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June 8, 2007 - 7:50am

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marye

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January 4, 2012 - 11:17pm

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plane of higher fields

sorry Oroboros, have only just checked this topic.may i offer my sincere condolences to you and your family and friends. i really understand when you say a better conclusion than the alternative of living and suffering. my Dad felt the same way towards the end of his life from terminal cancer; i remember him quietly and gently saying to my mum one day, that he'd had enough and just couldn't deal with the pain anymore. it is indeed preferable to such terrible discomfort. they are both now free to explore the Universe and have reached peace. a new fantastical journey begins... take care and always feel free to PM me if you want to talk or ramble or reminisce. "Remember the clear light, the pure clear white light from which everything in the universe comes, to which everything in the universe returns".
December 27, 2011 - 3:54pm

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Oroboros

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Thanks all for the kind words/messages,

but know that any sadness also is accompanied by 'welcome tears' as this conclusion is a much preferred alternative to how Sue was 'living'. While a tragic ending, Sue's life was grand one and filled with joy, family, and many efforts to bring fairness and justice to individuals and our social fabric. And now to her well deserved rest........take care, sister, take care and thanks for lessons learned.
December 24, 2011 - 10:45pm

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sherbear

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In Memory...

of Jesus on His Birthday! Today is the 25th of December in the 2011th day of Our Lord. To be Sure. (EST) 2011 AD or 2011 After Death (of Jesus) (What a horrrible death. See here.) Yes-----> the year is 2011 AD Some people keep track of these things. We just finished having birthday cake for Jesus and it was delicious! I made it super special with lot's of love, xo! A song for All of Us! Hearing Jerry do this tune with JGB was God send. Child-like and Grandparent reflection though out the song! Now, if I can remember where we were. My Sisters and Brothers A I want to say to my sisters and my brothers D Keep the faith A When the storm flies and the wind blows E Go on at a sturdy pace A add7 When the battle is fought and the victory's won D We can all shout together, "We have overcome!" A D We'll talk to the father and the son A When we make it to the promised land When we walk together little children We don't ever have to worry Through this world of trouble We've got to love one another Let us take our fellow man by the hand Try to help him to understand We can all be together forever and forever When we make it to the promised land Our bible reads Thou shalt not be afraid Of the terror by night Or the arrow that flies by day Nor for the pestilence That walketh in the darkness Nor for the destruction That waiteth in the noon-day hour We will walk together little children We don't ever have to worry Through this world of trouble We got to love one another Let us take our fellow man by the hand Try and help him to understand We can all be together forever and forever When we make it to the promised land *Solo* (verse) This world is not our home We're only passing through Our train is all made up Way beyond the blue Let us do the very best that we can While we're travelling through this land We can all be together shakin' our hand When we make it to the promised land, children When we make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land When we make it to the promised land Make it to the promised land We can all be together forever and ever When we make it to the promised land We can all be together forever and ever When we make it to the promised land~~ I love you all. Like the Prince of Peace. ---------(----@
December 24, 2011 - 10:21am

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marye

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Oroboros

sorry for your loss, glad for Sue's freedom at last after such a long ordeal.
December 24, 2011 - 8:31am

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Gr8fulTed

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Condolences

Sorry to see you've lost your sister-in-law to such a dreadful disease. I hope you and your family make it through the holidays okay.
December 23, 2011 - 9:25pm

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sherbear

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Her love will never cease...remember that part you get to keep. I will embrace you with all my heart, xo. Wish you were here... but alas you are, I am but human too. (((((*))))) Lovelight shining to you from NY. Peace and Comfort for the days ahead. >>>>onward love onward>>>>>> xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
December 23, 2011 - 9:24pm

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sherbear

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Her love will never cease...remember that part you get to keep. I will embrace you with all my heart, xo. Wish you were here... but alas you are, I am but human too. (((((*))))) Lovelight shining to you from NY. Peace and Comfort for the days ahead. >>>>onward love onward>>>>>> xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
December 23, 2011 - 9:10pm

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Oroboros

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My sister in law Sue finished her 'long goodbye' tonight.

