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  • BobbaLee
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    Mornduvt Our thoughts are with you and your son. Speaking from 20 years experience of listening to my wife Candy(PHd and currently has 3 people on suicide watch) work with many who thought life would be better if they ended it--It won't be. Your friends and parents will never get over it. The pain many think goes away by taking that step comes back and hurts those that really care multiplied uncountable times. Perhaps suggesting that your son become a student counselor to work with fellow students may bring something meaningful and helpful out of this tragedy. Watch the movie "Ordinary People" and talk about it .Your son probably also may harbor feelings of anger at his friend and perhaps feels guilty about it. I am going to sound harsh and if I offend don't take it personally.- Suicide is a selfish act. It is one thing to be in terrible physical pain 80 years old with nothing to look forward to. Adolescent suicide is usually an act of anger towards those people which the child is having a conflict with. It may be no fault of the child and unfair (in the case of bullying) however killing one self is not the answer.It most cases therapy or a very brief hospital stay and willingness to work on improving things would be far better. Sometimes chemical imbalances may account for the depression but not always. If you want to talk off line let me know. And the road goes on forever.... BobbaLee
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    a giant hug to all who knew this boy. My prayers go out to his family and yours.
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    Your poor kid! Peace and healing vibes to your son, the family, and your entire community. Such a thing is bewilderingly painful, I KNOW. Strength to you too, to be there to support your son, but sounds like you got that aplenty!********************************** It's the end of the world as we know it, and I feel fine
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    Light, prayers and healing hugs to your son, family - all the families! I am sorry.
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    i can't imagine....no.......i can't....i'll say an extra prayer for all of you. what a monumental bummer....healing vibes to you and yours.........
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    so sorry to hear this, and comfort to all who loved this kid.
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    A big hug goes out to your boy. Some things in life I guess are never meant to be understood.Peace
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    Warm healing thoughts for you, your son and your whole town. I hope your son's friend at least found the peace he was seeking. Pay attention to your friends, folks. You never know when that funny snort, that odd glance, that moment of wry introspection is really a signal of Something Deeper. Just because it's usually nothing serious doesn't mean that this might not be that one time when all they really needs is a genuine smile from a friend to get them back in the game. Smile on your brother, and your sister, too. Try to love one another right now. Conversation is always more interesting than recitation, so speak your mind and not someone else's.
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    Hey Mornduvt, I will keep all of you in my thoughts
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    Hey Now Friends I am asking for some good vibes for my teenage son, and my whole community. Sorry if this is long-winded. My son has always loved the GD music I played (constantly) - I sang him to sleep (badly) with Ripple when he was a baby & he used to make me rewind Fire on the Mountain and play it over and over when he was about four. He had always said how bummed out he was that he would never get to see the Grateful Dead and have that experience. So when the current Dead tour came around we got some cheap "at least I'm in the show" tix for Albany and Sunday in Worcester. We had a fantastic time. Both shows were fun and he said the Scarlet Fire on Sunday was one of the happiest moments of his life. On Monday that good vibe was shattered. As we were driving home to our small town he received a text message informing him that a friend of his had taken his own life over the weekend. My son was / is devastated. He says that the greatest day of his life was followed by the worst. He can't make sense of it, and neither can I, or anyone else in our community. This was a brilliant, talented, well-liked kid, and nobody can understand how this could happen. So I'm calling out for a cosmic hug for my boy... but also my whole town, and the family of the boy who took his life. I can not begin to imagine what they are going through. Peace to all ~ hug your kids...
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don't worry TL, i'm sure everything is okay. i know it's heart-wrenching but everything will work out. you know what youngsters are like; can't get to a phone, get an offer to chill at a friend's place, living in dream land!! and then they'll admonish you for caring so much!!but for heaven's sake, when you get a chance, please keep us informed. you're all in my thoughts too. take care guys.
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You will find your daughter, soon. We're all praying to make that happen!
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forgot to mention; you're in Germany, right? i have friends living there and other's who are German. if you need any help then let me know and i'll try to get hold of them.
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please ask your friends sure-she went missing in Neunkirchen, which is in Nordrhein-Westfalen. Closest bigger towns are Siegen and Giessen. 10 hours missing now and no word it is getting dark and cold and Sam has nothing with him. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Imena, phone home! TL, I'm so sorry for your worry. I hope she's home safe soon and wondering what you were so upset about. ARGH...
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and no clue********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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hopefully, it's one of those daft things that youngster's do! seems inexplicable that they wouldn't contact you but then funny things get into their heads sometimes.
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...for your daughter Imena. Will let you know what I come up with in a PM. Hopefully, all wil be resolved by then. Don't mistake the power of positive intentions and prayer.
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I'm glad your daughter and friend Sam have been located. I'm sure you're relieved. Best wishes
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How did you find that out Ted?
