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  • Oroboros
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    A good buddy passed on Saturday,
    6 months ago David was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.His battle is over. "I didn't think it would end this way." "End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it." "What? See what?" "White shores, and beyond, a far green country under a swift sunrise." "Well, that isn't so bad." "No, No , it isn't." Excerpt from the film "Lord of the Rings: Return of the King.
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    A Gift
    Wondered why I felt no lose with his passing then I realized I was happy.Happy someone who changed the world got to live a long meaningful life. In my generation that means a lot! Thank you God for the gift of Nelson Mandela. May he R.I.P.
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    RIP Nelson Mandela
    A giant luminary of nonviolence takes his peace. Lay you down, my dear brother.
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    Grateful Doe went to the show
    It was the tix in his pocket and the red space your face 95' tour T he was wearing is why he is known as grateful fan/Doe. June 24 & 25 1995 at the Rfk stadium in Washington, D.C., The new event page on FB is trying to get as many ppl to post everywhere (not just FB) in hopes someone will recognize him. That is why it has the long name of "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join". If someone here knows anything and not on FB plz contact me. Wish I could post pics here. They found the guy he got his tix from. He came with 20 tix and doesn't remember who he sold/gave them to. Some of us remember this when it happened and 18 yrs is too long. We don't want him to fade away.
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    they were GDTS tickets. If they were, maybe they could be traced back through their numbers. Though I doubt I am the first person to think of this in 18 years. I hope they figure this out, it really is too long for this to go unresolved...
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    Thank you Anna rRxia. 200 people tested and excluded for him, He is one of many so I don't think finger prints are the answer. Not everyone have not walked right and been finger printed. There are young ppl with not much of a family left or more often unfortunately families do disown there own members. As freaks we all know this too well. His family is trying to find him and they are us. only deadheads can figure out how to accomplish anything with not much. ;)
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    Mona - What a sad story
    A noble cause you are on as well as other deadheads. I'll do what I can but this sure does look like a cold trail. If the note found in his pocket had a phone number without an area code it sounds like the authorities didn't do the basic work of calling the # with all area codes. That is very sad! One has to wonder why his family didn't make more of an effort to find him? He was ejected from a vehicle so his fingerprints were intact, therefore his fingerprints were not on file anywhere. I don't know with the consolidation of data bases if efforts are being made to recheck his fingerprint record on a regular basis. My feeling is that "the authorities" find this case long closed and aren't doing a thing other than maintaining a record locator just in case. My predilection in such cases is to think spiritually about this fella. I have to believe after 18+ years his soul should have moved on. It would be horrible to think he was a ghost hanging around that death place still, as some people might think happens to people who die suddenly and won't let go of their body... It is still possible to catch a break in this case, stranger things have happened. 1,2,3,4,5,6,7; All good deadheads go to heaven!
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    Unfortunate here you have to copy and paste. If that doesn't work then just google Grateful Doe for pictures etc. There are many sites with the same info. Sorry my synapse is having problems with my synopsis. (This bear just wants to hibernate) and I did manage to get it mixed up. I mentioned Facebook because that is why I am here posting. A deadhead sister Lesha Johanneck has started a new campaign there with an event page to have everyone share about Grateful Doe across the globe and the internet in hopes someone will recognize him so he can rest in peace. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE ON FACEBOOK TO HELP! Just share, share, share! IF you are on facebook look up "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join". Here is full information from findagrave.com: Jason "Grateful Dead Fan" Doe Birth: unknown Death: Jun. 26, 1995 Emporia Greensville County Virginia, USA I challenge anyone who reads this to please pass this information onto a friend or even a couple of friends. If you have the time please contact media in your area and ask them to run my story. I really am tired of this long journey that I have been on and would like to go home.... If you have any information that may help identify me PLEASE contact The Office of the Chief Medical Examiner Medicolegal Death Investigator 1-800-447-1706. My agency case # is 123526 **** My alias for the last 15 years has been Jason Doe AKA Grateful Dead Fan. I was given the name Jason because of a note found in my pocket and because of the tie-dye Grateful Dead t-shirt I was wearing. It really would be nice to have my real name back again. I died in a horrible car accident in Emporia, Greensville County, Virginia on Monday, June 