10 years of gradual decline with MS presenting like Alzheimer's disease. The last several immobile in a bed with little brain activity. Now she is free. "She sang a while and then flew off.. .....don't cry now, don't you cry,... dry your eyes, on the wind..."
December 20, 2011 - 9:01am

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marye

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Joel Selvin nails it:

"When people in San Francisco speak of Warren Hellman 100 years in the future - and they will - it may very well be similar to what Churchill said of Gandhi: They will wonder if such a man ever truly did exist." Besides Hardly Strictly, there was the Free Clinic. And that was just the start. Gave rich guys a good name. Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/12/19/MNIL1MEC31…
December 19, 2011 - 12:09pm

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marye

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yeah

what a bummer, but what a cool guy. We were lucky to have him.

John Perry Barlow

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Albert Hofmann, 102

Swiss chemist without whom many of our lives would be quite different passed away in his home in Basel this week. Article here.

A real example of history repeating itself? The four students gunned down during the Vietnam-Cambodia war protest held in Kent Ohio, on the campus of Kent State University. I remember it vividly, being a high school senior 30 miles away. I compare this memory frequently with the current administrations efforts in the Middle East. One interesting difference today is that there is little student protest. Toss on some Crosby, Stills, and Nash to honor those who have died, not just for all of our freedoms, but especially for the freedom to express ones views. He's gone.. ..and nothin's gonna bring him back...

Thanks for the reminder Gr8fulTed

The memory of Kent State sends a chill up my spine. Peace Now. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake

In memory of Kent State ....thanks for the reminder....

Tin soldiers and Nixon coming,We're finally on our own. This summer I hear the drumming, Four dead in Ohio. Gotta get down to it Soldiers are cutting us down Should have been done long ago. What if you knew her And found her dead on the ground How can you run when you know?

Sad Memory

The more time that passes, the harder it is for me to understand the events at Kent State. Senseless tragedy in the name of patriotism, it seemed then and now, to me. If there was a military draft these daze, I think we'd be seeing this same scenario being played out again, unfortunately. This incident also illustrates that the price a society pays for any freedom goes far beyond military actions, abroad.

not fade away

RIP Alton Kelly 6-17-1940>6-1-2008RIP Bo Diddly 12-30-1928>6-2-2008 Our love is real, not fade away, not fade away!

Folksinger Radical Utah Phillips

He lived here in Spokane, WA for a period. Utah Phillips - singer, songwriter, activist, raconteur and unionist Aidin Vaziri, Chronicle Staff Writer Tuesday, May 27, 2008 Bruce "U. Utah" Phillips, the Grammy-nominated folk singer known for his bushy white beard, tireless tour schedule and equally tireless work for social justice, died of congestive heart failure Friday at his home in Nevada City. He was 73 and had been having health problems in recent years. San Francisco Chronicle article If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake

R.I.P. '60s poster artist Anton Kelley, 67

http://www.latimes.com/news/obituaries/la-me-kelley4-2008jun04,0,371842…

John K. Giles

Rest in peace John, and may the fore winds blow you safely home. Good friend passed away he was 46. He left behind a wife and 2 special kids.

mimi

our beautiful girl- two weeks shy of her high school graduation- just barely 18- was killed by a drunk driver may 18, 2008. mimi was a wonderful girl- she had dreams and ideas and a wicked sense of humor. she was going places and becoming and evolving... now she's a box of ashes and a tombstone and a hole in our lives... here we are, 41 and our shining star gone... our child, our hope of grandchildren- our hope for her life will remain unresolved and unfulfilled... oh, the waste and the tragedy of it.... all because some kid was drunk... our lives are forever altered by the selfish behavior of one drunk kid and by the terrible decision-making of the adults who provided alcohol for their party. don't provide kids with alcohol. the law isn't there just to make teenage life miserable and to make some parents 'cooler' than others- the teenage brain (as plenty of brain research will demonstrate) is not capapble of handling alcohol! don't be your kid's friend- be his parent: don't give alcohol to kids! make it really hard for them to get their hands on alcohol! we tried to teach her, and we knew she'd try it out amd that her friends would too- of course we did- we were teenagers once too ( and a deadhead to boot!)-- we knew the danger still lurked. we knew... but oh, my dear God help us cope with this... i know by logic we did all we could, but logic isn't part of the calculation anymore... so, now we are statistics. and we are broken hearted. right now, i can't listen to 'birdsong' --that was her song-- but i hope someday i will again-- caroline

oh caroline...

there aren't any words for this. I am so, so sorry. No one should have to go through that.

