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    marye
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    So, we've all had some great conversations interrupted by that misbehaving chatroom lately. Mr. Pid wrote a great song on the subject...

    Feel free to pick them up again here. Or report your more surreal episodes of being booted for misbehaving. 

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    Think Marye has it right
    What can you do? The amount of freedom that is allowed is important, perhaps more so than the few who are misbehaving. I think Marye strikes a good balance in a difficult situation. Saying that people should only PM one another because of this is an overreaction. Can't stand the heat? Stay out of the chatroom! (Thanks to all kind heads who have tried to lift the vibe there)
  • johnman
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    i believe you're right buddy,......i can only hope i'm not considered part of that group.......though i sure feel like it, sometimes....
  • buddy plant
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    As far as I remember...
    ... we NEVER used to have these issues (chat room misbehavior, not the software kind) in the chat room. What ever happened? I believe the chat room's demise was the discovery, by a certain group of unpleasant, RUDE people, of our peaceful little place on the inet. So what to do? Well, many of us have decided to stay away, we still PM each other from time to time, but I look at it much the same way as the scene at GD shows after the summer of 1987: There's not a damn thing that can be done to fix it. So I guess if ya don't like it, don't use it.
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    chat room misbehavior, not the software kind
    mod hat on So folks, as you may have noticed I am not inclined to micromanage life in the chat room. There are several reasons for this, but certainly tops on my list would be the fact that, in my experience, it doesn't work. From time to time I get complaints that this person or that is doing something in the chat room that's making someone else unhappy. Or, even better, two people complaining to me about each other. And let's just say that in many cases serious lines have been crossed, and in many cases the heat of the moment was involved, and throwing stones/glass houses/etc. However, let's just say that harassing and abusing one's fellow participants in the chat room, whether by threatening them, serving up hate speech against some group present or absent, showering people with profanity, or otherwise creating a hostile atmosphere, is behavior that puts one on thin ice. Spammers aside, I very, very rarely block people or delete their accounts. I think it's a very extreme step. Nonetheless, making life a misery for other people hereabouts on a sufficiently regular basis to get noticed definitely improves one's odds of being in this select group, to which I would infinitely prefer not to add at all. Thank you and mod hat off. ME
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    Chat Room Nerds Unite.....
    I thought it was all about fun, games, stories & music in the cr.....? Oh, yeh & "whole lotta love"
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    OK !
    thanks CC critter and CosmicBadger , and you Lamagonzo , and Kristen 10 , you had interesting insights, When GD sang Cassidy , it brought a Krishna Dance, and magik blessings around. The right sounds on whatever could maybe still work wonders ! Maybe , or maybe not anymore ...Time will tell ...
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    man i thought we had got past this
    PPL go in forums and chat. its not one or the other. someones not listening on chat. i have foind alot of love on chat. and i see PPl here slamming PPL on chat for things they have done there selves. maybe could say its easy to judge PPl here without someone standing up to u like on chat. we have all worked there to get a posative vibe going now. not easy but it is what we work 4. can u say that about other chats? we r everywhere and to call us drunks ect... have u been to a greatful dead concert??? lmao! love u all no matter where u post lol PEACE (~);-)
  • marye
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    to my mind
    it's kind of like ugly parking lot scenes vs. benign ones. CC Joe posted a great tale of Old School Deadheadism a couple years back that's quite resonant with all this. If you cannot lead the bad actors by example, or use white corpuscle effect on them, just walk away and leave them spewing their bad vibes. As noted above, they thrive on your energy.
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    good discussion, folks
    you can't control it. How you deal with it is up to you.