26, 1995 around 1:30 PM. I died along with the driver of the van. The driver, Michael Eric Hager fell asleep at the wheel, the van left the road & hit some trees. Neither the driver or I was wearing seat belts. I first hit the windshield and then hit the trees. Both the driver and I were ejected from the van. We both died instantly. Michael was identified quickly. He had his ID on him, as well as the vehicle registation. Michael's family did not recognize me, they suspected that I was hitch hiking that day and Michael picked me up to give me a ride somewhere. I had just been to a couple of Grateful Dead shows the weekend before (June 24th & June 25th)the accident at RFK Stadium in Washington, DC. I still had the 2 ticket stubs in my pockets when they found me. They also found a note in my pocket that said "Jason, Sorry we had to go, see ya around, call me #914 prefix with an arrow pointing to Caroline T.'s name. ----> Caroline T. + Caroline O. Bye!!!!" There is also a cute little drawn picture of Jerry Garcia on the note. I wonder where these girls are and if they remember me?? The only other things I had with me are 4 quarters and a yellow disposable lighter. I was wearing a red tie dye t-shirt that was from the Grateful Dead 1995 Summer Tour. I had on a pair of light blue 505 Levi jeans size 33x32, size 11 1/2 blue or black FILA athletic shoes, white athletic socks, beaded necklace, a macrame necklace. My Vital Stats: Age: 16-21 Height: 5'8" Weight: 169lbs Hair Color: Light Brown/Dark Blonde/Dyed Red Eye Color: Brown Identifying Marks: I have a small homemade 5 point star tattoo on my left arm. Piercings: My left ear is pierced. I was not wearing an earring when they found me. Here is an article about my death: http://docs.google.com/View?id=dcbh2vh8_130gbt45khd To read more about my story you can visit me at Websleuths: http://www.websleuths.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=172 My info on NamUs.gov: https://identifyus.org/cases/6095 Burial: Cremated, Other. Specifically: Unknown Created by: LoveToHelp Record added: May 28, 2010 Find A Grave Memorial# 52954852
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    Mona
    Links don't work. It would be good if you could put together a brief synopsis of what the scenario was for those of us who don't do Facebook.
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    Help bring Grateful Doe home. (@);-)
    It has been almost 19 years we have been searching to bring Grateful Doe home. Possibly named Jason he was killed after a grateful dead concert in June 1995 the dates of the concert were June 24 & 25 1995 at the Rfk stadium in Washington, D.C.. If you know anyone that went to the concert add them to the group or just keep sharing his flyer someone has to know something. PLZ help your brother by joining this group or posting this anywhere you can. The bus leaves no one behind. Thank you. ^^^passing it on from Facebooks "1995 Grateful dead fans @Rfk stadium Were you there??? Plz join" Events page. More about him on the "Grateful Doe" Community page. Here is a pic of what he could look like today (He had dyed RED Hair), his tattoo, concert stubs, and note found in his pocket addressed to Jason. https://scontent-b-sea.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc1/1148843_52733253734037… Any info at all check out Facebook pages above or PLZ contact/message me here. Most of all PLZ post far and wide in any or all special sites or groups you are into on the internet. Together we can sing him back home! Thanx, Mona (@);-)
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So sorry for your loss of your best friend Andy,may he rest in Peace
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Thank you for your kind words , and if anyone discovers they knew him share a story
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Recently My Friend and Boss passed away. His name is Ryan L. Black he's fom Lake Arrowhead California. He was a huge Fan of the Grateful Dead, Rat Dog and so on. He Died last tuesday, early morning, he lived excatly 33 years. I thought posting this here would be a good memorial for him. The community here will miss him as well as all of us who knew him well. Please keep his family and friends in your prayers and thoughts. KEEP ON TRUCKIN' Once a man and twice a child, Everything on earth is just for a while. Bob Marley
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Sounds quite tragic. Peace and lots of music for your departed friend and boss neondonnie********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens
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so sorry for your loss of a good friend, neondonnie, and peace 2 u2
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Peace and strength to Ryan Black, and to all those who hold him dear in their hearts. Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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Thank you for your kind words. They help. You guys are truly kindred spirits.
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He was a friend of mine (& many others) Cecil Francis Farmer, age 55, originally from the Rosebud Indian Reservation in South Dakota came to California in the early 70's, passed on April 11, 2008. He loved the Grateful Dead (we went to quite a few shows together) & many types of music. Cecil was great @ beading & making things. Always seemed to laugh. I would call him my "Faithful Indian Friend" He would call me "his faithful white woman" We were friends for over 30 years & shall be missed by many. Hope he's having fun in the Happy Hunting Grounds......love ya always from the Gypsy Cowgirl...............