Steve-O

so sorry for the loss of your good friend.

So sorry

Steve-O, sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for John's family and friends.Caroline, no words can describe what I felt while reading your post. I can only hope you can hear Birdsong again someday. So sorry.

Healing beams

Steve-O so sorry for the loss of your friend. May the four winds blow him safely home. Caroline, Reading your post broke my heart. May you someday be able to listen to Birdsong and have only sweet memories of your daughter Mimi. Fare you well, fare you well, I love you more than words can tell, Listen to the river sing sweet songs, to rock my soul. May they rest in peace, Gigi

thinking of Mimi

Caroline, my heart goes out to you and all those who love Mimi. Thanks for writing so we can all know her a little.

Caroline

I am so sorry for your loss. I echo what badger just wrote. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake

Deepest Sympathy

Caroline. Is hard to know what to say about your tragic story, other than am sending you the strongest support beams that I can manage. ********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens

Caroline

I'm sorry. "Where does the time go?"

caroline , steve-o

am so sorry for your loss ,, i can`t even think of the words to say right now ... may peace be with all who has lost loved ones ,,, am sending out beams of strength to help you through .... the sun will shine again for you someday ,, it always does ... try to stay strong ,, we are all here for you ....

stevo, caroline

I'm sorry for your loss. Peace to you.

Caroline & Steve O

Hugs to you both. Makes me think of RosaLee McFall Healing Beams... PEACE

carolin

though i have lost a dear friend in my brother to a drunk driver. i cant even to begine to kinow what ur pain is for no parent should have to bury a child.i can only say that we as a ppl n a family can stop these sensless tradgeties by not letting the ones we love n even the ones we dont from gettin b hind the wheel after a few drinks.cause only heart ach can come of it . so the strongest of well beams n vibes n many many many prayres to u n your family. bear

steve-o

sorry to read of the loss of your friend, john.. and loss of a father and companion to his family, so very sad...Fare you well, fare you well you mean more than words can tell Listen to the river sing sweet songs To rest your soul.. peace

caroline

as a parent i can not think of the amout of loss you are feeling, i'm very sorry for you and your other...Such a long, long time to be gone and a short time to be there peace

Thanks All

Your condolences mean alot, and I'll surely pass them on to John's family. The funeral was very sad, but the wake was awesome and I'm sure he was there for it!! Peace brother!!! Caroline, Words can't describe the sadness and emptyness you must be feeling. Well beams and healing vibes to you and your family. Peace

My Grand Daddy he was

My Grand Daddy he was beutiful and Jerry I never knew him i wish i did but his sprit was ment to fly on to the terripan station May there be love in your hearts and dead in your heads!

thank you for the vibes for us and for our mimi

thank you all- some days we feel very alone, and then mornings like this when it is just me in the house and i am drinking coffee and wandering from room to room- and i remember i can check in on the forums and find someone has been sending us vibes for our girl. it feels so much better to not feel so empty if even for a quarter of an hour... thank you- caroline

Caroline

You are not alone!!! We are all here with you. If gets real bad, and you want to-send a pm-I will answer. My sister had the same dramatic misfortune as you, last march (well was no drunken driver, but her 18 year old daughter died in a car crash) and have some vague idea how she suffered(s) from the novels of mails she wrote, while trying to process and keep sane. HUG! ********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens

Caroline

TL's right, we're here for you. Peace and healing to you.

Steve-O

Much peace and healing to you and John's family too. Losing a friend is really hard.

Steve-O

Condolences to John's family, and Steve-O, may you remember your good times together. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake

Steve-O

Condolences to you for the loss of your friend man.....I hope for peace and healing for his wife and 2 children.....

Caroline

I'm touched by your story, and I promise to keep it with me, and take something from it as a parent myself.....I'm truly sorry and my heart goes out to you and your family....please please please feel the peace and warmth and healing wishes being sent your way, I cannot imagine what it must be like. I'm incredibly sorry for your loss.

