on the musicians not 15 feet away who had been smiling and laughing and pointing begin to tighten up. As the crew ran in stage finally sensing this was real, Susan Tedeschi cut the song and show short and they tried to pull a curtain across the stage. Standing in the pit we could see side stage that EMTs were furiously - and I mean with lightening speed and pressure - administering CPR and chest compressions. At that point they pulled those side stage curtains shut and staff urged folks to leave. As we hit the street it was obvious most folks had no clue what had even happened. There was joy in the air. As an ambulance later pulled away near us I noted the crew in the back were sitting still rather than working on the patient we believed to be Col Bruce inside. Never a good sign. By the time we downed waters and gatorades last night it was clear he had passed away. Only the Col. could have his wake and his birthday at the same time. It was befitting him with surreal joyousness and poignancy. I will spend some time processing what I experienced. The joy and the disbelief and now the loss of a musician I love. I have a picture of Col. Bruce and I somewhere at home. Taken at Alley Katz as we were deep into a long discussion about pro wrestling, baseball and music. The Col told me I knew all I needed to get by in life with my knowledge of those three topics. It was a special moment for me. Rest easy Col. Bruce. Thank you for taking me along on your journey and helping to lead me along my own for the last 30 years. https://scontent.fsnc1-1.fna.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/18221789_10155130101659…
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...he sure could sing a tune. His songwriting, presentation on stage and honest delivery of those songs could stir one's heart. Thanks for the decades of music, thanks for helping us understand life, thanks for helping us to feel safe. You are one larger than life member of our musical family, and we can smile inside knowing... ...That you're waiting from the backroads By the rivers of our memories Ever smilin' ever gentle on our minds... Close your eye for a couple of minutes and give him a listen if'n you have a chance. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZBxnfvv33c Rest in Peace Glen Campbell.
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There will be peace in the valley for me, oh Lord I pray(There'll be no sadness, no sorrow, my Lord, no trouble, trouble I see) There will be peace in the valley for me Well the bear will be gentle And the wolf will be tame And the lion shall lay down, down by the lamb, oh yes And the beasts from the wild Shall be led by a child And I'll be changed, changed from this creature that I am, oh yes There Will Be Peace In The Valley someday....
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We will always remember your crazy laugh, your rippin’ Guitar playing, your love of helping people, and what a beautiful soul you still are. 24 is far to young. I know you are playing with Jerry, Jimi Tom, and Stevie Ray, because that’s what heaven would be to you. Fare Thee Well my dear son.
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Subject says it all.
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Our friend in music John Perry Barlow figured it out pretty early in life, and we are all the richer because of it. Many of us used his lyrics as mantras for life, taking us down paths that needed no road...and now, now he needs no road, and we travel on. Thank you John Barlow for gracing our lives, for sharing your gifts, for giving us so much. Priceless. Know you will be missed by many and honored by so many more. Rest in Peace.
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HIGH ! ! ! RUBY FROM LONG BEACH IS BACK ! ! ! I , HUMBLY , STATE : THANK YOU VERY MUCH ! ! ! TO : EVERY , BEAUTIFUL , SOUL , IN WHICH : I , RUBY FROM LONG BEACH , HAVE PROVIDED : LOVE ! ! ! TO . MAY I , HUMBLY , ASK : MAY MY : GRATEFUL DEAD FAMILY , PLEASE , RECEIVE : THE FURTHUR BUS . . . WITH , I , HUMBLY , ASK , A : CRIB ? SHAKEDOWN STREET IS : WITHIN : FULL , FORCE ! ! !
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My friend Marky passed over the weekend unexpectedly. I will sure miss our talks along the ride. He always had a kind word, and never tired of listening to me talk about Dale and missing him. Pain comes in many forms, and some you cannot see. I hope you are able to be free Marky, you were a good man in a fallen world. PEACE~

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I miss my good friend George who used to cruise with me to shows and other great places in the cherry 69 chevelle. We would drive to the New Jersey meadow lands and party till the wheels fell off. Good times my departed friend!!! -- Carlo F.

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so I will post this 'fare thee well' for my father who is now on hospice care (pancreatic and liver cancer) and will soon give up this mortal coil.

As Bob said after Lowell George died (at the Portland Raceway show in 1979) "he was good while he lasted."

Dad's heart was his gift to all of us.

"Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself."

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Dad turned 92 in November, they thought he had kidney stones and started treatment but when the doctor performed the ultra-sound, it turned into ultra-'Oh NO' when they saw the massive tumor on his pancreas that had migrated (metastasized) to his liver.

Chick lived a great life, he was one of the 'greatest generation.' World War !!, multiple careers, last one running a resort in northern Minn. Lived there year round with my 88 year old mother, they celebrated their 67th anniversary this summer.