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'It rolls all into one"........isn't that part of a GD song?? (Stella Blue?) DAD-it's been almost 21 years since you left (Jan.16, 1916-Aug. 1, 1987) then we (my son & brother) all went to Telluride, Co.. for the gigs-I hope you were watching............UNC-the favorite uncle in the family, known as "the King" (Dec. 18, 1906-June 4, 2004) You led a charmed life, worked hard & died peacefully in your sleep @ 97 yrs young..........NANA- Aug. 6, 1891-March, 1971-you were the coolest grandmother to have-slamming the newspaper on the table when the GD got busted in 1967-"here, here, here's the GD you like so much" & 3 years later watching the GD on TV when it was broadcasted live from Winterland (I think it was there) & I was too pregnant to go . THANKS family!!!.........Elanna Dawson-miss your accent & laugh ...........RP-it's been 30 years-you were the Deadhead cowboy to bring me to more shows when we were so young & father to my son, who inherited all your good stuff...........If the 4 winds haven't brought yall home, may they do it now.........love yall, glad you were in my life-the Gypsy Cowgirl-now go out & make it a great day..............
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So much loss ,, my heart and positive vibes go out to all who has lost loved ones and freinds..... Peace be with you all .... The sun will shine again ...
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"the sun will shine in my backyard, someday"......aren't those the lyrcis??? it's shining anyways........Gypsy Cowgirl
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is where I always understood that the sun was shining, W.W. but perhaps you are right. ********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens
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The Sun will shine in my back door someday.The Sun will shine in my back door someday. March winds will blow all my troubles away.
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especially today when it's cold, gray and gloomy in the Bay Area and I could stand a little of that sun in my back yard...
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hey GD Mom-thanks-you would think I'd remember the lyrics, even @ that hour & after a long day & only hearing it a zillion times.....oh, well, memory loss is a horrible thing..........haha.............I'll start playing it for the grandkids......must've been thinking about the backyard..............xoxoo Gypsy Cowgirl...........
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My cousin and loved one traveled with the show for awhile I believe. She was murdered in San Antonio last month. By an old roommate. She was a peaceful soul with nothing but love. I thought this should be said. Please pray for the soul!
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I'm so sorry to hear this. Comfort to you and your family.
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Healing beams to you and yours and may you find comfort in your memories of your cousin. Peace, Gigi A box of rain will ease the pain, and love will see you through.
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I lost my dad, you guys, and I need some happiness and good vibes. I'm Logan, and he took me to hundreds of shows when I was a little girl. I don't really know what else to say, except I keep worrying about living my life in the way he raised me and honoring him. Going to shows with him, hearing Robert Hunter's lyrics, listening to Jerry, it all taught me how to be a decent human being. I'm 31 now, I'm a social worker in LA, and I still need my Pop. I put the line from "Crazy Fingers" in his obituary and it was the hardest thing, especially after my mom wanted to put a line from "Ripple" in there...I said, No, that's the first thing people would expect, I always liked this line from "Crazy Fingers," so she let me. Thank you, in advance, for the warmth and kindness. Love. "Who can stop what must arrive now? Something new is waiting to be born Dark as the night you're still by my side, shining side..."
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Your Pop sounds like a wonderful person and a grate DadHealing vibes are heading your way... You picked a grate line from a grate song to honor your Pop, He must be smiling down on you :) Peace, Gigi
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losing one's dad is one of the hardest thing in life.........we played "Throwing Stones" when we lost our dad & then went to Telluride for the shows-after 21 years he's still missed, but lucky enough to have had a great dad-sounds like you did, too! & you were SO lucky he took you to shows! how cool is that???? " & love will see you through"......xoxo Gypsy Cowgirl
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"One way or another, this darkness got to give"
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I send you all the love, warmth, and kindness I can muster.What wonderful memories, keep them in your heart. He will always be there next to his beautiful daughter guiding you as he has always done. Keep that sparkle for him in your eyes. Quite sure of how proud of you he was. Take care,pk
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Love will see you through. "Where does the time go?"
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Btyant Brandenberg,,Aka "Stinky",,,Well I just got a phone call no one likes ta get,, my best friends and tour brother for many a years died out in Colorado this morning....Bryant you will be missed,, anyone that has a copper Jerry hand hanging in thier bus or car,, may know him as "Stinky",,(he did give up that nick a few years ago, something about meeting woman with the name stinky),, Bryant and I toured together for about 7 almost 8 years in the late 80's and 90's,, he is the one I ran off with to take a break from society when my marrage ended,, we spent about a yaer together then , I have not had the chance to see him in a few years,, but we always stayed in contact on the phone,, Bryant worked at Go Ask Alice in Brockport, NY for a short time but you may all know him ,,(if you were on Dead tour, or from Colorado area) as the guy that twist and wraped with copper,, he had been working with copper for almost 25 years,, Anyone that was close with him most likey has one of his Jerry hands,,, Bryant always said when he died he wanted his ashes spred at Cougar hot springs,, I will try and make sure that happens,,,, With a empty spot in my heart,, Mike
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Today would of been my sister's 50th birthday today! She passed away 1 year and 11 months ago after the fight of her life with breast cancer. She was my best friend and I miss her every minute! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU PATTY!! I LOVE YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN TELL! Dance with Jerry!