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    After reading some of these posts, I tend to agree with alot that is said, and alot that is implied, and some not so much. One that I'm sure of through being a "chat room nerd" that we are held accountable! Of course there is no "moderator" as there should not be...we as a community should moderate ourselves. Of course we are going to get the slammers, bashers, haters, and non-good lovin people in there, it's the human race. I do know that we as a whole, the good hearted-kind people in this space we call Cyber, have told the offenders flat out to cut it out. After frequenting this place for alot of years, I do know one thing, there is LOVE and KIND people in there....after so long, you can just pick them out. When I say accountability, we have to be able to govern ourselves, and we do...it's a non-contrallable environment, except for the fact that YOU as a person have the power to control your involvement. In fact this reminds me of John Perry Barlow's battles over the interenet he's had since it all began with the EFF.... When you get involved, get involved with your heart and kindness. Negativity, has no place in our community. I love the Grateful Dead....I am not perfect....BUT, I know that my heart is in the right place and that others hear on Dead.net share that heart! _____________________________________________ Will you come with me? Once in awhile you can get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right!
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So, we've all had some great conversations interrupted by that misbehaving chatroom lately. Mr. Pid wrote a great song on the subject...

Feel free to pick them up again here. Or report your more surreal episodes of being booted for misbehaving. 

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That's the name of the pills. No, I've never taken them, I just hate the commercial. H20 is good enough for me. Bob, you are a trip. I saw a guy eat the worm once & it wasn't pretty. I won't go into detail, but I'm sure you can all imagine... Dude, Frankly, Lighten up man! Try out for a debate team. PEACE
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never drank the worm, just became the worm If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake
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it is only recently that i have had them, i am fine on Wine and beer but too much spirits and i feel lethargic the following day, no mega headaches but....... the perils of getting old, too much smoke can be hard too bob - - - - - - - - - - - - - - http://spanishsunshinedaydream.blogspot.com/ http://www.facebook.com/photos.php?id=633338979 Spanish Jam
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I don't know why the spam filter has suddenly taken this dislike to gratefulmom, but deepest apologies.
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as a bartender in my wayback years, people would ask for the worm and stick around looking for the last pour of the Mescale bottle. I always gave a gulp & gone, Bob, rarely a chew (ewww), but people swore it was the trick to not getting a headache the next day. I think the sugar content in the Mescale kept you from having a really bad headache, kinda like caffiene. who knows, but I always knew it was good for a night of entertainment when a few cruisers came in and started doing shots when the bottle was 1/2 way done. bob, here's my secret- one glass of wine + one glass of water + 1 Advil, 2 glasses= 2 Advil, 2 glasses water... hydrate often to reduce the AM throb....age is definitely a factor I have found out.
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way back when, like fucking forever ago, I earned $500 for being a "test subject" for a hangover medicine. Some pharmaceutical company was in the last stages of FDA testing, and we were the first human guinnea pigs. pretty cool gig, actually. Two separate weekends, we HAD to drink whiskey, controlled amounts to get us drunk during the course of the 4 days. There were 12 of us, 6 guys, 6 gals, all deadheads in the group. Actually, about only 6 or 7 hard core heads, and a few more "straight" people, but everybody was into shows and partying. Somebody knew somebody who knew somebody who knew somebody in charge of the whole thang, and somebody said; "hey, do you want to earn $500 for drinking booze?" no fool, I. I asked: '$500 U.S. dollars??" no fool, I. I asked: '$500 U.S. dollars EACH??" yes! OK, where do I sign? US greenbacks-- 500 bucks bought a lot of gas in those daze. all sorts of legal release forms, medical questions, gotta be healthy for the drug companies to do this to you. anyways, one weekend, you got the real charcoal pills, the other weekend you got a placebo. They limited the amount of food we could eat, limited the amount of water that we could drink, based on body weight and shit like that. Although the sample was only 12 people, it was all pretty scientific. Both times, they were drawing blood at intervals, (that really sucked) to test it -- whether you gots the placebos or not, both weekends, they were taking blood. before each "drink" wheich was every 15 minutes, I never shot nothing, so the whole needle thing is pretty fucked up, especially as you are getting drunk on sour mash. As we got drunk, they gave us memory tests, hand eye coordination tests, walk in a straight line, shit like that. Me and a few of the hard core boozers actually did BETTER on the coordination and memory tests as we got drunker-- that kind of totally fucking skewed the results resulting