George Carlin

shit, I just heard from a friend, George Carlin passed away in Santa Monica... one of the funniest of the great funnymen. a real original. RIP, George.

may the four winds blow you safely home. peace.

bye george!

RIP george carllin, 5-12-1937>6-22-2008 go tell jerry and pig a joke, and use all seven words peace out

You are kidding me!

OMG I had to look it up... he had a heart attack ,How F@#$king sad, he was so funny I just saw him in Pitman alittle while ago, he was grate and dirty!!! Always made me laugh...how sad! RIP George

RIP Cody's Books

Home to many a great booksigning, including Dead-related, and a Berkeley institution for decades. This is truly a serious bummer.

And I heard him tell the warden

Just before i reached his cellLet my leash carrying friend sing my request bad day :( my dog archer passed over run free and watch out for the hot-air ballons

Cody's

Yes, marye. The loss of this and other small independent book stores is a very sad monment indeed. My local one struggles as do most. These stores are very important for intellectual freedom and growth and the exchange of ideas. And for me as book nut they hold a special place of mystery and excitement, you never know what book or journal you may stumble upon or who you will meet or what conversation will ensue. Many also support readings by very independent authors. Folks please support your local independent bookstore. If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake

grdead 73

Sorry about the loss of your dog Archer. Take care. Peace to you and his spirit, If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake

so sorry, 73...

there's nothing good about losing your dog. I've lost a few, and my present two are getting up there in years, so it's on my mind a lot too. Take care, and safe travel beams to Archer.

I'm so sorry TC

... to hear of the loss of your friend Archer. May your broken heart heal fast...

Hey TC

So sorry to hear that your doggie archer passed so sad....

heaven

heavan is the place where all of the dogs (and other pets and people and plants) you have ever loved are.

thx all

4 all your kind words, showed my daughter, she appreciated them alot (who r these people, do u know them?she asked). happy trails tc

"Andy" Otherwise known as John Andrew Vojtko

I wish to Inform the Deadhead community that my Best Friend in the entire world as passed and any fellow heads that would know him (and there were many, many heads)should know that this happened, particularily Tony in Portland that i do not know how to contact but I saw at the 2004 show there with the Dead. Andy was a model deadhead in his belief system or principals. Jerry would of have been proud to call him friend , he never wanted to be a typical fan or hassle anyone at anytime. He was my music partner we went to so many shows together , the ones on my profile is a small sampling. His knowledge of the music and the Dead plus numerous other band community was like a library of knowledge , The vault people could of used Andy. The following is his Obit and the DEADHEADS worldwide weather you knew him or not, should heed to his passing. His story is 30 years plus and amazing. It would take more space than I'm provided to tell the story from beginning to end. I have been given his music collection , which is quite extensive in tapes as well as CD's , Probably more than 3000 pieces or more. I will be cataloging this collection of live shows and all. The following is the OBIT , My Tears have flown for three days now since I found out. Yesterday was the big day for the furneral and being with his family. I have known Andy since we were 15 years old. John Andrew "Andy" Vojtko John Andrew "Andy" Vojtko of Libertyville Visitation for John Andrew "Andy" Vojtko, 45, will be from 1 p.m. until the time of the services at 2 p.m. Saturday, June 28, at Holy Cross Lutheran Church, 29700 N. St. Mary's Road, Libertyville, with Pastor Robert Davis officiating. Born Aug. 18, 1962, in Libertyville, he passed away Wednesday, June 25, 2008. Andy had lived in the Libertyville-Mundelein area all his life. He was a 1980 graduate of Libertyville High School, received an associates degree from the College of Lake County and attended Illinois State University. He was a charter member of Holy Cross Lutheran Church in Libertyville and was employed as a cook at Winchester House for many years. Andy enjoyed music, model trains, the outdoors, various pets and cooking. Surviving are his parents, Gerald and Delores Vojtko of Libertyville; two sisters, Jane (Charles) Binning of Cornville, Ariz. and Lynne (Darren) Rogers of Wauconda; and his favorite nephew and niece, Ethan and Brianna Rogers. Memorial contributions can be made to your favorite charity. Arrangements were made by Burnett-Dane Funeral Home, Libertyville, 847-362-3009. Published in the Chicago Suburban Daily Herald on 6/27/2008.