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    Absolutely he hung on riggsjr.You are very lucky that he was surrounded by the ones who loved him in his final moments. Its a huge comfort for the soul after death. For the last images and sensations to be so full of love and compassion in those hours, minutes and seconds before the journey into another realm is so deeply powerful, so precious, that we won't fully comprehend until it's our turn, should we be so fortunate. For me to witness my Dad laughing with a throaty cough on the morning of the day he died, at a perfectly cheesy joke, when he was obviously deeply uncomfortable and wanting to pass over because the pain was too much to take was a blessing i never take lightly. Sometimes i forget, like you do when life continues and the years roll by, but then when it suddenly hits you like a lightning bolt, and they speak to you in your dreams, those tears come from the very pit of your stomach and make you realise that you were a part in something that others only dream of. We are indeed extremely lucky.
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    I lost my Dad 8 years ago. While he was in hospital and after we had been told to expect the worst at any time,I had to attend a meeting 70 miles away ( a sales meeting which the company refused to release me from), I asked the guy in charge of the meeting if I could leave my mobile on vibrate and explained my circumstances, to be told all mobiles must be switched off. When the meeting ended and as I was leaving the building I switched on my phone to see 23 missed calls/messages. It turns out my boss, secretary, wife and sister had been phoning from around half an hour after the start of the meeting to say my Dad had taken a turn for the worse and the end was very near. Luckily after a frantic drive I managed to get to the hospital around 20-30 minutes before my dad passed away, so was with him at the end. However when I think of the anguish and frustration my Mother, sister and wife were put through as they frantically tried to get a hold of me I still feel very bitter that one individual caused them additional grief due to his lack of compassion. On the brighter side, I always try to take something good from what life throws at me, and I truly believe my Dad hung on until I could be with him and share his final moments which I still treasure to this day.
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    Spare a thought for many people today - Including the families with small children that died in a cruiser accident on the River Volga in Russia yesterday. Looks positively awful. The victims of the train crash in Fatephur, India. And the recent severe drought in East Africa. Yep, it's the poor who suffer again. We don't know how lucky we are.....
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    it do....it surely do....
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    so sorry, both of you.
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    ((HUGS)) Johnman! And I get impatient with myself for still hurting so for my Dad after 7 months********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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    It was a tumor that got my mom...they tried to cut it out, but that just woke it up, and made it grow. I went home on emergency leave for the surgery, missing a Garcia show onboard the carrier I was assigned to, but it was weeks later that we lost her. I never did get to say goodbye, though I know she's watchin' out for me. It's been almost 25 years and it still hurts... I expect it always will.....
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    Yes it was johnman, don't lie!!!!!! Ha ha!!! I know what you mean about missing a parent; i lost my Dad to cancer in 2004. I was at work when i got the phone call. Managed to see him that morning too and told him a joke. Was hallucinating through a Dick's Picks at the time; worked out that the moment he died was just as "Looks Like Rain" started. It sure did Dad, it sure did... But, they've only left the physical plane; sometimes no consolation when you wake up at 2.00am hurting, but they ARE all around us. We just have to readjust our vision; it's time for the peripheral to become our main means of focus; the sidereal our ability to see. Still wish he was here though.....
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    I miss my mom....
    I wanna take her to a show...Mom, ya shouldn't have left so young. Ya didn't meetcher grandson, even....if you were still here, I know my family would not have imploded (or deploded, or hexplowdid, or.....or.... whatever).....Dang it, Mom......just plain MISS you.....aLOT.
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    It was to the spammer whom dear marye sent to spamhell, where all good (huh?) spammers go. Golly.....I'm not a hassshoe....jeeebers....yek ek ek ek ek ek ek....(popeye laff)..rarrarrf!!! wagwagwag
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Strange but true...Ive seen Prince more than the dead....complete ends of the spectrum I know, but as Prince one said Ive got two sides, and they're both friends"....watching a bootleg dvd from '88 right now....just killer...Peace! iGrateful
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My Dale, a year has slid by without you. Nothing...NOTHING is the same. Know our love will not fade away It lasts in thoughts, scents, songs, places, in me and around me. I feel you near. LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE 1111 twin flames
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Thank you for your kindness! peace
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Sisterearth is one very kind and caring soul let me tell you all. Not often meet someone going threw grief who cares more about the next person like she does. Just a small shout out because of the kindness .
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To those of us who have lost our mom's, this is the day I remember mine and wish I could give her a hug and a fresh bouquet of flowers.
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Amen to that brother
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True dat... Peace from paradise.
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I got to know you since you were the last place I ran into my friend since birth, Jimmy. Thru you I made so many friends, some jobs and a lot off laffs. We had your wake last night and 2 yrs ago today we lost Jimmy. You kept his memory alive and grow. He loved this neighborhood like you and had the best wild stories about it. I now can add to those stories. Thank you! <3 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paEQc668kY4
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As we celebrate the lives and at the same time mourn the passing of these rock and roll musicians, friends and family, a few things stand out: One, we are blessed and our lives are enriched because of those who made it their mission to bring music into our lives. Two, without friends to share these moments, life wouldn't be near as exciting and colorful. And Three, which comes in three parts, like a waltz: 1) True love can't be bought; it is nurtured in the heart, just as music is. 2) Home grown 'maters can't be bought; they are nurtured in the home, where your heart and music is. 3) True friendship can't be bought; it is only nurtured and obtained through an individual's action, a yearning to share life's melodies (and drama) with someone else, and likewise, a commitment by a like-minded person to reciprocate. Thank you to the Sunshine Daydreamers, deadheads, and music and life lovers everywhere, for it is the spirit and actions of those like you, and KristineD, and Mona, and Richie and countless others everywhere that counts in the end... So tune that fiddle, put on your dancing shoes and let your freak flag fly. We are everywhere, we are together, and we are one. Peace to you all... geoit'snotjustaboutthetomatoesmeister
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Growing up on Going st. in the late 60s to early 70s a long haired dude would walk to the store with a parrot on his shoulder and a monkey on his back. All us kids would run out and see and talk to him. He pointed at Jimmy Snyder, my neighbor since I was born, and told him don't ever mess with my monkey! Soon as he could Jimmy ran down to his house and climbed up the apple tree the monkey was in. The monkey yelled at him and started to throw apples at Jimmy as hard as he could. Jimmy ended up running home as fast as he could scared to look behind him. RIP James Micheal Snyder. I miss your stories.