in odd-paradigms which the doctors could never explain. i was amazing the doctors and nurses with "philosophy" courtesy of Hunter or Barlow, (before the memory tests) saying shit like: "Cherish well your thoughts and keep a tight grip on your booze" It was pretty funny. So it all became a party for the first few hours and then it started to really suck. We were actually drinking just a little bit more than we were supposed to, often running to the bathroom to do various other things that required privacy. After about 30 or 45 minutes, some of the members of our little group started staring at the lights... babbling, giggling, you get the picture. some were definately en-hancing our party with un-mentionables. Suddenly, after boozing for 3 hours we had to take handfulls of these fucking smelly charcoal pills. I mean like 20 at a time, well, the doctor would say, please swallow all of these pills, but you can only drink 300 cc of water to do it. Every hour, more booze, more pills, more blood letting... It went on and on... the blood taking, the handfulls of pills, the continuous boozing, the MUSIC! but oh no!! "you can not dance!! no physical exertion, no sweating allowed!" I started calling this one nurse Dracula's mistress, calling her a leech and a blood sucker, I swear, she looked just like Nurse Ratchid. The whole thing became a big bummer and we was getting just a little belligerant. I think in all, we had to drink and do that shit for 6 hours each day of the 2 weekends. They had us all crash in the clinic. So it was 12 hours of boozing in a 48 hour time period. But you know what? Those charcoal pills definately work, I got the placebo the first weekend, and the real stuff the second weekend. So it went, we got through the 2 weekends, got the money paid in CASH!! and went our own way onto the summer tour that year... later on, I ran into the "straight" dude who kind of set the whole thing up, and I heard that they had to re-do all of the tests, because with the exception of 1 or 2 people, EVERYBODY had something we weren't supposed to have in our blood in our blood. So they drug company had to re-do everything, they threatened law suits because somewhere in that fine print we had signed papers saying we would be clean. But fuck it, we did it, got the cash dollar bill money, and hit the road. by the way, iknowurider, not only have I looked into the eyes of the worm, the worm winked at me -- but that is another story. peace
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these days, and probably for about 20 years, I have been off the hard alcohol; it is just too hard on the old system... I still enjoy beer and wine, especially red, red wine. I don't mix wine with beer, ever. though I often make my own blends of wine, 2 parts hearty merlot mixed with one part shiraz. and my personal cure for hangovers, is lots and lots of water and a couple of advils. Maybe add some whatthefuckaretheycalled?, yeah, electrolites, or some gatorade, like that. a liter of wine, 2 liters of water. I can't sleep though, because I'm up every 10 minutes to piss. such is the life of a geezer. ) -;
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now who really wants to hear the story of the crotch rot medicine cream that don't work that we tested the year before??! ( -: yuk yuk yuk.
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but I'm sure the rotten crotch story will be a hit with the ladies! ; - ) "Since you've all been such good boys and girls, I would like to take everybody in this entire audience out for milk and cookies. There are buses outside. Everybody follow me."
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your wife knows first hand about that story ever so intimately. ( -: yuk yuk yuk. we gotta stop this shit before we get booted off and banned from the forum for posting crap in every thread. I'd like to personally remind everyone, it all stated with some dork named Tony Clifton.
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I know, let's start bashing those dudes from England who have those funny "Beatle" accents. yuk yuk yuk
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CCJ, nice! What a story. Where the pills you were taking for this test the "morning after pills?" Joe where are you from again? What State?
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'Many of us have wondered about the State of CCJoe' he quipped in a genuine funny English accent.
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and Badger scores on the rebound! GOOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!! Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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on the rotten crotch story too!! Yuck!
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Psychotic State is your cute little Beatle accent badger 'posh'?? I luv those cute Beatle accents you 'blokes' in UK have. buut, the Monchuster occent isa muuch more inneresting. 10 things Noel and Liam love and hate. these guys are fucking funny as hell. the Japanese asks the question, what do you love? Liam: Number 1. Me. so, badger, are you a Manchester United fan or a Manchester City fan?? out with it sun, which are ye??
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help me translating this Noel does say: at the end of things he loves, I better say I luv my daughter and I better say I love my girlfriend?? right???!! it was translated in the subtitles to say I love my pet dog and my girlfriend. which did he say?? sumtimes it is 'ard to 'ear you blokes, and my 'earing is 'orrible, inn'it? peace.