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They had quite a journey, due to my daughter's cleverness. There was a network of kids assisting their flight (from her Warrior Cats forum) and they were in Cologne, Münster, Mönchengladbach, AND ended up being nabbed by the polizei at the train station on the Reeperbahn in Hamburg. Right now they are in the home of a friend of mine, arranged by another friend, Anja. Ole (where they are now) was on his way to grab them himself for us, but decided it was better to alert the police, in case the kids screamed (they don't know Ole, and didn't want him nailed by the cops as a pervert, when he was only being kind) The cops made the actual grab, and took them to the station the Reeperbahn, with the scum of Hamburg-where Ole picked them up. They did this journey on 60 euros total and I can barely wait to see her tomorrow and hear the rest of the story. I am so relieved that she is safe, that I am not angry-YET, and yes in a weird way I am proud of her adventurous spirit-we know know that it was Sam's idea and urging that the run, but once they did, she was in charge.********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Will triumph over anger, I think. For a while. I'm so happy that they are safe. TL, I can't imagine how frantic you must have been. Take care...
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oh what a relief TL. I am so happy for you. Been fretting all day. Don't be too hard on her..we have something in common. .I ran away to Hamburg when I was 17 and it took them 4 months to find me :-) Lived in Altona just down from the Reeperbahn. 17 is a bit different from 13 though..kids grow up so fast. still beaming CB
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even if she is too smart for her own good, that one!
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At least when the mouse took off, I had a fairly clear idea wherwe he was...and he came home for clean clothes....
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Thank God for that!! Haven't been able to listen to music or anything.The little rascal ha ha!!!! i guess 13 is the new 17! well, certainly shows she has a sharp mind and is independent; i say good for her. Ya gotta test the waters sometimes! But real happy everyone is safe and well.
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I'll take it upon myself to report that Johnman is still in need and facing homelessness. He has given me an address to send mail to and I am dropping a check in the mail today. Since he has chosen not to post that address, I will not either. However you can PM him or myself for it and you will have the satisfaction of seeing 100% of the donation go to him. And I am also relieved that TL's daughter was found unhurt. Thank God! Perhaps she will learn something about a mother's love from this. In the US it seems like so few of these cases end up with happy endings and that is why in the last ten years first responders have moved up their mobilization to within a couple of hours and we have Amber Alerts. In these two cases please take a moment to reflect what you would have been going through if it was you... and as circumstances change all the time it could very well come to be though I hope it never does for anybody anywhere.
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that I took that particular karma hit for all of you, and that such a thing NEVER happens to you. "How to make your mother into a senior citizen in 2 and a half days" by Imi Peanut. She is home now, and as the panic adrenaline leaves my body, I am alternating between hysterical tears then giggles, and body feels like I am about 90 years old. This too will pass, after some real sleep and some real food. Thanks for caring-everyone who did helped the hanging on! Now back to directing ALL positive vibes and also financial aid to Johnman. I will ask him where to send a check. ********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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ha ha!, bet that heart was a pumpin', eh?!!such good news though. and yes, some real nice food and a good herbal tea (oh, go on then, a damn fine glass of Burgundy!) and it will all seem like a dream! and thanks lamagonzo for the johnman info; i'll PM him and do what i can. September seems to be being particularly fruity this year!! let's hope, after 8 days in, it begins to calm down a wee bit, ha ha!
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For the update, Gonz and TL. I've PM'd johnman...if I don't hear back, I'll try the lamagonzo connection.
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Been gone for a few days and just caught up with your traumas, glad everything worked out in the end. Trust your daughter is fine now?
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is safe and sound, riggsjr! Thanks!********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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Take a moment to remember those who perished 10 years ago. Thank goodness Al Qaeda has lost it's grip on effective destruction. On a much more mundane note, I think the Kansas City Chiefs suck big-time: can we send Pioli back to Boston and Haley back to Phoenix ??!! '9'rs looked good in a late afternoon game.
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the pain I,ve encountered is unbearable , many battles and scars are visible. no longer do i wish to endure . escape is necassary . the tears go unoticed. if you happen upon the one who caused my demise, wish her well . I bid you farewell!
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the pain I,ve encountered is unbearable , many battles and scars are visible. no longer do i wish to endure . escape is necassary . the tears go unoticed. if you happen upon the one who caused my demise, wish her well . I bid you farewell!
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that does not sound good. Talk to us please!!********************************** I am not young enough to know everything. Oscar Wilde
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That spammers will even post in a thread where we're vilifying them. I think that this one is especially egregious, given the theme of the thread and the spammer's solicitation for our prayers! That is just about as low as you can get. Isn't it? Time for Marye to break out the flamethrower, once again...

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Johnman's son, Johnny, revealed on Facebook on December 3, 2021 that our friend and mentor Johnman is not long for this world. Join me in sending grateful thoughts and positive vibes to the man that many of us have never met. God bless you Johnman and best wishes to your son, family and friends.
Update: John did pass away on 12/5/2021. A memorial is planned in January 2022

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My brother Phil is a deadhead from way back -- made it to 95% of all dead shows from '87 to '90 and most of the west coast shows until Jerry passed in '95 (over 200 shows). Some of you might even know him. He's currently fighting for his life with stage 4 cancer and he could use your good vibes.

For more information, search for Phil Burkett on the gofundme site, and thank you.

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i tried to go to the shows in las vegas but had a mental breakdown on the way and had to come back to the mental hospital could really use some friends to chat with...i'm gonna be here awhile!