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to johnman on the passing of his dad. So sorry for your loss.
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I'm really sorry to hear that! Another legend of my youth gone...
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I was sorry to hear about that one.
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...was The Producers, OMG it was funny when I first saw it in my teens. It's downright hilarious in this day and age. I keep waiting for Donald Trump to start singing "Springtime for Hitler"! Thanks for oh, so many laughs, Gene. Give Gilda a kiss for me?
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for those that knew Leslie of Wayne whoolan and Leslie she died July of this year from cancer.
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Today my thoughts and prayers go out all those lost 15 years ago in the events on this day. I never use to care more about others then I did myself. this world teach us lessons everyday. Today I want to take the moment to wish everyone a peaceful safe day. And wish all good things in all good time for all. God Bless us all ... I for one will never forget the history we lived threw. I do not like giving those who tried to hurt us the words many say. Point being we all know what happened and who acted against us. This is for those with us and fore us. God bless everyone in this crazy world we live.
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Hello everyone. I am Dave21768's wife.I don't know how long it has been since he last posted here. I am sorry to tell any friends he has made here that he has passed away. He left us on Aug.5th of this year. Our eldest son had Ripple played for him at the celebration of life. I'm sorry it took me awhile to notify his fellow Deadheads. I really only just found the forums thanks to customer service when I asked them for help in re-homing his collection. He has been getting the Dave's picks and also had box sets. If you are looking for a particular set or number in the series, please contact me. Or if you have any links to sites besides ebay where I can find interested parties, I would appreciate that as well. Dave would be most unhappy to see his favorite music sitting on a shelf and not being heard. As a lover of music he had a wide range of interests and favorites. The Dead where at the top of his list. Thank you in advance and God bless.You can contact me at elle7068@charter.net
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Elle I am so sorry for your family's loss. Hopefully Dave is in a peaceful place. Stay well.
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Loss is tough. Sorry also. We don't know each other yet we are all one here.
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sorry for your loss is all we can say, but ... your reaching out is incredibly self-less. thank you
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Thank you to those who contacted me in regards to re-homing my husbands collection. I have been put in contact with brianhahne and he has offered to help me with dispersing the collection. I appreciate the emails of condolences and postings here of the same. Once I am done with taking care of his collection, I may never post here again. I just want to thank you all for being so kind and sharing a major part of my husbands life. He loved talking about his favorite shows and recordings and I was not so great at that lol. I am sure you all filled a void in his music loving heart. This is a kind and loving community if your responses to me are any indication. Fare thee well my friends.
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you made me smile Ms Katniss...I needed to smile thank you
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and the hits just keep on coming... Bon Voyage to John Glenn, a true American hero.
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they always come in threes :-( Gotta appreciate every moment we have.... RIP John, and I still miss Jerry
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Memorial 6pm (check for time) Dead.net/chatFar from home at a fest bigger than my dreams I would look up to realize I was left and alone except for Critter. who would always be patiently waiting leaning on his walking stick for me to come up for air just so I wouldn't feel alone and lost. The world will miss ppl like you and for every grateful to have know you. TY. ~Once in a awhile you get shown the light in the stranges ploaces if you look at it right~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKOZvuKAzBw
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sorry for your loss :-(
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I'm still in a state of shock. He was 39 years at least that is what his mom said. Too soon to be gone. He went through me loosing both my parents. He was there to always lend a word of encouragement and support. He came to CA to go to see Furthur in 2010 and stayed with me for a few days after the show. I took him to the Redwoods and to the Coast. It was one of thoses days I will never forget. But what really stands out was how he gathered all the dead heads who visited the website DeadVids to get together. His enthusiasm and willingness to say the words come to the show had a way on all of us. He gathered bunches of folks to meet and greet at shows and then dance the night away. Because of him I met some of my dearest friends to this date. I know he left this world a better place and I will miss his late night phone calls and him calling me khatters. Rest in Peace Scotty you will always be in my thoughts. My life is richer because you were in it.
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Wow, I am shocked at this sad news. Scotty was such an enthusiastic deadhead. I don't know the details, but I wish him well on the next leg of his journey...
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~Hal Rowe~ (Will also add Wasserman and Deadication to canyoncritter/Scott Mattson) (~);-)Join me as I co-host the Vinyl Hour with Ned this Thursday evening as we listen to the songs of those who are gone, 2016. 92.3 KYRS at 8:00 PST. Also can be streamed, just go to the KYRS website. We will be playing the music of David Bowie, Jim Boyd, Leon Russell, Guy Clark, Prince, Mose Allison, Paul Kantner, Leonard Cohen and more. Hope you can join us. Extra bonus, it isn't just an hour, it's two hours of great tunes.