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Went to to Deep Elem, to have a little fun got his $15 ready, came home with the crotch rot burn oh, sweet mama CC's got the crotch rot burn
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please don't ask me 'bout them Mezcali Blues neither. nice song parody, iknowurider. peace.
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That was a grate story, you pig. Never had my blood taken while drinking or otherwise disposed. I bet that was wild. No dancing? Well, $500 & a good tale, can't beat that. PEACE
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Go Philly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Sorry Trifecta , but I like the Flyers!!! Let's go Flyers!!!!
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yes famous Londoner Dick van Dyke with his authentic cockney accent provides an oh-so-accurate portrait of life in Britain today
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I'm off to go mow my aunt's lawn....Have a grate day!! Peace
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being overly observent, i was wondering how long the "e-mail sign-up" has been on the home page,below "who online". seems to me, if i'm a member why do i not an email reminder, wouldn't such events,offers n'releases already be posted on the home page? seems redundant! i do kind of remember it on the old dead.net but am just noticing it here now isay ol'chap, owabouta spot o'tea, yes yes roll1 4me
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all the way, baby! Ya gotta love a team that could cause the NHL to change the rules during the playoffs. When I was a kid I played goaltender. And believe me, I had my own way to deal with such antics... Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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Yes Mr Gallagher does say he loves his daughter not his dog Yes I hate Manchester United and I also hate Manchester City, who are now owned by Thaksin Shinowath no less, former PM of Thailand on whose watch thousands of drug users were shot while trying to 'run away from the police'. Not sure what Noel and Liam think about that. I don't exactly hate Oasis, they are not bad for a not-very-original pub band I suppose I am originally a Londoner from Peckham. I used to speak like Dick van Dyke but now sound like Prince Charles. Oh and I support Tottenham!
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I think it's a fairly recent addition, and mostly for the benefit of people who don't check in here that often. Every time a newsletter goes out or there's a new release we see new people and folks we haven't seen for a while. So if you're here early and you already get plenty of email from us, probably no need to sign up for more. But if you think you might be distracted for a while, not a bad plan to sign up.
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thx marye, i understand the thinkin, however i know i've signed up for newletters,etc, both on this page and on the old one, guess what! nada,nothing,zero,zip.. never ever recieved one? is it because i never registered as a deadhead(freaks unite)? i really wasn't registering for anything in 72-73, if you catch my drift. i have gotten to read the newsletters thanks to "the Archives". and yes yes, i"ve seen quite an addition of members since the dead went to sirus radio, like waves n a beach...
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I get my newsletters once in a while :)
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hey marye, any update for the chatrooms (temporary) maintenance program?? this works but it's not as much fun(hassle actually), i miss the inpending doom of the boot god;))) it was something for nothing with alittle xtra KICKed in, hehe.. misbehaving for naught peace tc
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u get newsletters, ratdog, rides on harleys, tekillya hangovers... i'm movin back east.... NOT:}{
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I am a lucky duck, I never really thought about it!! Now I'm really a happy camper :)
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Just be glad you're not a Disco Duck!Now you should be an even happier camper! Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.

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Hey now, has anyone heard any news on the chat room? Is it coming back? Are there any estimates as to when it will be back? TIA
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can u really HEAR news on the chatroom? wouldn't that be a newsroom? u been spending to much time in your personal archive mr. plant, posting willynilly pictures and whatnots! keep up the good work, takes my mind off the chat room, have u heard any news on it, any olds, just what is the situation anyway, i feel the snakes are behind this! where is that samoan when we need him...
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I don't really have much, except that a new improved version is being worked on and I spent some time failing to get booted by it last week. However, I am not going to make rash speculations based on that! But let's just say, you have been heard on this matter.
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i had to go:)))
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Just try http://www.badgerbadgerbadger.com ! Closer to it, methinks.Now I'll just have to find out how to install linux on a badger... Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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indeed Mr Pid that's what we do in the evenings
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yes yes,complete with the snake, i love it
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IKYR has an army amassed, at least 100 of her clones, pranksters work...and she of the luckyducks, now she is a flock...whats become of the baby!!!