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Thank you, Mr. Newman... from salad dressing to hard boiled eggs, you were one of kind and an inspiration to me, as well an entire generation.
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NOT PAUL NEWMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!! Learning sad facts here on Deadnet. Am so sad to read GRTUD and johnman's posts that have to go research and mourn a bit. Sniff.********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens
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So sad :(
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Oh, dear...what a loss for us all. When Paul Newman came to a GD show in NY-it was a stadium show (Giant Stadium, I think) We were standing behind the drums & I turned around & there was Paul Newman. Introduced myself & the 8 yr. old boy I was in charge of @ the time. The kid says "OH, you're the man on the salad dressing" Needless to say, Paul Newman laughed very hard & enjoyed the rest of the concert......later rented some movies like "Cool Hand Luke" so the boy could get a clue on who Paul Newman is/was ..................Gypsy Cowgirl
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Great Motown songwriter, Norman Whitfield was buried today. "I Heard It Through the Grapevine" and so much more from this man. Psychedelic soul kitchen cooker. It's a turn table night.
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Otis Watts jr. Born , Febuary 6, 1928 Prosperity, South Carolina Passed away, October 5, 2008 Jacksonville, FL. Services held: Graveside October 8 2008 Uligy; God looked around his garden And He found an empty place, He them looked down upon this earth, And saw your tired face, He put his arms around you And lifted you to rest. God`s garden must be beutiful. He always takes the best. He knew you were suffering, He knew you were in pain. He knew you would never get well on earth again. He saw the road was getting rough and the hills were hard to climb. So He closed your weary eyelids, And whispered "Peace be thine". It broke our hearts to loose you But you did`nt go alone. For part of us went with you The day God called you home. Rest in Peace my dear freind . We will never forget you . Can`t forget ,, Paul Newman , the best of the best .. Rest in peace ..
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I forgot to mention that I did not write that .. His family wrote it .. it is beutiful they did a real nice job on everything .. Thank you .. Peace .. Stu ....
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John 14:27 (to you ;)Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you; John 14:16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Conforter, that he may abide with you forever;
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My sister Patty she passed away from breast cancer 2 years ago today on my birthday She was my sister and best friend. I miss her every minute of everyday. Peace to you Patty Dance with Jerry for me :)
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losing someone you love..it hurts for a long time, i know........my thoughts and prayers are with you gigi....giant hugs!!
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and I'm sorry your sister didn't get a chance to come hang with us.
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My thoughts are with you Gigi, the love of your sister is evident in everything you say and do,she seems to be always with you. Be happy this birthday knowing she is in you and a part of you and you are one and being one is beautiful.
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I lost one of my sisters 10 years ago to breast cancer. I know what you are feeling and i wish you grace, peace & love. My sister loved the Grateful Dead too. Just about every dance concert I list here she was with me, dancing too. Her son was 12 when we lost her and our third sister (Missy Motown) finished raising him. We three live together. He's a drummer. Peace to you and your family
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for all of your kind words!!Love & Peace, Gigi
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stevie c Losing a family member is hard for anyone to cope with, but losing a child is the worst. Watching your spouse cry under her breath, the siblings looking on in confusion, not even close to being able to understand. These are things a dad has to deal with after finding his sixteen year old son the next morning lifeless after an overdose while you were asleep. Not being there to help him in his time of need isn't the only thing regretable, but not seeing the problem in the first place. I know he loved life though, his music, guitar and friends. I really hope he is in that better place we all hope to see one day- God's golden shore, until then, I love you more than words can tell.......
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Nothing could be worseI am so very sorry for your loss, may you find peace and comfort in your memories of your son. Peace,Gigi
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Peace and tranquility for both of your lost loved ones. Just feel them in your heart-they're there with you for sure.********************************** Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you will still exist, but you have ceased to live. Samuel Clemens
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i am so sorry for the loss your family is suffering, peace and love
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My thoughts are with you. TigerLilly said it best in her post. Peace If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. William Blake