I will never forget one beautiful summer evening about 40 years ago, I put Garcia's first album on Dad's stereo, and cranked "The Wheel" and discussed the philosophical aspects of Hunter's words with my father. And Chick listened, and thought about what I was saying. And at one point he said to me "Yes, I get it, .......but can we turn it down a bit?" ;o}

He taught me so much by how he lived, and he even tried to tip his toe into my deadhead world.

What a guy.

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Many of us had the good fortune to meet her over the years. I'm happy I knew her a little bit, starting from the time she got in touch with me to put a couple of my photos in the Grateful Dead Family Album. She passed on yesterday after much ill health for many years, and is much missed.
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Met Jerilyn Brandelius with Mickey Hart at a Halloween 1974 Jerry Garcia and Merl Saunders show. Some small auditorium on Geary Boulevard in the Richmond District out towards the Cliff House and Sutro Park. Both were very kind. Big smiles as I remember.
The San Francisco foggy ruins of time.

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Jerilyn's book is wonderful.
I hope to hear more of her story & stories.

If anyone has other memories or stories to share, please do.

Thanks for letting us know MaryE.
My Condolences.

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Last year my father Don Hill passed away and today his only and older brother Ken Hill passed away. My father was an automotive mechanic and raised my brother and I on Jerry Garcia's music, he went to over a hundred Grateful Dead shows. My uncle was a printer and had many pets and friends and helped many people quit drinking alcohol saving their lives, he went to over 300 Grateful Dead shows and probably saw Jerry play more than anyone but the band members. They were the biggest Grateful Dead fans and important members of their communities. Their love for their music lives on through us and our friends whom cover Grateful Dead here in Sacramento, Ca.
One love.

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This is the time of year when both my parents passed on. Mom back in 2nd week of September 1972, Dad eight years later 1st week of September 1980.
I’m the last of the siblings above ground.
Strong medicine. September is a bittersweet time of year. The harvest and the scythe.
Dean, your father and uncle must have been great men.
Readers, try to live life with meaning and passion.

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My cousin Ronna who back in the 70"s gave me tapes to listen to when I was just a little kid has past away. She started me on this long strange trip with just a few tapes. She went to Egypt and the European tours with the band, she loved the band more then life itself. She was a teacher, she was a sweet heart of a person that I will miss for the rest of my days. She was a real Deadhead who was dedicated to the band and to making this world a better place. Bless you Ronna, until we meet again.

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Some here may remember Johnman and Mona from the early days of Dead Net. Both from the Pacific Northwest who became friends in this place. Both kind, generous and feisty Deadheads who endured a lot of troubles and always came back smiling. I was lucky enough to meet them (and Hal too) just the once at the Furthur show in Edgefield in September 2012, where Mona so kindly looked after JM who had trouble getting about . Both had been ill for some time, and both passed away towards the end of last year. I have not been on this site much lately, but I was thinking about them today and thought some here might remember them and want to know. Fine, fine people.

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A lot of us here in the Bay Area are reeling from the loss of Scoop, who first came to our attention as the intrepid news guy on KSAN ("If you don't like the news, go out and make some of your own") and later KFOG with M. Dung. Also a legend in local Buddhist circles and the author of many (highly recommended) books on Crazy Wisdom. Safe travels, Scoop. Thank you.
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Hello! I wanted to make a post about my uncle, Scott Powers. He was a self-identified Dead Head. He loved the Grateful Dead, even had a tattoo on his back. I believe the music helped him get through really dark times such as abuse, addiction, and mental health crises. He died on December 31st, 2023. I have been doing research into the Grateful Dead in preparation for his celebration of life and came across this page. I just wanted to shout him out and remember him for the grateful dead, silly, and loving person he was. R.I.P. SCOTT POWERS!

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you raised four boys, and we had a wild and wonderous household.

Relentless optimism, encouragement, and the best chocolate chip cookies in the world. Norma often said "you will never know if you don't try." Boy, did we take her at her word and we all tried a lot. She challenged us to think creatively, be generous, and to practice compassion.

93 years young but these last 5 years were especially difficult for her following Dad's passing. Numerous medical complications but she was on hospice for the last two weeks with family surrounding her. Then early Saturday morning, Mom was gone. Love you forever and for always.

"She sang a little while, and then flew off"

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I am sorry to hear of your mother's passing.

It's a tough milestone to go through.

A raise of the glass to her, you, and yours.

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sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like she did a fine Job.May she rest easy.

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Sincere condolences on your loss.
Best wishes for you and your brothers during this difficult time.
Cheers to Mom

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My heart goes out to you - no one like Mom.

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"See, music is infinite. There’s an infinite number of ways to do it, an infinite number of melodies that can go with a one-four-five progression, it’s absolutely infinite, no floors, no ceiling.” Phil Lesh

Box of Rain soothed my soul, Phil.

Rest in Peace.

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